Originally Posted by nudhistbudhist
I think the note is a great idea, and I have sent out emails and had conversations about the same stuff with my family and friends. Luckily, everyone knows that I am a hardcore environmentalist, so much so that we dont use diapers OF ANY KIND so no one was surprised. I think that these days, with the state of the Earth, its time to get SERIOUS about lifestyle choices! To not send the note is to be an enabler
PREACHY? C'mon! if your parents are likely to buy that stuff, they need some preachin!!!! Having a child can amount to a lot of made in china, toxic, earth abusing crapola over the years. Why not start out on the right foot with everyone? Set a precedent. My family knows my child is not even allowed to touch plastic toys, so they wont buy it EVER!
As for gift registries, all my favorite organic, earth friendly baby stores online have registries now. I live in the middle of no where, so we always shop online anyways. Good luck!
Of all the above entries, I think I'm agreeing with this statement the most. Not necessarily word for word, but in general.
I personally liked the orginal letter, but I liked the revised version (the first one I think, that referenced Mr. Bena and such) better. It is all about the wording.
I think part of it depends on who you're sending this letter to- is it going out to everyone you know-neighbors, coworkers, friends and family- or just close family and friends?
For me, if it was just my friends and family, they know me and wouldn't be surprised a bit by a letter like this. In fact, it's of similar nature to the one I send out to my mom, MIL, and brothers and sister who i know have NO CLUE what to get a kid of X age for Christmas. I have specifically stated several times...No Liscensed Characters (especially before age one- my ds didn't watch tv, it's not he knows who those people/monsters/superheroes are).
But back to the baby registry part (I'm easliy distracted). The online registry thing sounds cool, but it depends on your circle of friends and family. With mine, I know some people would love it and totally go by that to get gifts, but others (like my MIL) are STILL nervous about buying online- so she wouldn't even look at it, even to just use as an idea-getter. So you could win, or you could not.
As it's been hashed out in all the other posts- there are people who love registries, and people who don't. There are people who will ONLY shop off them, and there are people who will just get you what they think you need (and there are people who will get you the "Really? What am I going to do with this?). Bottom line- you're never going to make everyone happy.
Despite hating the big box stores, a couple PPs made excellent points 1) their return policies are getting worse and worse and 2) registering at their store does make it a litte bit easier to exchange for what you do need. IS there a store that has SOME necessities that you could/would use? Just so you have one place for your more mainstream acquintances to buy from? You will be surprised how many people will buy gifts for your little one (I only had 5 people at my shower...FIVE...but after the baby was born...my mom's co-workers, my husband's boss's secretary, the neighbor gal we had JUST met a month earlier...ALL bought stuff).
Good luck to you in figuring this whole thing out. I'm glad you're thinking about what kind of stuff you want surrounding your new baby. Too many people think that just because they make it...they need it. agh.