Post Partum Weekly Thread May 17-23 - Page 6

[kdtmom2be]

Put a squirt of breast milk in her gunky eye every time you nurse and it should clear up within 24 hrs.

[lotus.blossom]

Ugh. I am awake with a fussy baby right now. He is just grunting and groaning and not sleepy. I am starting to feel concerned with the amount of spitup thats happening. Especially at night. Seems like he spits up 4-5 or more times after I feed him. Enough that i wonder if he is getting enough nutrients. I wonder if I should feed him again or wait? Its frustrating. I have to change his outfits and wipe him up and change towels underneath us......

I have a ped appt Tues. Of course I will ask him about it.

[OceansEve]

Anna is practically vomiting at least once at night before bedtime. I feed her and dispite burping she pukes it all back up. By the time she's asleep I'm empty. Not a problem during the day, just at night. ? She is gaining weight and no fever, so I guess its one of her quirks.

I second breast milk in the eye and up the nose too, works like a charm.

[Asher]

Totally agree on the breast milk in the eye! DD (4) has had gunk in her eyes for a few days and I've been doing that as well. It's gone today, thankfully. I do it for pink eye with my olders, too (I'll express some in a cup in use a dropper on them, though! .

Baby is still sleeping well. I'm afraid to get too excited that we may have another calm baby! Our first three never slept. We're trying to figure out if the fact that these last two were brn in water has anything to do with it. I'd always heard that water born babies were more laid back, etc., BUT I've also heard that it was just a myth. So far, it's proven true for ours. *fingers crossed*

G still has not had another BM and I'm a little concerned. Tried a warm bath last night and it did not work (he did pee all over, though! ). I had to take a stool softener today and am wondering if it might have any effect on HIM.

I'm not feeling well physically. I felt fine the first few days, but the last I've just been feeling really bad. Hips, back, headache for days (weeks, even). I cannot get the headaches to go away now even with meds. I know I need to get in to see my chiro badly for the other issues and am wondering if the neck and back pain might be contributing to the headache, as well. My bleeding has also increased a lot. It all but stopped at the hospital, but it's started now like it does right after labor/birth. I am NOT overdoing it at all. Matter of fact, all I've been doing is taking care of the baby as DH has been home until Tuesday caring for the other kids. I could understand it getting worse if I was overdoing it. *sigh* I have a 2 week follow up appt. scheduled, but not until the 5th.

[Asher]

Okay, scratch that last one! He pooped! Big ole' diaper full! Now he's filling his tummy back up again. Go mama milk!

[RasJane]

Asher, that's great! Funny how wrapped up we can become in our kids poop, isn't it?

I am sore all over too, mostly from the running on Wed. I'm doing better than I was. I had a talk with ds, and I think I have an idea of whats going on. It's just going to take some time, incl 1 on 1 time with him.
Anyone else feel like they need to just divide yourself in a million pieces to meet everyone's needs? I am feeling so torn apart. It seems all my kids and dh need, need, NEED, so much from me right now. I can't give them enough it seems. And all I want to do is crawl into a very small place with my little girl and disappear for awhile. I was doing pretty well emotionally there for awhile, but I was laying in bed crying again last night. Ugh. I hope this gets better soon.

Aura, like I said, 2 of my kids had bloody belly buttons for awhile. Just keep it clean and it heals up eventually.

Little M is vomiting a lot too. I think it mostly happens when she chokes a bit on my milk when I have a big let down. She doesn't like it, and hiccups like crazy afterwards. She fills right back up though.
It always worries me though, after my experience with ds1. He turned out to be severely allergic to several foods in my diet. Mostly milk. He threw up so much that I was 10 pounds under my pre-preg weight by the time he was 3 months old. That put me at just 100#! Naturally I'm afraid that the same thing will happen again. So far so good though I think.

[Asher]

Originally Posted by RasJane

Anyone else feel like they need to just divide yourself in a million pieces to meet everyone's needs? I am feeling so torn apart. It seems all my kids and dh need, need, NEED, so much from me right now. I can't give them enough it seems.

Yes and it feels like I'm failing them all. I hate this feeling. I don't feel like I'm a good mom on a normal day so add another child that needs even more and the younger two acting up for wanting more attention and me not really being able to do much right now and it's just making me feel like a world class loser of a mom. Like "What did I do and what will I do NOW?"

[Punchy Kaby]

I can not hold it together sometimes, and seriously, I think about you Asher and Sarah, with many other kids and I think, well they are doing it, I can make it through a screaming toddler and a screaming newborn.

I also worry about food allergies. DS had a lot of problems with different foods and we tried all sorts of special diets. He had reflux when he was a baby and so far Violet seems normal, but I am just waiting. She does great during the day but gets fussy at night from 9-11pm. She may just need less stimulation and get to bed earlier. I feel like I am just beginning to get her on a 'schedule'. I have about 6 more weeks before I go back to work and it is so much easier for all parties involved if the baby is on a predictable schedule.

