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post #61 of 100
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Originally Posted by Breeder View Post
We serve hotdogs AND notdogs - asking for a preference on the RSVP.
Notdogs? Are those a vegetarian alternative, or something else?

So far, except for ds1 (he's 16), the only kids who come to my children's parties are the cousins. That's probably one of the reasons I haven't tried harder to find alternatives...as junky as my family's diet is by MDC standards, we're the health food nuts in my extended family (well, us and my mom)!
post #62 of 100
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Originally Posted by MittensKittens View Post
Here's a few that might actually shock MDC-ers

* I would not leave my kids in the care of a man
* I don't like the idea of dressing my son in pink
* I am a feminist who doesn't like abortion
I'm sure I'll get in trouble for this... but I can never keep my mouth shut.

I have yet to meet ANYONE who "likes" abortion. I'm pro-choice but I'm not like "Hooray for abortions! They are great!" I would never have one myself but I am not going to tell anyone else what they can or can not do with a cluster of cells with the potential to become a baby. (which is what an early abortion is). Most people I know who have had one didn't like it either in fact.

I know it's all semantics. But that's why people think feminists and pro-choice people in general are a bunch of baby hating abortion lovers. You can support reproductive choice and still dislike the actual act of abortion.
post #63 of 100
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
Notdogs? Are those a vegetarian alternative, or something else?

So far, except for ds1 (he's 16), the only kids who come to my children's parties are the cousins. That's probably one of the reasons I haven't tried harder to find alternatives...as junky as my family's diet is by MDC standards, we're the health food nuts in my extended family (well, us and my mom)!
Notdogs are a funny name for veggie dogs. We know a ton of vegetarians so we always have them.
post #64 of 100
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I have yet to meet ANYONE who "likes" abortion.
post #65 of 100
I cannot like it on the grounds that someone is in a situation she reeeeaaaalllllyyyy doesn't want to be in (pregnant) and for that, the situation is already unfortunate.

I'm also controversial in that I think adoption, especially open adoption, with good people can be a very beautiful thing. I have seen it in my own family.

I am kinda controversial in that I support alternative lifestyles and alternative ways of building your family (IVF, sperm donation, egg donation, adoption, surrogacy) and view them as valid as old fashioned sex.

Or am I really controversial? I'm not famous or outspoken irl, so maybe it's more that I take certain sides in certain controversies?
post #66 of 100
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Originally Posted by lindsayjean View Post
Oh wait. I did know that! HAHAHA.

I posted something on my facebook status about it being the perfect day and the only thing that might make it better was someone buying me some sushi LOL. And people were like WHAT, YOU CAN'T EAT SUSHI WHEN YOU'RE PREGNANT. I laugh because most of them don't know HALF of how controversial my dietary and pregnancy views are. We drink raw milk, eat raw cheese, and I even put raw egg in my smoothies (this is all grassfed from a local source- we eat a traditional foods diet, see the forum on here if you don't know what I'm talking about). I'm having a homebirth. I *gasp* will have a glass of wine every once in a while. I cloth diaper (although surprisingly that's not as controversial as it was when I did it with my first, it's catching on!!). I am an extended nurser. I selectively and delayed vax. May not even vax at all this time. Will NOT circ my son. So many more.... don't get me started even on my unconditional parenting approach and that *gasp* my daughter will never have a time out or a spanking.

Oh man... sometimes I wish I could just publish all the controversial things I do for the world to see. I can't wait until we have our baby so I can announce that he was "born at home on this date and is this big" LOL. I'm sure that will get some confusion going.

Does anyone else think it's kind of funny how controversial they are? I would never think being so natural could be so opposite of mainstream. I never even thought of myself as THAT non-mainstream until I see JUST how mainstream most of my in real life friends/family are. I used to be ashamed and try to hide my differences, especially when I was a first time mom... but now I just feel so confident in my decisions, knowing that I am doing the right thing for my family that I don't CARE what people think. But I am also not looking to publish it all or actually CREATE controversy- my husband is a youth pastor so I do have to be kind of careful not to isolate myself lol.

SOOOO.... in what ways are you controversial??
Depends what circle I am in but these are the ways in which I am controversial, again depending on who I am around...

-It's superficial but I dress 'differently'
-I homeschool
-I smoke(cigarettes)
-I don't watch television(I do watch random stuff on the web though)
-I am radically against circumcision
-I have extremely strong feelings about child rights and liberation
-I don't spank or yell or punish
-my son does not have a set bedtime
-I am for early academics, early reading, accelerating learning, not forcing learning but for exposure early to accelerated ideas
-I am almost always against the use of pesticides
-I'm an anarchist
-I'm an atheist
-I am in most cases against day care
-I am flexible and change my mind when I get new information...

