February 09 mamas-a new home here? - Page 51

[mckittre]

Happy Birthday Owyn! Cute pictures. I can't believe how much hair she has!

Hugs to all the burnt out workers! I work at home, and my trouble lately is that Katmai's getting harder to distract, so I'm not getting as much done. And my yurt is a disaster right now.

[justKate]

I have catching up to do! Can you all believe there are 1000 posts on this thread?! We've got to be the rockinest postpartum DDC ever.

Anyway, my parents were in town for Aubs b-day on V-day and I've been on the internet waaay too much at work, so I've been trying to stay away. Aubrey took her first steps on Jan. 26, and yesterday we walked nearly a block down the street together. She has made it very clear that crawling is for babies, and as she is now very grown up, she will not be doing that any more. We got her first pair of "real" shoes, and I was shocked that she basically skipped all of the itty bitty sizes. Girl is small, except for her feet: diaper, size 2; shoes, size 4.5.

Still not many words, exactly, but she's definitely getting more expressive. She says mama, baba (dada), bah-oo (balloon), and boo (boobies). She signs food. I guess we can see what her priorities are.

Its so weird to think of our little babies as toddlers. Hooray for all of the walkers and talkers! I'll be back to chat more soon....

[Thursday Girl]

i feel you on the baby thing. yesterday at the playground Junie was following her 7 year old sister around, climbing up the chain cargo nets and such. I kept telling her "junie you forget your 1 year old!" The other day she walked 3 .5 blocks to my sisters house, refused to be carried.

oh nilla i am so sorry, that really is super tough. and uggh on the mouses. we have a rat/mouse thing that we are fighting, such a PIA!!

wow i have missed alot. possible job changes, walkers, birthdays, talkers and all. I so need to try and get on more often. I will work on it.

[justKate]

Ugh, girls, I had an oops last night. I forgot to take my mini-pill Monday night then DTD Tuesday evening. Someone please tell me that there's nothing to worry about because AF hasn't returned. Please. I feel like such a (distraught) idiot.

[Vegan Princess]

Oh no Kate! I'm sure it will be fine. I'm no expert on whether or not you are ovulating right now but what's done is done. So just try to relax. Hugs!

Speaking of getting prego. I just started a 12 week body for life challenge yesterday to try and regain some of the muscle tone I've lost since getting pregnant. And then when I am done with the challenge it will be June and that is when we plan to start trying again...so then I can get out of shape again. LOL. That seems so close to now!!! Kinda scary!!

Cindy

[Thursday Girl]

kate most likely it should be okay. you could be ovulating, but the chances are pretty slim, and if you are ovulating the chances are even slimmer that you are RIGHT NOW and fertile.

Cindy that is exciting.

i have tooth pain that is kicking my butt and it is starting to make my neck kind of near the lymphnode hurt. i kind of wish i could just pass out so i wouldn't have to feel it. No such luck of course. BUT tonight I am goign to see Little house the musical with my two older girls courtesy of my sister who bought the tickets as there birthday presents.

[AKislandgirl]

Kate,

Thursday, hope your tooth feels better soon and have fun with your girls tonight. Sounds great!

Cindy, sounds great! I'm trying to get myself back in shape as well. I'm also considering doing rolphing to help with various aches and pains before ttc again. We are thinking this fall/winter. I need to take clomid and that often dries your milk up so we'll see how much fiona is nursing at that point. It's fun and overwhelming to think about another baby isn't it?!

[Nillarilla]

Thursday do you have cloves or clove oil? Just a drop will give you relief from the tooth pain.

I called an exterminator about our mouse problem. They are coming on Monday and it's $360 for a year's coverage from all pests with a guarantee. At this point I'll pay anything to have the problem dealt with. It just freaks me right out with mouse droppings everywhere. I cleaned for 2 days straight. Haven't even touched the basement yet. That's next weeks task....

I'm back to work tommorow and I'm really not looking forward to it. I hate working the weekends because I have this awful coworker who's always in charge plus that's when my dh's off. So now we will go 2 weeks without a day off together.

Delia will walk around holding dh's hand but not mine. I know it shouldn't but it makes me sad.

[starling&diesel]

We didn't get the co-op.

They put us on the wait list for a three bedroom, which we don't want as it's more expensive. I think they looked at our income and decided we 'belonged' in three bedroom.

So, we are still house poor. And I'll have to go full time. Unless we decide to throw in the towel and move to a rental. But with a little one, a dog and a cat, not so sure we'd be the preferred choice, especially us being a couple of tattooed dykes.

We'd gotten our hopes up, and had started dreaming and planning about what we could do with a little extra money. Sucks.

[AKislandgirl]

Shoot Starling! I was really hoping it would work out for you guys. That sucks. Stupid coop people!

