DH's comments after DS's birth

[BlessedMommy2006]

When I was pregnant with our son, we didn't know the gender ahead of time. We talked and joked beforehand and DH said, "Of course I'll be happy either way, but I'd like a boy so that I can see what a real foreskin looks like!"

DH grew up in a circ'ing family and culture and so has had little to no exposure to foreskins. I asked him what he would have done for a son if he had been married to another woman, one who hadn't done her research and he said, "I don't know if I would've even known that not circ'ing was an option."

Anyway, so sweet baby boy is born and gets left intact. DH looks at him and says, "That looks SO cool! It is designed so well and it makes so much sense to leave it that way." He has remarked several other times how neat DS's foreskin is, and said, "I want one of those too!"

I practically teared up over this because I'm so thankful to have a supportive and openminded DH even if he grew up with like zero exposure to foreskins.

Just thought that I'd write this because there are so many posts about DH's who are downright not supportive and I wanted to share a positive story!

[Fyrestorm]

That's awesome!

Has your DH considered restoring?

[LavenderMae]

Your dh speaks the truth!

[BlessedMommy2006]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

That's awesome!

Has your DH considered restoring?

YES! As a matter of fact, we own a TLC tugger! Can you help me get more motivated to encourage my DH to use it? He really wants to restore.

[123]

My dh read the research, but he mostly went along with leaving ds intact because I felt strongly about it. Then after ds was born dh was looking at him and said, "How can they operate on something that little and not mess up?" And I told him that sometimes they do mess up. After that he was a lot more confident in the decision.

Now 4.5 years later, dh is restoring. Parenting is a journey that can affect us in a lot of different ways.

Editing to reply to the op's last post. If you want motivation for him, just have him use the TLC for a few hour a day for a week and see what the difference in sensation is. At least for my dh, the difference was incredible. When he started, he cross taped for several hours a day and the resulting increase in sensation sold him on the idea.

[BlessedMommy2006]

Originally Posted by 123

My dh read the research, but he mostly went along with leaving ds intact because I felt strongly about it. Then after ds was born dh was looking at him and said, "How can they operate on something that little and not mess up?" And I told him that sometimes they do mess up. After that he was a lot more confident in the decision.

Now 4.5 years later, dh is restoring. Parenting is a journey that can affect us in a lot of different ways.

I agree. DH and I both agreed that DS's penis was small enough as is. Cutting anything off of it, sounded like insanity to us.

[thixle]

Yep, my DH saw a newborn boy in the hospital nursery and was awestruck (really, that's the right word)... He said something like "How could anyone even think to cut that off?"

This is a really helpful forum/site/chat for restoring men and partners. Very knowledgable, welcoming group! http://www.foreskinrestorationchat.info/

[KaylaBeanie]

: That's so great!

Of course in a perfect world, I'll marry someone who is intact. However, I'd joyfully take one like your hubby too

[Ron_Low]

Originally Posted by thixle

He said something like "How could anyone even think to cut that off?"

So true. And you see it and it's not like there's an obvious demarkation where the penis ends and the foreskin begins. It's all penis. What we call the foreskin is just he part that's easiest to cut off.