any advice for getting OB on board with homebirth? - Page 2

[mysticmomma]

Good info here: http://www.meetup.com/la-birthchoices/

[~Kristina~]

Do you have to tell her? Midwives do prenatal care so I think you could just skip the ob step.


ETA: I just caught up on the thread...

[GoldmanBaby09]

Originally Posted by mysticmomma

So I'm guessing you are using a CPM. CNM's are not bound by this law. Here is the law

Does anyone else get as infuriated as I do about the regulation of midwives in this country? Being forced to see an OB when that is clearly not what you want for your prenatal care does not seem right at all to me. I especially love that the OB must meet ACOG standards. I wonder who lobbied for that law in Louisiana? Or my lovely state where midwifery isn't illegal, but not exactly legal, either. Grrr! Maybe this is a vent for another post. . .

[mamatolevi]

I can see why someone using an OB wouldn't tell them about their HB plans as most OBs will not support a home birth, but why would you give any dr money for your care if that dr doesn't provide the kind of care you want? It's like any other business, if you don't like how the owners run the business why shop there? Stick with whomever the midwife is recommending and support a practice that supports your birth philosophy.

If you really have a great relationship with this OB and feel she might be pretty progressive, then see her and talk to her. She's obviously earned your respect, so treat her accordingly but be completely honest with her. Tell her why you don't want to birth in hospital - that it's not her, but the protocols that are so awful.

Personally, I can't support a practice with any of my care that had a high c/s rate, or that refused VBACS or that I heard was pulling the bait and switch routine. It's too important an issue to me, so even for my gyn care I will only use the practice that I know supports my goals.

[JenniferLS]

Thank you Mysticmomma...

the law you cited sounds about right. I think I'm going to at least try getting my OB on board...and if it doesn't work out, then I'll just have to find someone else for future care.

[tourist.]

I had a great experience when telling my OB. He did have reservations about me having a homebirth with my first, but was absolutely fine with it for subsequent births.

The reason he was my OB in the first place was because he's got a similar philosophy as I do about birth...and that is that it's natural, doesn't usually need to be medical, it doesn't ever go by the book, and that doctor's meddle way too much with the process (his words). The only thing we disagreed on was the "24 hours after water breaks..." He was a stickler for that rule.

Also, he agreed to take me back as a patient during the pregnancy should the need for "medical" care arrise.

I'm taking my baby to meet him at the end of the month. I'm super excited to talk to him about my experience.

[Bluegoat]

If you like the doctor, I would talk to her about it. You don't need to ask her permission, just tell her what your decision is and that you would really like her to provide the obligatory visits and if required you would transfer to her care.

At that point, if she isn't comfortable with that scenario, she can refuse, which is her right. If she wants to know why you want the home birth, be honest. I don't see the need for a lot of sneaking around - if she's been a good doctor to you, that's something worth preserving.

[JenniferLS]

Bluegoat

Originally Posted by Bluegoat

If you like the doctor, I would talk to her about it. You don't need to ask her permission, just tell her what your decision is and that you would really like her to provide the obligatory visits and if required you would transfer to her care.

At that point, if she isn't comfortable with that scenario, she can refuse, which is her right. If she wants to know why you want the home birth, be honest. I don't see the need for a lot of sneaking around - if she's been a good doctor to you, that's something worth preserving.

EXCELLENT POINT!!!!!!!!!!!! I think this will be my approach! Thank you!

[mysticmomma]

Be sure to post an update! And you may also wish to mention that she could actually get more clients this way. Your referral of her willingness to support a womans choice...

[JenniferLS]

Originally Posted by mysticmomma

Be sure to post an update! And you may also wish to mention that she could actually get more clients this way. Your referral of her willingness to support a womans choice...

Will do! And thanks for all the encouragement. Tomorrow I meet the midwife...my husband just admitted that he's only a little open-minded about doing a homebirth. I, on the other hand, have my mind made up...
i think in time, my husband will see the light.