My mom is here for a few days. I always dread her visits. Last summer she was NO help at all with DS, but she seems to be better this time. The most frustrating thing about her is that she is hard of hearing and refuses to wear her hearing aides. So she guesses at what we say about half the time, and she is missing so much of what DS is saying. When I am around I 'translate' for her. She didn't even bring her hearing aides this time: She did offer to make dinner, which is more than th IL's offered to do around here.

I am having a pain in my left ovary, similar to when I ovulate, I wonder if I have a cyst on it? I am not supposed to go in for a check up until 6 weeks PP, but I may go in to have it checked out. What do you ladies think?

Is it still ok to drink RRL tea? I am enjoying it iced, although very weak concentration. What kind of tea is everyone drinking PP?

[Asher]

Originally Posted by Nolansmum

I can not hold it together sometimes, and seriously, I think about you Asher and Sarah, with many other kids and I think, well they are doing it, I can make it through a screaming toddler and a screaming newborn.

I also worry about food allergies. DS had a lot of problems with different foods and we tried all sorts of special diets. He had reflux when he was a baby and so far Violet seems normal, but I am just waiting. She does great during the day but gets fussy at night from 9-11pm. She may just need less stimulation and get to bed earlier. I feel like I am just beginning to get her on a 'schedule'. I have about 6 more weeks before I go back to work and it is so much easier for all parties involved if the baby is on a predictable schedule.

My mom is here for a few days. I always dread her visits. Last summer she was NO help at all with DS, but she seems to be better this time. The most frustrating thing about her is that she is hard of hearing and refuses to wear her hearing aides. So she guesses at what we say about half the time, and she is missing so much of what DS is saying. When I am around I 'translate' for her. She didn't even bring her hearing aides this time: She did offer to make dinner, which is more than th IL's offered to do around here.

I am having a pain in my left ovary, similar to when I ovulate, I wonder if I have a cyst on it? I am not supposed to go in for a check up until 6 weeks PP, but I may go in to have it checked out. What do you ladies think?

Is it still ok to drink RRL tea? I am enjoying it iced, although very weak concentration. What kind of tea is everyone drinking PP?

We've been there...and honestly, when you're there dealing with it, your stress is no less than someone with more. I hope that makes sense.

Babe slept so well last night...probably TOO well. He didn't want to eat much and I ended up soaked with milk. Oy. And waking him up to feed him? He wakes when he wants to and if you try to put anything in his mouth when he doesn't want it, he clamps his gums down and purses his lips so tight that it's impossible.

Last day with help here. Not freaked, yet. Actually thinking about taking the tot and the baby to the mall tomorrow. I do not fit in any of my pre-pregnancy clothes any more and I need clothes badly. I'm down 8lbs from where I started in pregnant, but don't be impressed. These clothes were ones that I wore when I was 32lbs heavier before I got pregnant and I never bought any more. I need both shirts and pants badly b/c these all hang on me. Just trying to figure out how to try on pants with a baby in the sling b/c I have NO clue what size I wear right now. Also want to hit OUAC and get a few more preemie outfits for G. Just wondering if I am totally insane for attempting a 45m each way drive by myself with a newborn and only a tot in the back seat. She is capable of giving him a paci, but that's about it other than singing to him which she swears makes him happy.

[catilina]

Oh...I am so tired! I can deal with the night-nursing but DD is grunting ALL.NIGHT.LONG. That I can't deal with! She sleeps so well during the day, but at night she grunts and groans and struggles. I think she is struggling with gas and trying to poop. She usually finally goes at about 4 a.m., but she literally fusses all night long until then (and sometimes, like last night, even after). I don't know what to do for her, and for us, so we can all get some sleep, comfortably. DS pooped every time he ate, and I remember him grunting a lot the first few nights of his life, but after that he slept fine unless he was hungry. She is such a different baby than he was! Any suggestions?

[~Katie~]

Catalina - Have you tried doing position changes with her at night? Laine tends to do that after we side-lie to nurse and if I prop her up on my shoulder with her legs froggied up she'll poop or burp or whatever she needs to do and go back to sleep.

Asher - I have to do several trips like that to my midwife and for ped appointments, it will be interesting to see how it goes to say the least.

My MIL is leaving on Wednesday. I feel a lot more confident now than I did before Laine was born in being able to take care of the two of them on my own. DS is taking advantage of the fact that he can play off the two of us and get away with things because the levels of discipline are different, I think once everything settles down we'll get back into a routine. Laine's cord fell off so last night she had her first bath with me and absolutely loved it, I think I have another water baby. So far she is the complete opposite of DS at this age, she nurses so well and I've had no pain at all. She is content to sleep and then look around peacefully, she's pretty much happy wherever we put her.

Reflecting back on her birth, I feel like I've done so much healing in so many areas of my life because of it. There really is no other way I could have pictured her birth being aside from DH being here. Since we couldn't make that happen I feel like I got the next best thing. My PP period has been so much better, I understand now what people mean when they say they fall in love with their babies right away. I still feel a lot of regret for how the newborn period went with DS but I think this is allowing me to heal some of that and move on from it. I just feel over-all like a much better mother and person, kind of like I had an "enlightenment".