[Vegan Princess]

Oh no! So sorry Starling!! Did you ask them to put you on the wait list for a 2 bedroom instead? I hope you can find a solution so you can stick with part time! Perhaps another coop?

Cindy

[Mal85]

Starling, that really does suck.

Cindy, we're planning to start trying this summer too. It is a little overwhelming to think about having another, but I know it'll be great. Everytime I'm around a little baby, I get that want for one of my own. I really can't wait to be pregnant again, I loved being pregnant! A lot of my anxiety was about my daycare situation, though. I really didn't think I could handle adding a newborn to the mix, but I hate to use that as a reason to not expand my family when we felt it was time. It helped ease my fears when I decided to just cut back on the number of kids I'm keeping once I get pregnant again.

Are any of your babies whining? Owyn has been really whiny lately. And I think whining is my biggest pet peave. She doesn't cry, she just stands at my legs and whines and fusses. But when I pick her up, she whines to get back down. I was putting her in the Babyhawk quite a bit when she would start whining, but it messed up my shoulder so I've had to take a break until it feels better.

[Everrgreen]

Starling - Oh no! That's so disappointing It doesn't really make sense that they would decide on your behalf that you need a 3 bedroom

Mal - Oh yes, Royce is a whiner! Usually it is one of two things: he's tired or he's hungry. I mentioned this before here, snacks are a cure-all for him!

Nilla - I really feel for you mama's having to return to work. I hope it is going okay. And I hope the mouse issue gets solved quickly. What a pain!

Thursday - Ugh, tooth pain is horrible! Are you getting it checked out to see if it's a major issue?

As for all the 'next baby' talk, it will be a while for that for me! Mainly because I no longer have a husband, but I've also really decided that a larger spacing is more for me anyway. I like the idea of being able to focus on just Royce for now. And I've read a few threads around here about larger spacings and I really like a lot of the pros that come with it. But we'll see how the future goes.

As for me, I am currently recovering from the most horrific illness I have ever experienced in my life. I am seriously not exaggerating! I had a stomach flu and was extremely sick all through the night Monday, couldn't sleep and couldn't keep anything down. Yesterday I was able to keep some fluids down, and today I've been able to eat some foods. So far Royce is still in the clear and I'm desperately hoping it stays that way (I sort of figure he would have it by now, right? But I don't want to jinx that...) My milk supply has taken a hit from the dehydration. My breasts are quite noticeably smaller and Royce has been very annoyed when I try and nurse. I keep offering the breast though, I hope it comes back soon. I may go get some supplements tomorrow if things don't seem better.

[justKate]

Ugh, Starling, Ugh! That has got to be sooo frustrating. Lousy coop people.

Cindy and Mal, you girls are so brave.

Nilla, I hear you on work. I hate it hate it hate it right now. Honestly I've gone from being someone who was really proud of my work to just doing enough not to get fired. And I really don't care, because I just want to be with my monkey. Stupid jobs.

Gillian, . You've been through so much. My oops is scaring me right now b/c I'm not sure my marriage could handle it. On the bright side, isn't it adoreable how the little ones get frustrated when the breasts don't act like they're supposed to? I'm sure once you get rehydrated your supply will be fine--just keep him at it!

[starling&diesel]

Originally Posted by Vegan Princess

Oh no! So sorry Starling!! Did you ask them to put you on the wait list for a 2 bedroom instead? I hope you can find a solution so you can stick with part time! Perhaps another coop?

Cindy

We're on waitlists for other co-ops, but were invited to apply to this one ...

Originally Posted by Mal85

Are any of your babies whining? Owyn has been really whiny lately. And I think whining is my biggest pet peave.

Esmé is a bit whiny ... but I don't engage with it. I ask her what she needs, and she uses a word instead. My best friend with a babe the same age is dealing with 24/7 whining, and watching her, I think I'd collapse in a heap of frustration. Esmé is getting VERY good at her words, even if it's just "up, please" or "down, please" which sound more like "Up! Peas!" or "Dow! Peas!

Originally Posted by Gillian28

Starling - Oh no! That's so disappointing It doesn't really make sense that they would decide on your behalf that you need a 3 bedroom


As for all the 'next baby' talk, it will be a while for that for me!

As for me, I am currently recovering from the most horrific illness I have ever experienced in my life.

I had the same gross sickness! Good LORD it was comin' outta BOTH ENDS AT THE SAME TIME! We all had it, so knock on wood your little guy will escape it.

And how is it going? Being a single mama? How's the separation going? I think of you often ...

And as for them deciding that we need a 3 bedroom ... sooo frustrating. We wanted the two bedroom as it was way cheaper and we don't need three bedrooms. We co-sleep and will be for a while ...

