PP Chat Thread - May 25-31 - Page 3

[RasJane]

Aura-- hugs mama. I can't answer whether or not you have PPD, but I can empathize with wanting to spend all day in bed. I would love, love, love to hole up with Miriam and just be in bed with her all day.
I get blue as well, teary, frustrated and blue. I think it really is just a part of the post partum fun.

[CookAMH]

to the pp mamas having a hard time right now. Just wait till your LO smiles and giggles

Ezra's rash is improving since I started using Boudreaux's [natural] butt paste. :: I'm looking forward to going back to cloth once it's totally cleared up and will wait a few days this time to make sure it's really gone. I think I will start washing his bottom with each daytime change, and when we do go back to cloth, I'll use fleece liners. I have the fabric ready to cut (it's washed). A friend said her LO had rashes off and on at the beginning mainly from so much poop, and she used dove soap when washing his bottom. I may just use water for now. He's airing out right now on the couch

[Asher]

Woot! Glad Ezra's rash is looking better!

(((Aura)))

When I left the hospital, the nurse told me to expect some emotional feelings for a few weeks after birth. I told DH this before we came home. Makes sense, right since your hormones are crazy from pregnancy, then you have the baby and your hormones are all wonky. So I've cried randomly for absolutely no reason that I can figure like 2x since coming home. Not bawling or huge outbursts, just a few tiny tears of "I just don't feel right." WELL, every time I do or I look "down", DH goes "Do you think you have PPD?" *sigh* So not helping me feel better!

When we came home from the hospital, my two dd's had a cough and my 4yr old some kind of eye gunk. I think it was pink eye. So I said stay out of babes face, don't touch his hands, yadda, yadda. Well, hers is gone now. Monday night, I noticed eye gunk in HIS eye. *sigh* I squirted breastmilk in immediately and by the yesterday evening, he had nothing else going on. Yay!

Now all of my kids have poison ivy or oak. Not sure WHAT my dad did with them while we were gone! I've not been doing anything outside that might give it to me, but itching like crazy at the mere thought of it! I'm bad like that! It's always something, isn't it?!

[Amydoula]

to those having a hard time. I had PPD with my first so understand.
Had O's 2 week check up, he's growing like a weed. Up to 7lbs10z from 6lbs3oz at his 4 day check up. Go breastmilk!

[Auraji]

Thanks everyone

I feel a lot better today.

kdtmom2be, Sophia will be 3 weeks old tomorrow. Today she's going to the doctor for the first time. Im excited to hear what he tells me. I dont think she's colicky, she just cries all the time, because she wants to be nursing all the time. Like every 1/2 hour and the longest she goes without is 2 hours.

RasJane, I dont know if I have ppd either, but seriously I spend so much time laying in bed and then I feel all bad because I didnt do anything all day.

Asher, that kinda sounds like me. I've cried a couple of times without any reason. DP is being really great, he stayed with Sophia yesterday when he came home from work and let me take a walk, which made me feel so much better. He also rubbed my feet and was extremely understanding and said things that I didnt even consider could be the reason why I felt bad and at the end of the night, I just didnt feel so down.

Now Im just tired. Again, thank you everyone. It's nice to be able to share how we feel with other mamas

[sarahf.]

Well Ethan is 5 days old and everything is going wonderfully! My milk came in on day 3 and he is a milk monkey!!!! He is sleeping pretty well just waking up to nurse and then nods right off.....I'm sure this will not last he is still in the sleepy newborn phase My other two children are terribly sick with fevers and coughs and I am so paranoid about the baby. I've been keeping them seperate and having my husband care for them. The thought of a feverish sick newborn is making me crazy. I feel so bad for not being able to care for them. Plus my son oldest has Type 1 Diabetes so it really complictes even the smallest virus....Argh. I can't wait for this virus to get out off my house!

[Asher]

Sarah ~ don't forget colostrum is great at protecting these babes. I'd definitely try to keep them seperated if possible, to be on the safe side, but I bet babe will be fine. Hope the older two feel better soon.

[ScootchsMom]

to all the mommas feeling down. If you feel that bad, please see your doctor or midwife for help. My best friend had PPD with her first and it was a tough time for all of us to see her in so much pain.

I've had the blues on and off, mostly triggered by feeling like I'm being judged by certain people in my life because of the c-section and because I'm giving John formula. My mainstream friends and family think I'm nuts for pumping, my crunchy friends think I'm nuts for not becoming obsessed with getting him on the breast. I feel like I have to justify myself to everyone, even here on MDC, and I hate it.

John has his first ped check up today, I'm hoping he is gaining well. He had went down from 9lb12oz to 8 lbs14 oz by the time we were discharged from the hospital. They weren't concerned since he was so big to begin with, but I'd like to see it heading back up already.

