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post #21 of 33
I would go straight to the lady that told the nursery employee to put the blanket over you. Youre paying to go to that gym, why should you be made to fee uncomfortable? I have worked in the nursery in a gym before with moms nursing uncovered and it was never a big deal...
post #22 of 33
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Originally Posted by Breeder View Post
I'm sorry ... maybe I am misunderstanding.... but she actually covered up your baby while you were holding her?

Boundaries, anyone?

For me that would so not be allowed. I don't care what you were "told" to do, you don't touch my child without my permission. This person's boss does not trump this child's mother. It really doesn't matter if she was being condescending or trying to be helpful. That was over the line.

However, I thought you did beautifully, OP. No need to say anything at all, your DD spoke for you by sweeping off the blanket. You behaved as if nursing is normal, a non-issue. And IMO that is exactly how it should be.

: I would have been bull mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #23 of 33
Myabe that's why I've never seen anyone nursing at my Y... and we're past the point of a need to nip.
I don't think they did it to be nice at all. If that were the case, someone would have asked if you wanted a blanket... not talked about you and then just done it. The worker may have been following orders but the one giving them was in the wrong.
I don't get the stroller thing either. Maybe because the walking trail is only for feet? I know there's a sign at ours that says no bikes or anything motorized. That's all I can think of. Maybe she can try a sling if they don't want wheels on it. IDK. Poeple at my Y stroller their babies right into the pool area still strapped in buckets, so who knows.
Sorry that happened
post #24 of 33
I think that the branch management and/ or the regional office should be contacted. Before I did any kind of protest action I'd want to figure out if it was the bad behavior of an individual or two, or the policy of the larger institution. If the YMCA reacts very supportively toward you, apologizes, and promises to correct the behavior of the individuals, then I'd drop the issue. But if they don't respond or if they defend their employees I would contact LLL. Good for your LO for pulling off the blanket!

As for the stroller on the track .. I have to say that I wouldn't want to see a stroller on a track either and I don't consider myself anti-family or mainstream.
post #25 of 33
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As for the stroller on the track .. I have to say that I wouldn't want to see a stroller on a track either and I don't consider myself anti-family or mainstream.
Help me to understand your point of view because we were truly baffled. The track was the walking area that goes around the basketball court but is up above the court (kind of hard to explain). My friend has some pretty serious health problems and has been told that exercise is imparative. Her baby will not sit in a sling...I have given my friend every sling and baby carrier that I have and her baby hates them. She screams and struggles the entire time she is in one. So we took a small umbrella stroller and were pushing it in our lane and were walking at a pretty fast pace. There were only two other people up there besides us and we did not get in anyone's way. I walked behind my friend and if anyone needed to pass they could. Evidently one of the two people finsihed their walk and then called and complained. We were baffled as to how we were disturbing anyone. So why would you not want to see a stoller on the track? I don't understand.
post #26 of 33
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Help me to understand your point of view because we were truly baffled. The track was the walking area that goes around the basketball court but is up above the court (kind of hard to explain). My friend has some pretty serious health problems and has been told that exercise is imparative. Her baby will not sit in a sling...I have given my friend every sling and baby carrier that I have and her baby hates them. She screams and struggles the entire time she is in one. So we took a small umbrella stroller and were pushing it in our lane and were walking at a pretty fast pace. There were only two other people up there besides us and we did not get in anyone's way. I walked behind my friend and if anyone needed to pass they could. Evidently one of the two people finsihed their walk and then called and complained. We were baffled as to how we were disturbing anyone. So why would you not want to see a stoller on the track? I don't understand.
Do you think the gym would have let her continue using the track if she had had her baby in a sling? As I mentioned earlier, my gym has a very clear "no kids under 14 allowed in the exercise portion of the facility" rule. So when I want to walk with my baby in the jogging stroller (or in a sling, for that matter), I just do it outside rather than at my gym's track. Doesn't bother me a bit.
post #27 of 33
Well, first, I do sympathize with your friend, and I'm sure there are people who would do just fine on the track with a stroller .. but to me people with strollers can be like car drivers on cell phones, they get very unaware of where they are and get chatting and ram into you or just take up a lot of space. And strollers are often dirty (you are not supposed to wear outdoor shoes in most gyms either.) (I do use a stroller on occasion and think they have their place). Now, one stroller on a track might even be ok, but if they fully allowed it - I shudder to think of all the ginormous combo strollers that would take up the track that I was there to run on, you know? Just like it drives me crazy if I'm swimming laps at the gym and kids are spilling into the "lap zone" - it makes me break my concentration. It isn't always about coraling kids, but making sure there is safe, non-distracting space to exercise for people of different ages & abilities I guess. I love bringing my LO to the gym and to the pool, but I just wouldn't bring them to all the parts.

