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I called CPS yesterday :( ~~WEIRD UPDATE POST 103~~

post #1 of 104
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I work at a daycare (which is why this is in the working parents forum... didn't think it was appropriate in other ones) in the infant room. We have an infant who is about 8 months old. About 2 months ago (when she started) her cheeks were always red. The parents said it was eczema. No big deal, we have had other kids with eczema and we've worked with the parents to keep it under control. But the last month or so has been out of control. This poor little girl is now covered in this. There isn't a single body part that isn't affected. Her head, ears, necks, back, stomach, cheeks, arms, wrists, private parts, legs, ankles, everything is covered in this. They are large red patches (and some small patches) that are breaking open and pussing/bleeding everywhere. She scratches at it constantly. They were doing NOTHING for it. About 2 weeks ago the grandma told the parents that if they don't take her to the dr she'll call cps herself (at that point they hadn't even taken her to the dr about this!). They did take her to the dr, who tested her and said she had a staph infection They gave her a couple different medicines and for about a week she was starting to get better. But then they stopped giving her the medicine. They took the cream that we had at the daycare for her so we can't use that.

Now it's so far out of control. I just look at this little girl and cry. We have to put her in long pants and shirts because otherwise she's bleeding everywhere (and other parents have started to question what's going on with her too). This little girl is constantly in pain, but she doesn't even cry anymore. When changing her diaper (her diaper area is severely affected) she just trembles When her parents came to pick her up yesterday I told them that, yet again, she was bleeding so we bandaged her up. They didn't seem to care at all. I asked if they could bring the cream back so we could use it on her at the daycare and they said "Oh, we aren't using that anymore". I asked if they were using anything else that we could help with and she responded with "we aren't using anything". I then asked if they could bring in at least some diaper cream for her (they took that too about 2 weeks ago) and she said "no, she doesn't need it" and left!

This little girl is so sweet and innocent. It breaks my heart to see her like this day after day. When we had the cream at the daycare we could get her a bit better by Friday, and then by Monday she's be horrible again. Now we haven't had the cream and it's gotten worse and worse and now it's a 3 day weekend (we aren't open on Monday). Honestly, it's to the point where I'm dreading going to work. By the end of the day I'm usually in a horrible mood, worried sick about this girl.

After last nights encounter with the parents I had a really horrible feeling. I did call the child abuse hotline number we have posted in the daycare. They took a report and told me I should call the local police and ask for a child welfare check (since that would get it done quicker than if I went through the abuse hotline). So I called the police and let them know what was happening. She said she'd pass along the info. About an hour later a police officer called me to get some more info. He said this family already has a social worker and he couldn't understand why the social worker wasn't aware of the condition this baby was in When I talked to him last he was almost at the families house. He said he'd check on her and then hunt down the social worker to find out what is going on from her end. I haven't heard anything more. I just hope the little girl is safe this weekend. She deserves to be happy and free of pain.
post #2 of 104
OMG, that poor baby. I can't imagine looking at your precious child and NOT doing anything to try to help them heal.
post #3 of 104
I have worked in childcare for many many moons, and I feel your pain (As well as the baby girl's) Let's all hope this poor baby gets the best possible outcome from this, and relief from her suffering. I have often found that sometimes parents are really unaware of how infants can suffer
post #4 of 104
That's very strange that the family's existing social worker wasn't aware. Maybe the call will make him or her get more on-the-ball.
post #5 of 104
How awful for the baby! It reminds me of this story: http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegrap...001021,00.html
post #6 of 104
:cry: oh how heart wrenching!!!!
post #7 of 104
that poor little girl.
post #8 of 104
The poor thing. And how disturbing that she already has a social worker who has no idea what's going on (that's what I'm hoping. And not that she knows what's going on and doing nothing about it.)
post #9 of 104
this is very sad... how can you look at someone suffering and not help? how can you do that when its your own child... please keep us posted on how she is doing...
post #10 of 104
That poor baby.. hugs to the child and to you for your strength
post #11 of 104
so glad she has someone who cares about her well being!
post #12 of 104
Good for you OP for being Proactive!! :
post #13 of 104
Oh, that poor baby. It sounds like you made the right call, but I'm sure it's hard to deal with having to do that.

By the by, staph is associated with eczema, and a recent RCT suggested that baths with very dilute bleach may be extremely helpful. They actually closed the study early because the treatment arm was getting such great results that they couldn't ethically justify not providing the same relief to those in the control arm.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-a...ds-with-ezcema

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/8015995.stm
post #14 of 104
great info -- my dd's exczema used to get better after a trip to the pool.

However: I would be VERY wary of suggesting this to the baby's family. I shudder to imagine them using bleach anywhere near her.

Please keep us updated.


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Originally Posted by ~pi View Post
Oh, that poor baby. It sounds like you made the right call, but I'm sure it's hard to deal with having to do that.

By the by, staph is associated with eczema, and a recent RCT suggested that baths with very dilute bleach may be extremely helpful. They actually closed the study early because the treatment arm was getting such great results that they couldn't ethically justify not providing the same relief to those in the control arm.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-a...ds-with-ezcema

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/8015995.stm
post #15 of 104
The story you describe is the single best reason I have seen posted (recently) that truly warrents a CPS call!

I'm so proud of you that you did it. It had to have been difficult to find the courage but this baby will hopefully benefit to the nth degree because someone stood up for her.

I hope her parents figure out a course of treatment for thier dd that works.

I do have one question... as a child care worker, does your facility have any policy regarding staph infections? I would have thought the child would have bee required to follow the full course of treatment and have a doctor's note in order to return. At least I had hoped that would have been the policy. I am unfamiliar with facility policy since my dd goes to a private provider.
post #16 of 104
That's awful. Poor baby!

In 20 years as a child care provider, teacher, and center director, I've had to call CPS maybe a dozen times. It's almost always a really hard decision; only rarely is it really obviously the right thing to do. You did the right thing and I hope and pray that someone, somewhere with real power takes some action!
post #17 of 104
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Originally Posted by SilverWillow View Post
However: I would be VERY wary of suggesting this to the baby's family. I shudder to imagine them using bleach anywhere near her.
Oh, of course not. It was just a side note relevant to the mention of staph.
post #18 of 104
I'm just heartbroken for that little girl....but so glad that you are looking out for her.

What has the director of the day care said about this? S/he is a mandated reported, correct? Do the other teachers/workers in the day care say anything about her parents treatment of her (or, better worded, neglect of treatment)? When I taught at an early childhood program the director was very very involved in every classroom and was aware of situations like this, and she would be the one to make any calls.

I'm proud of you for being an empathetic soul, and for doing what was necessary to keep this little one safe. Please please keep us updated!!
post #19 of 104
Oh wow mama

You did the right thing. I'm so sorry for that little girl, and we're proud of you
post #20 of 104
That poor baby. Thank you for calling.
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