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post #21 of 85
I am new to this, pregnant with out third, my baby just turned 9 months. I didn't understand that this was a normal thing out there-people looking down on having more than two kids?! I just FELT that I needed to be careful who I told this time, FEELING like people WERE going to be unhappy about it or look down on it. Isn't that funny?

Now that I read this, it makes me feel better and I will let comments roll of my back. I have to remember its not THEIR life, its mine.

When I told my sister, she said she was moving back to Utah. She just moved here one week ago.
post #22 of 85
Yes, it is really weird, I know I am going to get comments about this being the third, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. It wasn't so long ago many people had four or five kids - I'm not sure how suddenly more than two has become weird.
post #23 of 85
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Yes, it is really weird, I know I am going to get comments about this being the third, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. It wasn't so long ago many people had four or five kids - I'm not sure how suddenly more than two has become weird.
...because anything more than two means we have to get a mini-van!

charlene
post #24 of 85
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...because anything more than two means we have to get a mini-van!

charlene
actually, I do just fine in my passat wagon, TYVM! But we will be getting a minivan this year or I will never leave the house,ha!
post #25 of 85
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Originally Posted by mymary View Post
I am new to this, pregnant with out third, my baby just turned 9 months. I didn't understand that this was a normal thing out there-people looking down on having more than two kids?! I just FELT that I needed to be careful who I told this time, FEELING like people WERE going to be unhappy about it or look down on it. Isn't that funny?

Now that I read this, it makes me feel better and I will let comments roll of my back. I have to remember its not THEIR life, its mine.

When I told my sister, she said she was moving back to Utah. She just moved here one week ago.

I found a general attitude like that in California. People seem more accepting of kids here in the Pacific northwest. Lots of families have more than 3 children and it is considered normal.
post #26 of 85
The only rude comment went something like this...

*pervy old man who lives across the street from me yells at me while I'm walking home*

Pervy old man - Come have a beer with me (it was early in the day, too!)

Me - I can't, I'm pregnant. (I should've just said no! lol!)

Pervy old man - That's what you get for screwing around!

Me - *gives him the finger* F--k you!

Pervy old man - *laughs*


That's about it. Really.
post #27 of 85
If you think having your third is bad try having your ninth, LOL. We were at IKEA the other day and I had the four little ones with me. This guy in line COULD NOT get over the fact that I had FOUR whole kids. He was going on and on about it so finally I said "I have four more at home and one on the way". OH MY! I thought I had killed the poor guy. He started shouting it across the store to his wife and to all the people in line in front of us. Hmm - maybe I should have my own TV show, LOL.
post #28 of 85
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If you think having your third is bad try having your ninth, LOL. We were at IKEA the other day and I had the four little ones with me. This guy in line COULD NOT get over the fact that I had FOUR whole kids. He was going on and on about it so finally I said "I have four more at home and one on the way". OH MY! I thought I had killed the poor guy. He started shouting it across the store to his wife and to all the people in line in front of us. Hmm - maybe I should have my own TV show, LOL.
We're expecting our 6th, can't wait for this to start!
post #29 of 85
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...because anything more than two means we have to get a mini-van!

charlene
How do you get the pregnancy ticker at the bottom???
post #30 of 85
I have not had any comments yet, this pgcy, because I have not told anyone yet. But I am always getting rude comments, usually something regarding me not knowing where babies come from or don't I have enough already.

I actually don't think there is a "large family" comment that I have not gotten in the last few years.

I have just grown to expect it and ignore it.
post #31 of 85
As I was explaining to someone who'd asked how I was doing with this pregnancy, that I was actually having a very hard time, but being medicated was making a huge difference, she ended up saying flippantly, "what did women do before modern medicine?" We got interrupted by kids before I could stammer out, "Uh, some of them didn't do so well, actually."

Mostly, it's just been comments about how of course we want a boy, right? I don't really care. Really. I don't care. Even asking the kids if they're hoping it's a boy. Dd1 always gives her long-winded explanation of, "Well, I do think it would neat to have a little brother, since I've never had one before, but it would also be neat to have a family with three sisters, so I'll be happy either way!"
post #32 of 85
My grandmother said "surely you arent going to have time to do all that stuff you did with Jocelyn" she meant attachment parenting. I wanted to say "oh no granny Im thinking Ill be too busy to be a good parent, I may not hold the baby at all!"

