Actually, the SIL midwife I told about earlier (who tells her patients to have a glass of wine to relax if needed), is Danish.
Other midwives there told me the same.
I had my first 2 children in Denmark, and while it is true that they differ from other European countries when it comes to recommendation for alcohol abstinence, it is mostly referred to the first trimester. And there is not AT ALL the same "pregnancy police" mentality they have in the US.
And no, it was not strange to see pregnant women drinking the occasional wine, and most people were surprised when I would say "no thanks" to a glass.
But in my Northern European/Scandinavian country, and our neighbour countrys there is absolutely a no-alcohol during pregnancy policy and norm, and nobody does it. No midwife/doc/nurse/other health care provider would tell you that it's ok here, they're not even allowed too. People who drink and smoke during their pregnancy here are actually look at as less educated and probably a bit stupid, and taking risks and not wanting the best for their babies. It's pretty harsh actually. If you do drink/smoke when pregnant here you have to expect people to comment, be rude and mean to you about it, not only healthcare providers, but also strangers. (Kinda like with smoking around kids/inside a house with kids.)
(I'm not saying I think it should be like that, btw, that you have to accept rudeness. But I think the no-alcohol and no smoking during pregnancy and nursing (and no smoking around kids/inside/inside public places, the last one actually being a law) policys/norms we have here are really great.)