or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Archives › Pregnancy and Birth Archives › Due Date Clubs 2009 - 2012 › June 2009 › What are you doing about birth control after this baby?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

What are you doing about birth control after this baby? - Page 3

post #41 of 57
Nothing. Dh is deploying and I still haven't decided if I'm done yet. When we are done having kids, he will get a vasectomy.
post #42 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
umm...eek. I just read up about this a little. It sounds terrifying, and I've really had more than enough crap from surgical complications, etc..

*sigh*
I guess I'll think about it a little more...
Yeah I was all for having one asap until I made friends with ladies who had horrific side effects & of course the dr's only solution is hysterectomy. Then I started seeing it more & more in patients I was caring for...

I imagine it will be like a lot of other side effects that 'Oops we didn't know about that' will be the excuse & years down the road they'll start putting it out there as a possible complication.
post #43 of 57
My husband is getting a vasectomy asap
post #44 of 57
I am done having kids. This is my 5th and we can not have any more. We just can't.

I am having my tubes tied, which I swore I would NEVER do. AND dh is getting a vasectomy. May sound like over kill. But I have finally come to conclusion that NO MORE BABIES.

NFP worked ok for us. But I do not start my period or ovulating for 18 months PP so when it comes, if surprises me. Like this last time. I had one period and BOOM pregnant! (dd was 18 month old) Iknow I can always tell when I am ovulating, but that last time, was a shocker. I do not want to play that game for the next forever. Now that I know I am done having kids, I would like to get my tubes tied.
post #45 of 57
Thread Starter 
Wow. So we decided we really couldn't spend the money on the natural family planning class, as my car broke down and our extra $$ (what little we have that hasn't been spent on baby stuff lol) needed to go to that. When I told the teacher we weren't going to be taking the class after all, he spoke to the chapter leader, who was able to get us a full scholarship!! I know I could easily just read a book and figure it out on my own, but I feel so much better having DH and I signed up to learn about it from people who've been using it effectively. Plus we will BOTH be doing it...not just me! So that makes me feel better too.

Just wanted to share in case there was anyone else who may want to take the class but not have the $$ to spend for the class...you may be able to get help!
post #46 of 57
So DH right away volunteered to get a vasectomy after I said, "this one is the last." Sweet man. Anyone have personal experience with this? (pregnant ladies are probably the wrong ones to be asking but...) Anyone know a man who did it and regretted it? Side effects?

Thanks gals.
post #47 of 57
lol dh just got snipped last week! This is #4 and we are totally done. It was easy as pie, no pain or anything. A little tender. And a few days out he now has a little bruising. Anyway, I'm really glad, but wouldn't have done it if I weren't 110% sure I didn't want another preg.

Otherwise, we've used spermicide gel in the applicators for years, and as long as we're consistent, they've been super effective. Consistency is key! Condoms totally turn me off, so this has been a great, non hormonal way to do BC.

Ugh, it's so hard. but hopefully if you're breastfeeding exclusively, you won't have to worry about it for a while, right?!
post #48 of 57
My 2 cents, for what it is worth:

1. no surgery. Just a personal choice though, so no thoughts on risks.

2. No condoms or diaphragms or pills. Yes, everyone hates condoms. Diaphragms may be great if you have long fingers, but my experience is that it takes a crane to get them out. Pills make me wonky and emotional.

3. Merena IUD is the greatest thing since sliced bread. It costs somewhere in the neighborhood of $500 (though many insurance plans will cover it) and it lasts for 5 years. I had one for 5 years, and had no babies for 5 years. When it is initially inserted, it causes mild cramping for a day or two, then about 4 weeks of bleeding. After that, it is almost 100% reliable, periods tend to be further apart and milder also. I had one about every six weeks for 2-3 days. It takes about 2 minutes (literally) to get it removed also.