The last is sort of a disclaimer for the above but simply true ...I try not to stick by something in a fanatic sort of way(sometimes it is hard) mainly because I don't want to turn people off and also because I try to research my choices ,philosophies. They evolve as time goes on.There are sometimes exceptions for the things I believe in , even if i believe in them strongly.
post #67 of 100
We do all that natural living and parenting stuff which, of course, makes us weird. But around here, I'd say these are my controversial things (which I rarely discuss, but hey!)

-I really dislike organized religion of all sorts. I see no ultimate good in it, no overall redeeming quality for the population at large.
-I don't know that I believe that monogamy is necessary or even beneficial to relationships. Sure, if both of you agree that's what you want, that's wonderful, but I don't think the presence of monogamy necessarily indicates a healthier relationship than otherwise.
-I'm an anarchist
-I believe strongly in reincarnation and have definitive memories of at least one of my past selves. It's not something I regularly discuss but it is an integral part of who I am. On the other hand, I frankly would prefer I not remember.
-Most people, quite honestly, annoy the living daylights out of me. I'm definitely a loner and have no problem with this whatsoever.

I'm sure there's more, but that's what sticks out at the moment.
post #68 of 100
This is fun!

I sleep with dd (almost 4) while dh sleeps in a different room, I nurse my four year old, I'm pagan, I played "I was stabbed by Satan" (a most excellent human rights dance song by K'naan) to my toddler, I eat mostly local food, I love and practise permaculture, I've been a sometime-civil-disobedient human rights activist since 14, I often wear knee high striped socks and green ankle boots, I stick 1-2 inch long needles into my tummy on a regular basis, ummmm....

I'm also married, white, go to church (unitarian) and will be the president of our local preschool next year. I'm sure that everyone else is as weird as I am, in their own lovely ways...we just all "pass" pretty well.

Oh, and I like sushi.
post #69 of 100
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This is fun!

I sleep with dd (almost 4) while dh sleeps in a different room, I nurse my four year old, I'm pagan, I played "I was stabbed by Satan" (a most excellent human rights dance song by K'naan) to my toddler, I eat mostly local food, I love and practise permaculture, I've been a sometime-civil-disobedient human rights activist since 14, I often wear knee high striped socks and green ankle boots, I stick 1-2 inch long needles into my tummy on a regular basis, ummmm....

I'm also married, white, go to church (unitarian) and will be the president of our local preschool next year. I'm sure that everyone else is as weird as I am, in their own lovely ways...we just all "pass" pretty well.

Oh, and I like sushi.
Okay, you're NOT gonna post that without explaining it to me! Now, woman, right now!
post #70 of 100
I told my sil once that I didn't like Oprah or Dr. Phil.
You'd think I had offended her mother or something. She had never in her life met someone who didn't agree with everything they say.
post #71 of 100
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Originally Posted by momtokea View Post
I told my sil once that I didn't like Oprah or Dr. Phil.
You'd think I had offended her mother or something. She had never in her life met someone who didn't agree with everything they say.
I had a similar experience when I told a friend I read the Left Behind series because I found it funny. :
post #72 of 100
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Originally Posted by Breeder View Post
I'm sure I'll get in trouble for this... but I can never keep my mouth shut.

I have yet to meet ANYONE who "likes" abortion. I'm pro-choice but I'm not like "Hooray for abortions! They are great!" I would never have one myself but I am not going to tell anyone else what they can or can not do with a cluster of cells with the potential to become a baby. (which is what an early abortion is). Most people I know who have had one didn't like it either in fact.

I know it's all semantics. But that's why people think feminists and pro-choice people in general are a bunch of baby hating abortion lovers. You can support reproductive choice and still dislike the actual act of abortion.
OK, I should have been more specific. I believe that abortion is often something other than "reproductive choice", rather something a woman is forced into by either a man, or economic circumstances. You mention that most people you know who have had an abortion "didn't like" it either - I wouldn't go as far as to see I am anti-abortion, but I am darn close to it, mainly because my heart breaks for all those mothers and babies who didn't really get to choose.
post #73 of 100
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Originally Posted by Sailor View Post
Just the other day, one of my partner's employees (whom I know very superficially) asked me if I had any romantic movie recommendations. The first thing that popped out of my mouth was "Secretary", which I actually think is very romantic! Turns out ... apparently, that movie isn't the romance she had in mind. She was actually pretty upset with me, and thought I was playing some type of "sick joke" (her words) on her.