Pumping is going ok, I'm adding an ounce of breast milk to every formula bottle so I can make it last as long as possible. I'm going to keep the rental pump for a month to see if I can keep up with the pumping and keep my supply going somewhat. I'm trying to figure out how much milk I need to continue giving him at least some breast milk for at least 3 months. If I can get that pumped and stored in the freezer I will feel so much better.

Liz

[ColoradoMama]

Auraji - I'm glad you're feeling better.

Theresa is 6 days old today, and I am going to have to start slowly getting back to real life. *sigh* It's been so lovely just laying around being with her. The kids have just a few more days of school, and then we'll be into our summertime fun. That'll be nice, too, but darn it's been a lovely babymoon. I started pumping yesterday. My friend is trying to hook me up with a mom she knows. The woman has a five or six month old baby, and she had to stop nursing because she has cancer and has to have chemo. It's so sad. I'm glad that I'll be able to help someone though.

Have a great day everyone!

[SunCB]

Okay, have not even started to read this thread but DD is 3.5 days old. Right now, I just need to know how much bruising (and I mean bruising!!) on your butt is normal?!?! I never expected my butt to hurt so much. You all may think I am a little odd for actually looking to try to see my stitches and find out about all this bruising but since I never had a vag. birth till now and DH telling me how the OB was just pulling/pushing down there apart to stretch me makes me wonder.

I do not hurt as much most of the time as I did before but the bruising is REALLY DARK and big to me! Any help would be appreciated! Thanks, LM

[luvmybabygirls]

Wow Sun congrats on Vba2c that's awesome! I have been away for a while! But I am not sure I could actually see any bruises, I could feel alittle pain and uncomfortable down there after my first VBAC, but this time there was no tearing really and no pain! Sorry that is the case with you, I hope you heal fast!

Update little Millee, isn't so little anymore she is 5 weeks old today and well over 10 lbs I a sure, so in just a month she has gained almost 3 lbs, but the good news is I have lost another 10 lbs these last 6 days and I need too! I will post pics of her as soon as my husband can download them, I am kinda a slacker with that stuff! She is a great baby and sleeps really well too, now if only my other two dd's would join her I would be in Heaven!

[Mama Rana]

nak
C is a week + 2 days. sleeps and eats well. still having nipple pain esp on the left, but I *think* it's getting better.

worries:
* I'm still having some pain when I pee [c/s delivery = cath]. It's not burning like a uti, more deep ache in the bladder, or else my uterus?
* bleeding comes and goes, doesn't seem related to activity?
* second-guessing agreeing to the rcs, but the truth is I'll never know.

[LiLStar]

I had a lot of bruising, but I didn't look until after it went away. My mw said my labia were completely *black* The color is normal now.

[ScootchsMom]

Originally Posted by Mama Rana

worries:
* I'm still having some pain when I pee [c/s delivery = cath]. It's not burning like a uti, more deep ache in the bladder, or else my uterus?
* bleeding comes and goes, doesn't seem related to activity?
* second-guessing agreeing to the rcs, but the truth is I'll never know.

I've got the same deep ache when I pee, when it comes to the end of the stream and my bleeding stops completely, than I get a gush if I'm doing too much. I'm more worried about the EXTREME difficulty I'm having with #2. I see the OB next Tuesday for my follow up, so I'll be bringing these problems up then. I had a RCS also, but it was semi-emergency so I haven't been second guessing it. Don't beat your self up about the RCS, it is totally not worth it. As mother's we do what we think is best and that is all we can do.

[Punchy Kaby]

Originally Posted by SunCB

Okay, have not even started to read this thread but DD is 3.5 days old. Right now, I just need to know how much bruising (and I mean bruising!!) on your butt is normal?!?! I never expected my butt to hurt so much. You all may think I am a little odd for actually looking to try to see my stitches and find out about all this bruising but since I never had a vag. birth till now and DH telling me how the OB was just pulling/pushing down there apart to stretch me makes me wonder.

I do not hurt as much most of the time as I did before but the bruising is REALLY DARK and big to me! Any help would be appreciated! Thanks, LM

I never could look when I had DS, I am too squeamish. But it hurt to sit down for close to 2 months. He bruised me pretty badly. Congrats on your VBAC2C!!!

Scootchsmom-we all do the best we can with breastfeeding. Sometimes it just doesn';t work out. It sounds like you are stuck between 2 world views-don't guilt yourself. It won't help your baby. I carried guilt around last time because I didn't get the birth I wanted and it hampered our bonding and made me afraid to parent how I naturally would. Not quite the same, but guilt is a nasty thing.

