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post #21 of 45
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www.tightlycurly.com is a good site too.
the website indeed is interesting, thanks:

BUT: did anyone try the method of leaving conditioner in the hair?? i am a little sceptic whether it is really good for the hair to leave the conditioner in it and not to rinse it.....
post #22 of 45
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the website indeed is interesting, thanks:

BUT: did anyone try the method of leaving conditioner in the hair?? i am a little sceptic whether it is really good for the hair to leave the conditioner in it and not to rinse it.....
Yes, I have before with my older DSD and have tried it this past week with DD. IT works well, once it's dried it holds shape so much better, beautiful little curls. It almost looks like it's got gel or mouse in it or something, but not that glossy shiny crunchy stiffness that comes with styling product. DD is only 15 months, so I'm sure on a longer head of hair the result will be beautiful.
post #23 of 45
Thanks for the curly website. I am German and Black but my father is a medium toned black with medium hair and my hair was curly at a younger age and now straight like a white person's now....I think the protein diminishes with age....

My daughter has african hair but is a fragile combination and I really do not like hot ironing it, etc. It damages her hair and I want her to enjoy her hair totally natural.

I tried the mixed chicks hair products and it is very gentle. It does curl the hair more, but it keeps it softer.

Hair care can be complicated and maybe a specialist should evaluate the hair and scalp. Scalps are sensitive too and dandruff is a result of an imbalance and maybe bacterial infections.....That is common in many hair types.
post #24 of 45
My son is 1/4 black 3/4 lots of other things (mostly european) and I wash his hair with dr bronners peppermint soap about once or twice a week and use organic shakkaki conditioning rinse in it once a week. I also put coconut oil in it and comb it through at least once a week. He never has dandruff or itchy scalp.
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the website indeed is interesting, thanks:

BUT: did anyone try the method of leaving conditioner in the hair?? i am a little sceptic whether it is really good for the hair to leave the conditioner in it and not to rinse it.....
yep, i can second that the result is wonderful. i shampooed my dd yesterday and followed the instructions and voila! Curly Sue appeared this morning. and she loooooooooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeeee eeeeessssssssssssssssssss it. the instructions were dead on!
post #26 of 45
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Hair care can be complicated and maybe a specialist should evaluate the hair and scalp. Scalps are sensitive too and dandruff is a result of an imbalance and maybe bacterial infections.....That is common in many hair types.
unfortunately the skalp of my dd got worse again, it itches and is very dry with some dandruff.: so i think i will see a dermatologist next week!
post #27 of 45
If its true dandruff its not a matter of dry skin, its actually a fungus of sorts and conditioning wont help, imof it might make it worse since if "moisturizes" the skin a leaves a breeding ground.

You can use tea tree oil, or the vinegar might help, but i would probably see a dermatologist.

Is it dry and flaky or is it more of an oily residue?
post #28 of 45
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Is it dry and flaky or is it more of an oily residue?
its definitely dry and flaky!
post #29 of 45
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yep, i can second that the result is wonderful. i shampooed my dd yesterday and followed the instructions and voila! Curly Sue appeared this morning. and she loooooooooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeeee eeeeessssssssssssssssssss it. the instructions were dead on!

but do you think it is good for the hair to leave a cosmetic product for so long in it? arent you afraid that it will damage the hair somehow?
post #30 of 45
Thank you all for all the websites!!! I have a half African, half me DD and did not have a clue what I was doing with her hair. Tonight I wet it and conditioned it, left it in and did the little curls like tightlycurled.com said and it is cute! Easy and looks so much better THANK YOU!
post #31 of 45
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its definitely dry and flaky!
Well could it be an allergic reaction to something she is using? Or eating?

How offten do you brush her hair?

Maybe try getting a soft bristled toothbrush and then some coconut oil, or other type of oil and brushing (very softly) of her scalp.
post #32 of 45
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Well could it be an allergic reaction to something she is using? Or eating?

How offten do you brush her hair?

Maybe try getting a soft bristled toothbrush and then some coconut oil, or other type of oil and brushing (very softly) of her scalp.
thanks for the advice!

we went to the dermatologist yesterday but off course he suggested to leave it like it is: he said dd is too young to use any kind of chemicals on her scalp (off course i agree on that one, but am a bit frustrated that he couldnt name me a reason for the dandruff).

the dandruff dissappears from time to time (like now) but eventually comes back. then i will try the toothbrush
post #33 of 45
her hair sounds like my brothers except he is 100% black. My mom doesn't use shampoo, she just washes with herbal essences hello hydration or hydralicious conditioner (no "cones" or silicones) in it and uses this to just scrub a little over two weeks. Every two weeks she uses Dr. Bronners peppermint oil soap and washes/scrubs his hair and scalp ONCE and rinses it. She then puts some stuff I make for her called Shealoe in his hair everyday but she puts in on his scalp not the hair and massages it into his head then brushes it through. As I said she repeats the oiling everyday, co-washes every 2-3 days, and washes with Dr. Bronners every two weeks. It worked wonders because his skin and everything was dry since he had eczema really bad and flakes that were huge and would fly up everywhere.

The recipe for shealoe is:
-Shea butter( I like the yellow kind) and you can get it from any african store.
-Aloe gel that I get from walmart but you can get it anywhere I believe.
-Coconut oil-health food section in my store
-pure glycerin-I get mine from CVS
When you get the shea butter smooth it out with a spoon so there are no chucks and just add all the ingredients above and mix together and there's Shealoe.