4. I am toying with not doing anything and having one more child. We'll see. But if we decide to put off the one more child, I will get a Merina IUD at 6 months. With DD I nursed on demand and never had a period. Got pregnant with DS at 14 months Post partum. Since I am working full time now, I am not confident past that 6 month mark though.
post #49 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by rivkah View Post
My 2 cents, for what it is worth:


3. Merena IUD is the greatest thing since sliced bread. It costs somewhere in the neighborhood of $500 (though many insurance plans will cover it) and it lasts for 5 years. I had one for 5 years, and had no babies for 5 years. When it is initially inserted, it causes mild cramping for a day or two, then about 4 weeks of bleeding. After that, it is almost 1005 reliable, periods tend to be further apart and milder also. I had one about every six weeks for 2-3 days. It takes about 2 minutes (literally) to get it removed also.
.
I have considered an IUD, but in the end, I can't morally justify what an IUD does, even though many women do not ovulate with the Merena, many still do and I just could deal with embryos not being allowed to implant if they are created, so I will stick with the tubal and prevent the creation of an embryo.
post #50 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by phrogger View Post
I have considered an IUD, but in the end, I can't morally justify what an IUD does, even though many women do not ovulate with the Merena, many still do and I just could deal with embryos not being allowed to implant if they are created, so I will stick with the tubal and prevent the creation of an embryo.
Yeah--that it true. You have to be OK with that notion, and with the idea that if you do get pregnant, you may be advised to terminate. you also need to be monogamous or you run a greater risk of getting pelvic inflammatory disease. So it isn't for everyone. But I am OK with all that personally, so it just makes me happy for pharmaceutical companies, though I can't say I am usually their biggest fan.
post #51 of 57
spermicide gel eh? that sounds a lot nicer than condoms, I just remember the sex talks in health class saying gel wasn't safe enough. but maybe combined with checking the CM etc. something to think about.... Fortunately what with cosleeping, on-demand nursing etc. I prob. don't have to worry about it for 15months or so if the last 2 kids are any indication. I know what I'm NOT doing-screwing with my hormones or going under the knife myself.
post #52 of 57
We had discussed the big V, but I recently heard that it may caused decreased sensitivity. I plan on getting a tubal, that way I don't have to do the hormone thing, and we will be pretty dang sure that we don't accidentily get pregnant.
post #53 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by phrogger View Post
I have considered an IUD, but in the end, I can't morally justify what an IUD does, even though many women do not ovulate with the Merena, many still do and I just could deal with embryos not being allowed to implant if they are created, so I will stick with the tubal and prevent the creation of an embryo.
DH and i just had this discussion tonight. nice to see i'm not the only one...

so- i think i'm having my first PPAF. crud. only 6weeks PP.

my ob recommended mirena today but......

still stand by: first you gotta DTD...... (what's that again?)
post #54 of 57
I would never do hormonal BC or either of us get cut. So we are doing Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It works when you follow the rules, and if you don't, well, ya gotta decide I you're gonna live dangerously. We do use comdoms during fertile times, which I hate, but I'm not into abstaining.

And um, I guess I'm morbid, but I imagine what if all my kids died in some freak accident, I would want to have more.
post #55 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by Maggirayne View Post
I would never do hormonal BC or either of us get cut. So we are doing Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It works when you follow the rules, and if you don't, well, ya gotta decide I you're gonna live dangerously. We do use comdoms during fertile times, which I hate, but I'm not into abstaining.

And um, I guess I'm morbid, but I imagine what if all my kids died in some freak accident, I would want to have more.
I can understand that thought process, however, in my case, my body just can't do it anymore. It is more about me never ever ever in a million years being pg again vs. not having more kids. I have already considered foster care or adoption, but I will never be pg again and it is something I just can't risk, ever.

Then again, I think my uterus would fall out if I got pg again
post #56 of 57
Quote:
Originally Posted by musiclady View Post
DH and i just had this discussion tonight. nice to see i'm not the only one...

so- i think i'm having my first PPAF. crud. only 6weeks PP.

my ob recommended mirena today but......

still stand by: first you gotta DTD...... (what's that again?)

LOL after my first, I think I waited like 8 or 10 weeks. I had a long labor and pushed for almost 4 hours. I was so scared it was going to hurt.

After that, the second i waited only two weeks, if that and other then the quads (which I waited 18 months since I was single hahaha), I haven't waited very long at all. It does get better, but that first time is scary, but honestly wasn't even painful.
post #57 of 57
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by phrogger View Post
I have considered an IUD, but in the end, I can't morally justify what an IUD does, even though many women do not ovulate with the Merena, many still do and I just could deal with embryos not being allowed to implant if they are created, so I will stick with the tubal and prevent the creation of an embryo.
I have heard stories of women getting pregnant after a tubal and then having to terminate because obviously a baby can't survive in the tubes. That's why I always imagined I couldn't do it. Are those myths/hearsay?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: June 2009
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Archives › Pregnancy and Birth Archives › Due Date Clubs 2009 - 2012 › June 2009 › What are you doing about birth control after this baby?