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post #1 of 32
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So last night I went to a breastfeeding class, and afterwards, the lady I was sitting by asked, "So you're due June 17th?" I said, "Yup, sure am." It was clear she'd been thinking about this since the beginning of class when we went around the room and said our due dates, what gender we were having, etc. And she said, "Oh, wow. I'm due June 22nd and you are SO much BIGGER then me. It must be because you're having a girl."

I just kind of stared at her. I mean, what do you say to that? I patted my belly and was like, "Yeahhh..." then tried to gracefully exit the room.
post #2 of 32
My midwife told me the other day that I'm bigger than one of her other clients (at a similar stage, as well) who was working on her 9th. I'm on #1.
post #3 of 32
I get the "you are bigger than.." all the friggin' time. My gracious response is "yup, I carry all out front, outside my body" Why people have the need to comment is beyond me. Wow is right!
post #4 of 32
Some people are just obssesed with size and due dates.
post #5 of 32
It's just something you can't compare. I met a woman that was much smaller than me at the midwifes on Wednesday. She was two days overdue! We all grow different sized babies in different shaped uterus. Not to mention we all weighed something different to begin with and put on our baby pounds differently.
post #6 of 32
Oh, I got "are you sure YOU are not having 8 babies?"

Come on now. REALLY?

At 6 months I got " you're only 6 months?! You are going to explode!"

I am really not that big. I am "normal" size, I would say. I think it just shocks people sometimes that a woman really does get a big 'ol belly when preggo. DUH!
post #7 of 32
I don't understand the size obession either, and why people feel the need to comment on it! I am actually much smaller looking this time than I was with the last baby...but my fundal still measures exactly where it should be, so obviously every woman and even every pregnancy are going to "look" different.
post #8 of 32
I equate these comments to someone walking up to me and saying, "Gosh, you are soooo much taller than me" or "your boobs are so little!". Yes, we come in all shapes and sizes - even when we're pg. I agree that people become truly obsessed with comparing themselves to others and to the "average". Just wait until your baby is born and everyone asks you what "percentage" she is in for height and weight!
post #9 of 32
Personally, I don't understand why pregnant women are all offended when someone comments on their size. We're SUPPOSED to get big, we're SUPPOSED to have a giant belly.

I'm certain it's because our culture totally demonizes women having any body mass whatsoever, but it's messed up. We're pregnant. Be happy that you're big, it's a GOOD thing.

I'm really amused that I get "wow, you're big" comments. It took 2 years of infertility and miscarriage to get here, and I love that I look positively ginormous. I've been praying to get to this point for years.
post #10 of 32
I don't get offended by it...I absolutely love my big old round belly and I love my body during pregnancy. I just don't understand why people feel the need to comment on it as pertaining to size. Can't they just say "You look great!" But when you hear "you're huge" or "you're tiny" it doesn't necessaily feel like a good thing, y/k?

I was going through security at the Atlanta airport when I was around 30 weeks and one of the security checkers (younger guy, even) looked at me and told me that I looked absolutely beautiful pregnant. Made my whole day
post #11 of 32
I am getting opposite comments..."you are so small!" Yeah, I carry my babies compact I guess...even though I have gained more weight this time around than last time. It is just going elsewhere on my body....

I am totally not offended but I do think that it isn't even necessary to comment on the size of someone's body! I love being told I look good or healthy...

It is true that pregnant belly size is pretty fascinating though. I feel like I am seeing pregnant women everywhere lately and they all look like they are the same size as me...it makes me wonder about the month of June and the number of babies born!
post #12 of 32
".it makes me wonder about the month of June and the number of babies born! "

I know there's a mini baby boom going on at DH's work. Most of the employees (95% male, it's a video game company) were stuck doing 80 hour weeks all last spring and summer. We conceived the first month DH was home a reasonable amount of time. One of his hold office mates' wife has the same due date as me. Another office mate's wife has a due date a few weeks after me, and I only know one other couple who could potentially get pregnant in this group. I'm sure a lot more of them have babies on the way this summer/fall. Ah, the ebb and flow of the video game world.
post #13 of 32
I get the "you're small" comments too. But hey, I'm 5'9", so I have plenty of torso for a baby to hide in. My babies are actually usually a little large for gestation too. Another part of it is probably the fact that my bust is larger than average, so that takes away from some of the obvious belly size.

