Originally Posted by calpurnia
yeah. this is where i am leaning too. i would get the DNA test done - it may be expensive but frankly i'd be throwing money at this problem by now - & hope that that stops the whole fuss in its tracks. i would consider taking the DNA results & whatever documentation is necessary direct to country B & applying for your son's citizenship there. i would strongly avoid anything that means getting country C more involved. it sounds like the country B embassy in country C, where you initially applied for son's passpo (have i got this right?!) just is taking a personal interest, kwim, since there cannot be any regulations on where a citizen can give birth outside of country B, nor, surely, can they have someone taken into care - sounds like you've raised the warning flags of someone at country B embassy & that's why they are talking about country C cps etc. give them DNA results & anything else but don't let CPS get involved if you can help it - perhaps produce a reference or something from a respectable friend - a teacher/lawyer, something like that, to verify that your son is yours, you received prenatal care, you are an attentive mother...?
Yes, you have got everything right. DNA test is on its way - that is, I'm waiting for the money to come into my regular account, from my savings account. Of course, I am more than willing to spend whatever it take IF that were to solve the problem. I asked them straight, whether they would give me a birth cert and put him in my passport without further hassle once I got the DNA tests. I told them I would go to wherever they tell me to get the DNA test. (They advised a certain lab for bloodwork. When I called them, it turned out that this lab does not do DNA analysis at all! I then found out about one other lab through the internet.)
Still, they said that they did not guarantee at all that they would cause no further problems after a DNA analysis, which is the major reason I have not done it already - if that said it would solve all problems, I'd have done it last century, kwim? Joe Biden is visiting the country today so nobody is working, but my lawyer is supposed to go there tomorrow to get more info as to whether or not a DNA test would definitely solve the problem, and whether the lab in question would be acceptable for them, since the one they proposed does not do the test.
In the meantime, I have done extensive reading into the laws of both country B and country C. Unless UC and non vaxing can be considered severe medical neglect, they have no business hassling me. UC, or birth choices in any shape or form (apart from abortion right for a woman) are not detailed in the law of country C. I am pretty certain that, with their attitudes, they would, in fact, argue that UC is severe medical neglect. But with no foundation, except that nobody does it here. One glance at whatever random L&D facility would be enough for any sane person - even one who is normally opposed to UC - to conclude that giving birth in a clean home, with adequate birth supplies, is MUCH more safe.
I am not going to allow local SS to search my house to see if there is anything else they can find that they don't like - which they would, of course. One thing I don't like about the law in country C, is that they always leave space for interpretation by some bureaucrat. the law lists what constitutes neglect, and then adds "and any other form of neglect that the court decides upon, not listed in this law. And how am I supposed to argue with that? So yes, I do not want to deal with country C's sexist, outdated and doctor-worshipping institutions.
But, I can't fully grasp the potential consequences of just heading to country B to solve it either. I have had other unpleasant experiences with their embassy staff at their embassy in another country before, and they are very "follow the rules". Another possibility would be to go to country A. I have just started a small business here though, and starting again would be very problematic.