My family gave me a lot of crap about our AP hippie ways and swore that it wasnt sustainable and I will never be able to do it with 2. Frankly, I just think I am a better parent and they would like it if I failed because it would make them feel better!
post #33 of 85
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Mostly, it's just been comments about how of course we want a boy, right? I don't really care. Really. I don't care. Even asking the kids if they're hoping it's a boy. Dd1 always gives her long-winded explanation of, "Well, I do think it would neat to have a little brother, since I've never had one before, but it would also be neat to have a family with three sisters, so I'll be happy either way!"
That's all my comments so far, too. Everyone expects that we want a boy more than anything else in the world since we have two girls already, but honestly I don't care. Boy or girl, they will be loved so much. It seems like everyone but DH and I are rooting for this baby to be a boy. DD1 is especially hoping for a boy, but we feel strongly this is another girl, so we keep telling her there is a chance this is a girl baby so don't get too disappointed if it's a girl.
post #34 of 85
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I feel like saying "so, how's your sex life?" or "why do you only have two kids. Are you baron?" I mean, REALLY. It's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! So shut it!


HA HA HA HA
post #35 of 85
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Originally Posted by ekblad9 View Post
If you think having your third is bad try having your ninth, LOL. We were at IKEA the other day and I had the four little ones with me. This guy in line COULD NOT get over the fact that I had FOUR whole kids. He was going on and on about it so finally I said "I have four more at home and one on the way". OH MY! I thought I had killed the poor guy. He started shouting it across the store to his wife and to all the people in line in front of us. Hmm - maybe I should have my own TV show, LOL.
wow- how funny!
I think really, it just boils down to the fact that some people can't handle very many kids ,therefore nobody can. I mean, kids are such trouble right? Who needs more than 2?

I can't believe some of the comments people have made to me about having 3 right in front of my three kids.
post #36 of 85
Sorry, just had to jump in here and say that we just moved from Utah about a year ago. There, you are considered weird if you don't have at least six kids. Funny how things are different in different places.
post #37 of 85
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Sorry, just had to jump in here and say that we just moved from Utah about a year ago. There, you are considered weird if you don't have at least six kids. Funny how things are different in different places.

I wonder if that has anything to do with how expensive things are in certain areas? i.e. if you live in a really expensive area (housing, petrol, goceries, etc.) the norm is to have smaller families?

charlene
post #38 of 85
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NooooooooooOOOOO! I would have slapped someone's head off with my non-violent slappy hands!


I NEVER hit out of anger, but I'm going to have to quote you there, because it was so excellent.
post #39 of 85
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Originally Posted by ekblad9 View Post
If you think having your third is bad try having your ninth, LOL. We were at IKEA the other day and I had the four little ones with me. This guy in line COULD NOT get over the fact that I had FOUR whole kids. He was going on and on about it so finally I said "I have four more at home and one on the way". OH MY! I thought I had killed the poor guy. He started shouting it across the store to his wife and to all the people in line in front of us. Hmm - maybe I should have my own TV show, LOL.
My mother had 7 other brothers and sisters, and my grandparents would always make this joke (its not really a joke because its true) that the reason we only have portraits of the first 4 children, is because they got tired of people bitching about how many kids they had!

But really, there should be a hidden camera show about the ridiculous comments made to pregnant people. Its like America's Funnies Home Videos, except everyone is pregnant, and angry...and not many people would watch it...... boo whoo
post #40 of 85
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Originally Posted by first_shot_photo View Post
But really, there should be a hidden camera show about the ridiculous comments made to pregnant people. Its like America's Funnies Home Videos, except everyone is pregnant, and angry...and not many people would watch it...... boo whoo
I don't know, I would watch a show like that. The problem is that it could be very dangerous. I mean really, rudeness and a very hormonal woman? I can just see the reality show now. More like a Jerry Springer show! :
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