Originally Posted by LadyCatherine185
We had yet another night of 10+ wakings, and up this morning at 5 AM!! Oh, and he wouldn't go to sleep last night until 9 PM!! That is only 8 hours of BROKEN SLEEP!
I will look up Valerian tincture and see what I can find on it. Maybe I need to find a holistic ped (do those exist??). I posted another thread on seeing a sleep specialist. I dont even know of any in my area, or if they'd be able to help or just tell me to let him CIO. WHY isn't there more support and more answers for babies who don't sleep!? WHY is it always assumed that they don't sleep because they are being manipulative and need to CIO?
This is a serious problem. It is deeply affecting our family and our quality of life. There HAS TO BE an answer other than to let him CIO.
I know all to well what your going through. I went through the same thing with my now 3 yr old. He had reflux and dairy allergies until he was 9 months old. Well, still has the dairy allergy, but reflux gone at 9 months. At 5 months he was getting such little sleep that he actually started having tremours that I thought were seizures. At that point I let him stay latched on and nurse all night long. That worked until he was probably 8 months old and then like your baby he started waking every hour or so and screaming out. I also do not like cio and so I went to the library and got every baby sleep book that was anti-cio and started reading. I then prayed for guidance and this is what we did. I will say there was crying involved because he wasn't getting what he wanted, but he was in no way scared. Okay, I'll explain it all so it makes more sense. I put my now 5 yr old in the room with dh and turned on a white noise machine very loud for them. I then put a mattress in the room where I wanted ds to sleep. We also had a white noise machine going in that room. At the time I wanted him to go to sleep I would do a routine which for us was putting on jammies, singing a song, and praying. I would then nurse him and lay him down in his crib. As he would stand up I would lay him back down and say night night. It took quite some time, but once he would lay down and stay down I would rub either his back or belly depending on which way he was laying in large circles. He did cry during the process. Then once he would wake up the process would start again. The first two nights I did let him nurse otherwise you get engorged. Nap time I did the same thing, but never did it for more than an hour and if he didn't go to sleep, I just didn't bother after an hour. I was most concerned at first about night time sleep. I also always let him come to bed with me when he woke about an hour or so before the family got up. That way he still got snuggle time with mommy. That was something he actually weaned himself from. A few of the most important things are if you start getting aggraviated to the point you think you are going to hurt your baby, you need to leave the room and cool off. Wheather that means someone else takes over or you just leave baby until you calm down. That part I hated, but my dh wouldn't help me and I knew if I didn't leave I was going to lose it. I think the most important thing also was to keep a journal. If it would not have been for that journal I would never have seen the progress. It was little at first, but it was there. I would write down when you first started the process, when baby went to sleep, when baby woke and so on. It took us a few weeks if not a month, but for me it was so much better than cio. After the entire process of me staying consistent it worked and he has been sleeping through the night for quite some time now and taking naps too. He only wakes when he has night terrors
or has had dairy to eat. I will say my opinion is that babies with reflux learn to wake frequently due to the pain and you have to gently help them learn to sleep again. We now see a kinesologist that has helped with the night terrors and had I known him then I would have probably started there. Hopefully I haven't left anything out of what we did. My son was a hard case and it worked for him and we tryed EVERYTHING. Let me know if you do try it and if it works for your baby. I would not try cio and don't feel what I did was cio. Even in Dr. Sears book he says when a parent is there gently helping the child to sleep it's not cio. Good luck