Sorry for writing a book I just wanted to be detailed. Let me know if that helps.
post #34 of 45
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@futurmama8

cool, thanks i like the shealoe recipe, i will definetly try it out! (once i bought the ingredients)
post #35 of 45
How often do you completely wet her hair/scalp between washings? I'm biracial myself and find that drenching my hair in the shower between washings does wonders for my scalp. I'm not saying you should do this everyday, but it might help.

Also, I love love love the products from Blended Beauty. They're too expensive for me to use all the time (although much less expensive than the cost of keeping my hair relaxed- never again!). There are product lines for different levels of curliness and also milder versions for children. Best of all, they're paraben and SLS free.
post #36 of 45
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How often do you completely wet her hair/scalp between washings? I'm biracial myself and find that drenching my hair in the shower between washings does wonders for my scalp. I'm not saying you should do this everyday, but it might help.

Also, I love love love the products from Blended Beauty. They're too expensive for me to use all the time (although much less expensive than the cost of keeping my hair relaxed- never again!). There are product lines for different levels of curliness and also milder versions for children. Best of all, they're paraben and SLS free.
hello psychethemuse

thank you for the link, i looked it up and think i may try the products! i will be in the us next month (me and our dd live in germany but will be visiting my ex/her dad in july). but you can only shop online there, right?
anyway, i will buy a few products for dd and try them out there (we will stay for 4 whole weeks)

i used to wash her hair/scalp only every 2-4 weeks because her hair/scalp is soooo sensitive and dry. also, her hair/scalp was never really dirty because she wears a cap during preschool (she joins an outdoor-perschool) so there was no real need to wash/rinse more often.

recently she has been itching so much that i followed your advice and rinsed it in the shower about once a week. i dont really see a difference, she still itches but maybe it will change soon?
post #37 of 45
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Also, I love love love the products from Blended Beauty. They're too expensive for me to use all the time (although much less expensive than the cost of keeping my hair relaxed- never again!).
BTW, is it common to relax childrens' hair in the usa? my ex lives in LA and i am very curious to see what kind of hairstyles are fashionable for black/or biracial kids with curls. the black people i see here in germany already relax children's hair a lot or put in faked braids, even when they are very young. off course it looks nice, but i dont think it is necessarily good for the real hair.

i keep my dd's hair all natural, i usually braid it in simple styles during the week and a few times i do "special" braids for certain occasions (birthday etc.).

i want to "teach" her to value and love her beautiful curly hair, even though it may need more/different treatment than streight hair (she is very sensitive when it comes to washing/touching/braiding her hair, even though i try to be careful). i want her to be proud of her look and she should not "hide" her heritage by wanting to look like "white" people. i would never relax her hair! and i hope that she will have enough self-confidence by the time when she can decide for herself.

so, after all, my question is: do a lot of mothers relax their children's hair where you live/in the us generally?
post #38 of 45
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the website indeed is interesting, thanks:

BUT: did anyone try the method of leaving conditioner in the hair?? i am a little sceptic whether it is really good for the hair to leave the conditioner in it and not to rinse it.....
I always leave a small amount of conditoner in my hair and DS's. It is easier to comb, and as someone said before, dries into nice glossy curls. I tried Kinky-Curly last month, and I am in love!!!!!

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BTW, is it common to relax childrens' hair in the usa? my ex lives in LA and i am very curious to see what kind of hairstyles are fashionable for black/or biracial kids with curls. the black people i see here in germany already relax children's hair a lot or put in faked braids, even when they are very young. off course it looks nice, but i dont think it is necessarily good for the real hair.

i keep my dd's hair all natural, i usually braid it in simple styles during the week and a few times i do "special" braids for certain occasions (birthday etc.).
I don't personally know anyone that with children under the age of 12 that have relaxers, mixed or not. I think that people of my cohort and our parents realized that relaxers are far from the ideal, and delay the process until the child is much older. Many of the teens with which I am familar do not relax either. However that is not to say that people don't relax the hair of children, because when I visit certain places and areas, I am more likely to see children who are young as age three with processed hair.

That is not to say though that relaxing the hair of a child is not common. I would almost want, from experience, to say that I have witnessed trends based upon economics and the education level of the parent. There seems to be a trend amongst educated black women/mothers of black children to not relax, and many women my age seem to be on the road to natural or wanting to go natural but are afraid.


Braids with extensions are useful if the stylist does not braid tightly. I am not a fan of braids, but if I had a daughter I would have her hair braided with extra hair if she were going to camp or to spend time with relatives who might not have time or hair care knowledge.
post #39 of 45
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I always leave a small amount of conditoner in my hair and DS's. It is easier to comb, and as someone said before, dries into nice glossy curls. I tried Kinky-Curly last month, and I am in love!!!!!
thanks.

my question was more meant like: is it good for the hair to leave conditioner in it for such a long time? doesnt it damage the hair at all?
post #40 of 45
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thanks.

my question was more meant like: is it good for the hair to leave conditioner in it for such a long time? doesnt it damage the hair at all?
For me, it has worked wonders. My hair is curly and dry, so I have benefitted from allowing some to remain. I also use Suave, the cheapest conditoner known to man!
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