Originally Posted by zuzunel09
I know for a fact that my hospital has a high rate of scheduled deliveries and c-sections. My doctor is condescending and hustles me in and out of my appointments, so finding out his views on things has been difficult. I guess he's ok, but then, I've heard of doctors who were annoyed with laboring mothers because things weren't going according to their schedule.
Anyway, I guess what you're all saying is, get a spine.
You have a spine. A lovely, prickly one. We're saying: love your spine. Adore your spine. Encourage it. Pregnancy is a wonderful time to practice - you're likely to feel so annoyed anyway. Write righteous letters to the paper, blast your justified wrath at the FedEx delivery gone wrong, carry your belly proudly and wither anyone who touches it without your permission with the force of your ire! After nine months, you should have plenty of practice.
And if anyone tells you that you're a bad mama for delivering at the hospital your HMO will pay for (a problem you have to be quite high up on the economic scale to avoid in this country), use them for target practice too. They're dumb.
Okay: the best way to deal with a crummy hospital is to stay out of it for as long as you can. Take the natural childbirth prep and the hypnobirthing and whatever else you can find, and stay home with it for as long as possible. Read Spiritual Midwifery and Birthing from Within (Ina May Gaskin), and get someone to teach your husband how to provide counterpressure to help you through contractions. No one at home cares how long you're in labor for. No one at home is going to want to get off shift and go home - they are home! So that's taken care of.
When labor starts, go for a walk. When contractions get so you can't walk through them, take a shower (have a support person handy to help hold you up if necessary). Use all the coping tactics that you got from those classes. Learn to check your own cervix (and have your husband check it), and don't go to the hospital until you're almost in transition. If you get there at 9 cm, they won't hardly have time to do anything. (Also, if you're at 9 cm and coping, hospital staff are more likely to let you do your thing than they are if you're at 4 cm and wigging out.)
Take that l&d tour, and figure out how to cope with what's there. No birthing balls? Bring your own (they're yoga balls, you can get them cheap). Can you dim the lights? They may so no snacks, but are they gonna search your bag? Probably not. Monitors can be removed, you can simply refuse to get on the bed. When you're deep in labor it is okay - even encouraged - to let your inner animal take over.
If you can afford a doula, get one. If not, recruit some support people (besides your husband) to read what you're reading, study what you're studying and help you out when the day comes. Your husband should be one of those people, but he may need a sandwich or a potty break sometime, so he should not be the only one.