Originally Posted by justKate

Ugh, Starling, Ugh! That has got to be sooo frustrating. Lousy coop people.

Lousy coop people indeed.

And stupid jobs.

Couldn't agree more!

And on a side-note ... I just figured out how to multi-quote!

[mckittre]

I'm sorry Starling! That sucks that they wouldn't consider you for a smaller place!

Hugs Kate - I'm sure the chances are low that this particular oops will be a problem, and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Good luck to those of you thinking about another baby soon. I'm definitely not ready for another baby myself. Actually, I think there's a better than even chance we'll stick with just one. We're pretty happy as a threesome.

Katmai whines some. Worse when he's tired. We're finally settling into a better nap schedule for him (one 2-2.5 hour nap in the middle of the day), which helps a lot (and helps us get work done too). I would love to have him use words, but we're not there yet - slowly picking up more signs though.

We're headed out of town in a week on book tour, and I'm kind of dreading it. I don't know why I thought it would be a good idea to bring a one year old on a long road trip...

[Mal85]

I wish I could just ask her what she needs, but no words here yet. Just that whiny fuss. I try not to engage her when she starts with it, but she just keeps going and going until I do something. Which I'm sure just fuels the fire.

Yesterday, DH was off work, so he took her at the end of my work day and went to visit with his parents for a little while. I had the house to myself for about an hour. I had sooo much to do, but I just took advantage and laid on the couch reading a book until they got back. I think she really needed some time out of the house and I really needed some me time. We were both in a much better mood when she got home!

[Everrgreen]

Originally Posted by justKate

Gillian, . You've been through so much. My oops is scaring me right now b/c I'm not sure my marriage could handle it. On the bright side, isn't it adoreable how the little ones get frustrated when the breasts don't act like they're supposed to? I'm sure once you get rehydrated your supply will be fine--just keep him at it!

I'm sorry you and your dh are having a rough time. Royce nursed quite a bit through the nght last night and doesn't seem to be as frustrated, so I think the supply is coming back. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't nurse him!

Originally Posted by starling&diesel

I had the same gross sickness! Good LORD it was comin' outta BOTH ENDS AT THE SAME TIME! We all had it, so knock on wood your little guy will escape it.

And how is it going? Being a single mama? How's the separation going? I think of you often ...

And on a side-note ... I just figured out how to multi-quote!

Yep, that's the sickness - both ends It was so awful, I've never been sick like that before. And it's taking a while to recover my energy. I'm still feeling weak.

As for the separation, it is going to be permanent. He has changed so much, he's not the person I married, I can't even believe who he is turned into, it's very confusing. It's hard, but I suppose at least now I can try and move on, I won't be stuck in limbo anymore. As for single motherhood, I've pretty much been doing everything for Royce on my own from the start so it's not too much of a change in responsibility in that sense, the hardest thing now is having to single parent while dealing with my own emotional issues. He's a nice distraction from it all, but it can also be emotionally exhausting. But I'm managing. Thank you for thinking of me, it means a lot

And congrats on learning to multi-quote

Originally Posted by mckittre

We're headed out of town in a week on book tour, and I'm kind of dreading it. I don't know why I thought it would be a good idea to bring a one year old on a long road trip...

That sounds exciting! I'm sure your little world traveller will do fine How long are you gone for? Where are you going?

[starling&diesel]

Originally Posted by Gillian28

As for the separation, it is going to be permanent.

Oh, I'm sorry that it's progressing that way ... will you stay where you are, or is there a move planned? Is he involved much?

I was raised by a single mama, and have always valued and respected how much she did for me.

And as for the recovery from that gross bug ... it took a good couple of weeks before I felt truly okay. Hang in there, hon!

[starling&diesel]

Originally Posted by mckittre

I'm definitely not ready for another baby myself. Actually, I think there's a better than even chance we'll stick with just one. We're pretty happy as a threesome.

I'm right there with you, Mckittre ... we do adore our little triumvirate!
And as for the book tour road trip ... I'm sure it'll be fine. Well, perhaps trying, but ultimately fine. Can you dangle-nurse (as my DP calls it )? I hang my boob over the carseat so Esmé can nurse while strapped in. She's still RF so is not a huge fan of being in the car. I hope that when we turn her she'll be a little happier. Have fun on your book tour!
I'm also an author, and I personally despise tours. I'm always paranoid that no one will show.

Originally Posted by Mal85

I had the house to myself for about an hour. I had sooo much to do, but I just took advantage and laid on the couch reading a book until they got back.

Sounds dreamy! I went out for coffee and scrabble with my sister the other morning when DP was home to be with Esmé ... it was so refreshing!