I don't know - now I'm wondering if I'm being a jerk about it, so I'm sorry if I seem overly critical. but that was just my gut reaction when I read your post.
post #28 of 33
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Well, first, I do sympathize with your friend, and I'm sure there are people who would do just fine on the track with a stroller .. but to me people with strollers can be like car drivers on cell phones, they get very unaware of where they are and get chatting and ram into you or just take up a lot of space. And strollers are often dirty (you are not supposed to wear outdoor shoes in most gyms either.) (I do use a stroller on occasion and think they have their place). Now, one stroller on a track might even be ok, but if they fully allowed it - I shudder to think of all the ginormous combo strollers that would take up the track that I was there to run on, you know? Just like it drives me crazy if I'm swimming laps at the gym and kids are spilling into the "lap zone" - it makes me break my concentration. It isn't always about coraling kids, but making sure there is safe, non-distracting space to exercise for people of different ages & abilities I guess. I love bringing my LO to the gym and to the pool, but I just wouldn't bring them to all the parts.

I don't know - now I'm wondering if I'm being a jerk about it, so I'm sorry if I seem overly critical. but that was just my gut reaction when I read your post.
I have several thoughts. First let me say that *in general* I can understand the rule of "if we let you then we have to let everyone" and I myself have often been "black and white and no shades of gray" on things. But on the other hand, I still don't understand why someone complained *in our particular case*. I think that they were probably just being a busybody *in this case* because it was only one stroller and we weren't in anyone's way, etc. It takes a lot to make me complain about something and if I am going to complain, you better be sure that it is about something that affected me personally, so for someone to complain about the stroller in this particular situation...I just don't get it.

My second thought is that the Y touts their "family Christian values" and to *me* this means that they should be willing to work with people when they have special needs. I didn't mention it before because it wasn't really relevant to my original post, but her dd is special needs. She can't put her in childcare, she will not ride in a sling, it is too hot for the baby (in part *because* of her special needs) to walk on the outside track...I just think that instead of listening to the person who complained and having a kick knee reaction, that they could have thought it through a bit more. It bothers me that the person who complains is usually the one who gets the satisfaction simply because they are the squeaky wheel.

They do have a sign posted that children are not allowed in the workout room (the room with the weights and treadmills, etc.) but the only mention about children when it comes to the track is that they must be with their parent.

Lol, sorry, I guess we got a little OT.
post #29 of 33
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They do have a sign posted that children are not allowed in the workout room (the room with the weights and treadmills, etc.) but the only mention about children when it comes to the track is that they must be with their parent.
That's interesting -- in that case, I would talk to management and get them to clearly state their policy regarding strollers.
post #30 of 33
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Originally Posted by Slabobbin View Post
It takes a lot to make me complain about something and if I am going to complain, you better be sure that it is about something that affected me personally, so for someone to complain about the stroller in this particular situation...I just don't get it.
Very true... even if in my head I would have wondered about it, I never would have complained to management in that case.
post #31 of 33
Different situation but this is what happened to me at a YMCA

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...highlight=ymca
post #32 of 33
I would be mad and would talk to the director of the Y. Before last October, I had worked at the Y for 3 yrs, so had 2 nursing babies in that time. I worked in the childcare and nursed there frequently along w/ several moms I am close w/ who worked there as well. We all are members of the same LLL, the Y was overrun w/ bfing moms! I had one mom I remember taking her baby to the lockerroom to nurse, I tried to get her to stay in the room but maybe something like this had happened in the past.
post #33 of 33
OP, have you decided what you're going to do? Sounds like this Y needs some education on the meaning of "family-friendly"!
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