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What you have said is a TOTAL misconception about Montessori. My children have always had the opportunity (daily) for group work. Our Montessori school has a lovely art program (Monart), violin program (taught by a violinist of the local Philharmonic orchestra!), and DD's kindy teacher from last year ran the yoga program (she is accredited/certified in all sorts of different yoga programs). Crafts? Oh my goodness....they are constantly doing crafts! My walls and fridge can vouch for that! ;)
Montessori does focus on working at the child's pace, however all the Montessori schools we have been in (3 so far) have many opportunities during the day for social interactions and play! I don't think the children are expected to be "little adults", but they *ARE* taught to be responsible and respectful. For example, our schools use real forks, glass plates, glass cups, etc. The children serve their own snack when their body tells them they are hungry (they don't wait for a set "snack break" like a lot of schools do) and they are expected to wash their utensils, cups, and plates, dry them, and put them back for the next person who sits down at the snack table. I don't believe it's expecting too much from them. It's modeling appropriate behavior. Oh, and the kindy's and 1st graders in both of my DD's classes *DEFINITELY* act their age! LOL! Because Montessori materials are self correcting, they learn from their own mistakes without having to be told "they are wrong!" (which completely kills their motivation to want to learn!) Going back to snack time - if a child drops and breaks a glass they learn to be more careful the next time. There is no "OMG you broke it!" from the teacher, the child just goes and gets the broom and dust pan and cleans it up. That is learning from experience! They aren't rewarded with stars and stickers. I have asked my children on many o ccassions, "Which makes you feel better? Getting a sticker for completing a job or getting that good feeling because you accomplished something?" They have never ONCE chosen the extrinsic reward as their answer!! They feel proud of their own accomplishments and as a parent I always say things like, "Wow...I bet that makes you feel proud of yourself!" and they say, "It does!"
As for Reggio, I *LOVE* their program and if we had no Montessori programs in our area, I would have sought out a Reggio program definitely. In fact, there is a local Montessori school here that has a 9-1 Montessori program and then after lunch, recess, and naps they have a Reggio program for the "after school" program. Win/win!!!
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