[CookAMH]

Originally Posted by catilina

Oh...I am so tired! I can deal with the night-nursing but DD is grunting ALL.NIGHT.LONG. That I can't deal with! She sleeps so well during the day, but at night she grunts and groans and struggles. I think she is struggling with gas and trying to poop. She usually finally goes at about 4 a.m., but she literally fusses all night long until then (and sometimes, like last night, even after). I don't know what to do for her, and for us, so we can all get some sleep, comfortably. DS pooped every time he ate, and I remember him grunting a lot the first few nights of his life, but after that he slept fine unless he was hungry. She is such a different baby than he was! Any suggestions?

Ezra does that some and it keeps me up. We had to put his cradle out in the hall and it solved it. I am still able to hear him when he fully awakes for eating. I burp him after feeding but sometimes he just doesn't burp.

[Mama Rana]

Hi. I'm about 5 days post-partum. Things are going great. So well, in fact, that I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop!

DS is nursing well, sleeping well, fairly laid back [and he was a c/s birth, not a water birth]. My nipples hurt though.

nAk more later

[catilina]

I have tried position changes and burping and everything! I'm not ready to move her out of our room yet. I am afraid to move her out of our room because her grunting-to-poop noises sound so similar to her grunting-to-eat noises, I'm afraid I would just ignore her completely when she is actually hungry!

Katie, I'm so glad your birth experience went so well. I feel the same way about mine. It was just perfect, and I am still so excited about it It is really amazing what our bodies can do, isn't it?

[lightheartedmom]

Originally Posted by catilina

Oh...I am so tired! I can deal with the night-nursing but DD is grunting ALL.NIGHT.LONG. That I can't deal with! She sleeps so well during the day, but at night she grunts and groans and struggles. I think she is struggling with gas and trying to poop. She usually finally goes at about 4 a.m., but she literally fusses all night long until then (and sometimes, like last night, even after). I don't know what to do for her, and for us, so we can all get some sleep, comfortably. DS pooped every time he ate, and I remember him grunting a lot the first few nights of his life, but after that he slept fine unless he was hungry. She is such a different baby than he was! Any suggestions?

Oh man! I'm having the same problem! I don't remember DD1 doing this as much...but Chloe grunts ALL night long. She sounds like I did when I was pushing her out (minus the screaming). It seems like it's related to stuff I eat during the day but I'm still trying to figure out what foods set her off and I have a feeling it's all the things I want to eat these days (chocolate, vegetables, things that have color in them). So far I definitely know that anything green, even lettuce, sets her off, as well as tomatoes, spicy food and my favorite peanut-butter chocolate soy ice cream. Pretty lame, kiddo...mom wants to eat yummy food, not chicken and rice.
We're still figuring things out, but if I have a night where things get better, I'll let you know. Until then, I feel your pain!

[OceansEve]

Failing as a mom + feeding all night long - I felt like that something fierce after DD2 was born mostly because I wasn't getting any sleep DD2 was a constant feeder and I was so paranoid about smothering her I couldn't sleep at all, but it was the only choice since she refused to sleep in her crib, she screamed and screamed if we tried. I wish I could offer a solution, but DD2 STILL doesn't sleep through the night. It has gotten much better since we took dairy fat out of her diet, she actually acts like a kid now instead of screaming and crying almost all the time.

Anna grunts and groans all night too. Neither of my other girls did this. She really is trying to poop cause she has a little bit of poop in almost every diaper then finally gets a good one in the morning, but poor kid seems to be struggling with it. I think that might have something to do with the vomiting, like she's pushing the wrong muscle or something trying so hard to poop..... dunno.....

Today was my first day alone and it went wonderful. I was so afraid it was going to be a disaster, but it was great. I guess that means tomorrow will bite hm?

[Punchy Kaby]

Katie- so glad your birth experience was good this time around. It makes all the difference! Mine was so much better and I feel like DD and I are off to a much better start.

Laura-DD grunts a lot at night too. WE had been co sleeping because that was the only way she kept quiet. But a few nights ago I started swaddling her and she seems to really like that. She is in the bassinet right next to me now. DD grunts every time she poops, and it is just about every time I feed her.

I am really wanting to lose the baby weight, even though I am only 2 weeks PP. I have 15 lbs to lose to get back to where I started. I don't even remember how long it took me last time, although I had to try elimination diets last tiime and lost a bunch of weight because of that. I would like to start exercising, I have started walking. I also want to get one of those 'lose the tummy books.'

Anyone drinking any herbal teas? what is good for PP? I have plenty of milk, so I don't need an herb for that

[ladydodson]

wow. my little girl is a grunter, too! completely different from her older sibs...lol.

and she spits up constantly during her early morning wakings...perhaps i cant side lie nurse? how will i survive?

im happy/yet still perplexed that i read this thread and see that a lot of you mamas are experiencing the same thing...but i wish i knew what to do.

maybe i'll try propping us up on pillows and nurse her in the crook of my arm tonight...see if that helps w/ the grunting and fidgeting...poor baby. she sleeps like a ROCK between 7pm and 3am tho...i have to encourage her to wake up and eat, even...perhaps i should just start going to bed earlier...a LOT earlier.

i have to wait til her older brother goes down tho..and that isnt until 9ish...

its eleven now, i need to go to bed!