Rudeness at Farmer's Market - Page 2

[_betsy_]

The librarian in the children's department at story time one day said to me "And here's the baby in a bag again!" All chipper and with a smile. Uh, what? It's not like I was toting her around in a paper bag from Trader Joe's, she's in a sling. And since story time is usually crowded with a bunch of other babies in strollers (and 3.5 yos in strollers during an event aimed at them that includes dancing, ah, but I digress) and since DD1 tends to need a lot of my attention during story time, it's easier to have abby in the sling. But, what? I think she thought she was just being cute, or didn't know the right term, but whatever. Her comment put me in a mood.

At Target, I had DD1 (2.5) in the cart and DD2 in a sling. The cashier proceeded to have a loud conversation with another cashier about how she'd "never do *that* with a baby (jerking her head in my direction) because it's, like, so unsafe, you know? And, like, who wants to be that close to a kid for that long, right?" I told her I didn't come to Target looking for ignorant parenting advice, and could she please double bag the milk? She shut up right quick. I should have spoken to the manager, but I didn't have any time that day.

[bigeyes]

Originally Posted by _betsy_

At Target, I had DD1 (2.5) in the cart and DD2 in a sling. The cashier proceeded to have a loud conversation with another cashier about how she'd "never do *that* with a baby (jerking her head in my direction) because it's, like, so unsafe, you know? And, like, who wants to be that close to a kid for that long, right?" I told her I didn't come to Target looking for ignorant parenting advice, and could she please double bag the milk? She shut up right quick. I should have spoken to the manager, but I didn't have any time that day.

Love your response.

I would have found time to make a phone call later, though. : What a passive aggressive UAV. If you're going to be critical of my parenting choices, at least have the balls to speak your mind to me about it instead of about me, yk?

[tayndrewsmama]

Here's a link to read. http://babyslingsafety.blogspot.com/

I think that people who mean well sometimes are not aware of how they speak. If he didn't care at all he wouldn't have said anything.

I had a Maya wrap with ds and I clearly remember tossing it into the closet because it seemed as though he couldn't breathe in it. I hauled it back out when he was big enough that I wasn't concerned about his breathing in it. This time I am planning on getting a Babyhawk and perhaps a Didymos as well.

[TCMoulton]

Originally Posted by BellaRose0212

I wish someone would point out the dangers of strollers to more women, especially those that just keeped them locked in 24/7. More babies are dying of SIDS because they never get out of their newborn carrier, I think it is probably more like failure to thrive because of lack of physical contact.

This kind of statement is the same as saying that all slings are dangerous for babies. Sweeping generalizations make people stop listening. Do you have a link that states the increase in sids is dierctly related to babies being in newborn carseats because I personally have never heard that before (doesn't mean that it is wrong just that I have never heard such a statement before).

[AllieFaye]

Originally Posted by JamieCatheryn

Wow, I wonder if it was one of those trendy new bag slings instead of a pouch or ring sling. Those really are dangerous, they do suffocate babies a bit. They're ruining the reputation of babywearing too.

Bolding mine. This is patently false. Any sling can be dangerous if it is worn incorrectly. It is possible to wear these incorrectly? Yes. They are not ruining the reputation of babywearing. I'm very, very angry at this comment. It's neither true nor fair.

[Quindin]

Originally Posted by AllieFaye

Bolding mine. This is patently false. Any sling can be dangerous if it is worn incorrectly. It is possible to wear these incorrectly? Yes. They are not ruining the reputation of babywearing. I'm very, very angry at this comment. It's neither true nor fair.

Hmm... I don't know about the danger part, but I think she has a point about the reputation thing.
I have several friends who are won't even consider babywearing again after having only tried extremely uncomfortable trendy/mainstream carriers such as the Bjorn, Snugli, Premaxx...

[Happily Blessed]

Originally Posted by TCMoulton

From the OP the vendor stated that he personally knew a child that died in a sling so in his mind that is most likely more than enough research that it is possible for a child to die in a sling. He wasn't attacking the OP, he probably saw her child in a sling and it brought back a rush of memories and he warned the OP of a problem that did in fact happen in his life. He wasn't being vindictive, just giving a (possibly harsh sounding) word of caution - probably something that he wishes someone had done in his friend's situation.

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[confustication]

I've met with some negativity while babywearing, the best solution I've found is a gentle smile and a little education.

One friend who was aghast at the idea tried out my ring sling with his newborn and was practically dancing around when he discovered that he had a little more freedom to accomplish things.

The public health nurse thought that they only 'did that' with kangaroo care preemies.

It's frustrating and disheartening to realize how deeply mass marketing has impacted what we see as the norm. We 'need' strollers, and bouncers, and swings, and travel systems. Somewhere along the line, we stopped meeting the childrens' and parents' needs in lieu of the manufacturers.

[cotopaxi]

Originally Posted by AllieFaye

Bolding mine. This is patently false. Any sling can be dangerous if it is worn incorrectly. It is possible to wear these incorrectly? Yes. They are not ruining the reputation of babywearing. I'm very, very angry at this comment. It's neither true nor fair.

Actually there is good evidence that bag slings compromise oxygen saturation in babies, even when worn as best as possible. I will link to the article later, that site is down now. It is definitely possible to wear any sling incorrectly and unsafely, but it is nearly impossible to get a good safe position in a bag sling.

ETA: http://www.thebabywearer.com/forum/s...d.php?t=205359
I don't think you have to register to see this thread, but if you do lmk I'll try to find the info elsewhere.