I think that is hilarious... Sorry that you got accused of making "sick jokes" though.
post #74 of 100
A few years ago I inadvertantly started a HUGE controversy at the school I teach at. One of my fourth graders asked one day why we never said the pledge of allegiance (it is not required in Maine) and I just kind of shrugged and said something vague about it not ever being a part of our routine and I asked him if he thought we should. He said no, but then went home and told his parents I said he wasn't allowed to say the pledge. And there started the whole brouhaha. It stunk because politically I just couldn't say that I didn't want to say the pledge in my classroom because I have philosophical objections to it and don't like indoctrinating my students. My poor principal got the brunt of it all--luckily he totally agreed with me. I've also stirred up controversy teaching about evolution, cloning, and GMOs. Next year I'll teach sex ed to my middle schoolers and the kids will care for these robotic babies. I'm going to make them slings and teach them about biologically natural human parent-child relationships. I can't wait to get people wound up about that!
post #75 of 100
I'm loving this thread...very interesting.......

We homeschool....I can't imagine putting my kids into public school. I think a lot of things they teach there, kids don't use when they get older.

I'm a single parent. When female relatives tell me I should find a man to marry and take care of me......I'm like WHY? LOL

I'm self-employed. I did the employee thing for yrs. Dealing with snotty co-workers, someone telling me when I can work, and bad bosses...didn't jive too well for me.

I do believe in a Higher Power, but doubt I'll ever go back to church. Who knows? I went for yrs when I was a kid and an adult, and I hated the I'm-better-than-everyone-else-attitude.

The only men I ever allowed to keep my kids was their dad and my father.

My kids listen to all kinds of music. I allow them to watch PG-13 and R rated movies. I do read the back of the movies. I'm ok with the cursing and some of the violence, but the smut I don't allow. I've watched scary movies since I was a kid.

My dad passed away suddenly in his sleep last year. I sleep in the room he died and his bed. Someone told me that was weird....I never saw ghostly forms or felt spiritual energy until after my dad passed. It changed my views about what happens to the soul after death. Amazing.......

I have no desire to keep up with the Joneses. Fancy cars and fancy clothes have never impressed me. I pity people who put themselves deeper in debt to impress others.

I've always been a loner. Maybe it goes back to being an only child, but I'm wanting to branch out (finally) and find close female friends.

We used cloth diapers on my son. My daughter slept between us for yrs.

The kids don't have a regular bedtime. Thinkin we need one though..

I don't smoke, drink or take drugs. I'm so against the drugging of kids. Makes me angry!

I watch some tv, but not a lot. Find a lot of it completely pointless.

I'm not a political person cause I feel like most politicans don't truly care anymore.

My kids have never been to day care.

I have no problem with walking away from snotty people or someone who isn't loyal, or bad people in general. A lot of people's habits and attitudes are very annoying to me. Maybe that's another reason I've been a loner a lot in life......LOL

I was talking to someone yesterday and I said I felt prositution should be legal, cause it would be safer for the hookers and they'd pay taxes, keep diseases down etc.

I love my country all the way, but I feel we are lacking in so many areas. Our justice system is crazy. We almost want to hurt the victim, and reward the criminal. I think some countries have it together when it comes to their systems about justice and health care etc. I'm for capital punishment.

I used to be totally against abortion.....still am I think...Just don't know what to think anymore with these kids being born to parents who are throwing them into the dumpster, over a bridge, or they're drug addicts. Just don't know.

Interesting thread............
post #76 of 100
NM. It would probably come off the wrong way.
post #77 of 100
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I had a similar experience when I told a friend I read the Left Behind series because I found it funny. :
Oh, good Lord, I've shot my mouth off about that before to the wrong people. But....I found it funny. There was a lot of material there to snark on. Remember how Roger Rabbit couldn't resist finishing the song "Shave and a haircut, TWOOOOO BIIIIIIIIITTTTSSSS!" It's like that expecting me not to make a crack about it.
post #78 of 100
I thankfully live in an area where NONE of these things are very controversial. In fact most people I meet do a lot of the same things! Though there aren't many homeschoolers around.
post #79 of 100
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I had a similar experience when I told a friend I read the Left Behind series because I found it funny. :
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I wish I had thought of that.
post #80 of 100
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Originally Posted by kmeyrick View Post
Okay, you're NOT gonna post that without explaining it to me! Now, woman, right now!
Oh, I have type 1 diabetes, I wear an insulin pump, and I insert my pump sites by hand. The kind I use has a 1 inch inserter needle. I also wear a glucose sensor with a larger gauge needle and insert that by hand into my thigh. 1.5 inches, I think.

Sometimes I have to remember that not all mamas go home and stick a whacking great needle into random body parts. Not that it's not fun.

Sorry if I made anyone :Puke
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