We are officially past the newborn 'sleepy' stage. DD is 2.5 weeks old. It is so neat to see her having wakeful times where she looks at us and smiles, but she is getting overstimulated by all the people who want to cuddle her and then she is fussy for hours. DS is constantly in her face smooching her, which is cute, but sometimes makes her mad.

[burm_keep]

Postpartum Weeping:

I cried every evening for a few weeks with my first. This time around it was about 3-5 days. I was heartbroken that my toddler seemed done with nursing (3.5 years old). Then he asked and now I'm going crazy because tandem is harder than I expected The hard part for me is trying to nurse them at the same time. It's so hard to get a position where the toddler doesn't feel "ouchy".

Liz - sorry to hear you're having to justify yourself. I've often felt that way about my Cesarean, even though I've always felt it was exactly what needed to happen in my circumstance. I'm glad pumping is going well!

[~Katie~]

Miss Laine was weighed last night and has managed to pack on 12 ounces in her first week and a half of life outside the womb, so it looks like I'm shaping up to have another huge baby. By 2 weeks my DS had put on 22 ounces so she is a bit behind him but I have no doubt that they will be similarly sized. The exhaustion of taking care of both of them is starting to catch up with me. I feel like there isn't enough time in the day, someone is always crying or needing something and it takes me at least an hour to get dressed or eat because I have to stop and do something in the middle of it. Laine pretty much lives in the baby carrier but I still feel like I can't devote enough time to DS, he is attention starved right now and its showing. I'm just trying to push on as best as I can. The good news is I've lost about 18 pounds so far, I still have another 34 or so to go though.

Burm - I'm finding it hard to deal with the tandem nursing as well. DS is pretty good about letting her nurse and not interfering too much but I am needing to establish some boundaries with him. Nursing him has been great for engorgement though since I can only get her to nurse once or twice at night.

[Asher]

Well, we put off our shopping trip earlier in the week due to weather (flash flood watch), but I am going to bite the bullet and go today. It's a neccesity so my clothes stop hanging. heh Going to hit the thrift shop first and hope to get some good deals. Am fully equipped with a tank under my t-shirt so that I can easily nurse in the sling without showing everyone my back fat, if need be. I'm honestly more concerned with the 4yr old than the babe since I cannot lift her to put her in the buggy right now. Oy.


TMI BELOW:

I had a vaginal birth and am having some similar difficulties/pain inside. I'm also still bleeding dark red a lot. Well, not a lot, I suppose as it's rarely on the pad, but always covering the TP when I go and always in the toilet, especially if I need to strain for a BM. TBH, I'm a bit concerned b/c I've never had it like this. I will say that when I had him, there was hardly an blood at all in the tub, like a few tiny bits and that's it. By 2 days pp, the bleeding has stopped. It's almost like it was delayed or something? It's just...odd. Not passing big clots that I know of, just still bleeding more than I thought I would/should be at this point and it has nothing to do with how much I'm doing. It doesn't increase with activity or vice versa.

[ScootchsMom]

Originally Posted by Asher

Well, we put off our shopping trip earlier in the week due to weather (flash flood watch), but I am going to bite the bullet and go today. It's a neccesity so my clothes stop hanging. heh Going to hit the thrift shop first and hope to get some good deals. Am fully equipped with a tank under my t-shirt so that I can easily nurse in the sling without showing everyone my back fat, if need be. I'm honestly more concerned with the 4yr old than the babe since I cannot lift her to put her in the buggy right now. Oy.


TMI BELOW:

I had a vaginal birth and am having some similar difficulties/pain inside. I'm also still bleeding dark red a lot. Well, not a lot, I suppose as it's rarely on the pad, but always covering the TP when I go and always in the toilet, especially if I need to strain for a BM. TBH, I'm a bit concerned b/c I've never had it like this. I will say that when I had him, there was hardly an blood at all in the tub, like a few tiny bits and that's it. By 2 days pp, the bleeding has stopped. It's almost like it was delayed or something? It's just...odd. Not passing big clots that I know of, just still bleeding more than I thought I would/should be at this point and it has nothing to do with how much I'm doing. It doesn't increase with activity or vice versa.

I would call your CP about the strange bleeding. I was told to call for anything that seemed abnormal with bleeding. It could be nothing or it could be retained tissue or who knows. Best to get it checked out.

And as for the 4 year old getting in the buggy, which I think is a shopping cart? Does the back lift up? The lady at Walmart showed me how to lift the back part, under the pushing handle, and let DD climb in that way. She than sits in the big part of the cart.

[lotus.blossom]

re: peeing and c/s- I have that too and had it last time as well. It ended up going away after a year or so. I imagine that it has something to do with bladder adhesions. At the end of emptying its a heavy pulling sensation.

I still can't get used to peeing not pregnant! Went from a slow trickle to a waterfall! So satisfying!