Last pregnancy, I had two friends that were due 5 weeks ahead of me with their first kids. It was my second kid. My friends did IVF at the same time, so they were due the same day (they lived down the street from each other). One is really short, and the other was tall like me. Well, at 29 weeks, they had one of their baby showers. The short one looked like she would explode at any moment! She had a huge belly. She seriously looked 40 weeks already. The tall one barely had a belly at all. I was 24 weeks and had a bigger belly than she did. In the end, the short one with the huge belly ended up having a very small baby, and the tall one with barely a belly had a larger baby.
post #14 of 32
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Originally Posted by TrishWSU View Post
I don't get offended by it...I absolutely love my big old round belly and I love my body during pregnancy. I just don't understand why people feel the need to comment on it as pertaining to size. Can't they just say "You look great!" But when you hear "you're huge" or "you're tiny" it doesn't necessaily feel like a good thing, y/k?

I was going through security at the Atlanta airport when I was around 30 weeks and one of the security checkers (younger guy, even) looked at me and told me that I looked absolutely beautiful pregnant. Made my whole day
Totally this. I don't get the need to comment on the size since it's so irrelevant anyway and it just gets really old when I hear it over and over and over and over. I LOVE the "you look fabulous!" and "what a beautiful belly!"

Yesterday a woman actually came over and tapped my on the shoulder and said I looked radiant and wished me blessings for my birth. Now THAT is class!
post #15 of 32
I find it annoying. I also feel the way you do - how am I supposed to respond. The comments are just bizarre. I get them literally everywhere I go. Yeah, I'm huge...what can I say?
post #16 of 32
I agree that it is annoying, however there has to be a level of class associated with these comments. A women came over to me yesterday. She reeked of vodka, (at 11:00am) and said something horrible that I brushed off. Another woman complimented on my big beautiful belly. At the same store. Some people are just weird and don't really know how to socialize. I love my belly. It took us so long to get here. I am only going to have it for one more week exactly.
post #17 of 32
My favorite comment so far was "holy mackerel!" I like the shock value I have at the moment--I am sooo big--and like you all said, we're supposed to be I'm measuring 40 weeks because of extra fluid. So no comments are bothering me--EXCEPT for the one lady who said I needed to lay off the bonbons. A pox on her house.

And several ladies have taken one look and said "you're having a boy, right?" That's pretty cool.
post #18 of 32
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Originally Posted by sonuptosondown View Post
My favorite comment so far was "holy mackerel!" I like the shock value I have at the moment--I am sooo big--and like you all said, we're supposed to be I'm measuring 40 weeks because of extra fluid. So no comments are bothering me--EXCEPT for the one lady who said I needed to lay off the bonbons. A pox on her house.

And several ladies have taken one look and said "you're having a boy, right?" That's pretty cool.
Amg I would have had to throw something at her head I think. Then again I'm feeling pretty anti-social atm.
post #19 of 32
Ugg how annoying...we are all at the end of our pregnancies, are are supposed to be "huge" or whatever. Annoying!!

In my own case, I'm carrying VERY compact, this is my 3rd, I carried the others very small (I'm short anyway) so it's no big deal to me but sometimes I get comments about how small I am,etc. I measure right on track (well, until yesterday, but my midwife said she's engaged/dropped.)
post #20 of 32
Yeah, I think my biggest issue is not really knowing how to respond. "Thanks"? "You too"? I think people may want to work on the way they word things also, haha. "YOU'RE HUGE" might not be the best way to put it!
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