A question of propriety for muslims

[afishwithabike]

Do you think it's at all disrespectful to wear hijabs since it's not necessarily part of my culture or religion? or do you think it honours and respects the rich heritage of Islamic beliefs? I am of modest tastes and my religious convictions have drawn me to headcovering as well as modest attire.

[Summertime Mommy]

I wouldn't care if you wore hijab. You would probably have a lot of people saying salam to you, but if you don,t mind that, then I don't see the big deal.

[afishwithabike]

Originally Posted by Summertime Mommy

I wouldn't care if you wore hijab. You would probably have a lot of people saying salam to you, but if you don,t mind that, then I don't see the big deal.

That wouldn't bother me in the least. I truly do have a high level of respect for the religion. I know we are not of the same beliefs but I can appreciate anybody who immerses themselves in their religion so whole-heartedly. That is what I am called to as well, a whole hearted devotion.

[umsami]

Originally Posted by afishwithabike

Do you think it's at all disrespectful to wear hijabs since it's not necessarily part of my culture or religion? or do you think it honours and respects the rich heritage of Islamic beliefs? I am of modest tastes and my religious convictions have drawn me to headcovering as well as modest attire.

I don't think a hijab is uniquely Muslim. It's a scarf. I guess if you wrap it in a certain way... or go for an Al Amirah type (two piece... basically tubes...no pins)... it might be. But depending on how a scarf is tied, it can look like a Bubushka...or even a stylish Grace Kelly/50s type thing.

I don't know of any Muslims who would mind, though. They'd probably think it was cool.

[feefee89]

Originally Posted by Summertime Mommy

I wouldn't care if you wore hijab. You would probably have a lot of people saying salam to you, but if you don,t mind that, then I don't see the big deal.

Ditto. =)

[lilyka]

Here they sell them at the multi-cultural fair . . . .so I am assuming they don't mind who wears them. Modesty is good regardless of your reasons IMHO

[Liquesce]

Originally Posted by afishwithabike

Do you think it's at all disrespectful to wear hijabs since it's not necessarily part of my culture or religion? or do you think it honours and respects the rich heritage of Islamic beliefs?

Neither. Not muslim = not muslim dress.

[afishwithabike]

This thread is quite informative. Thank you all ever so much for stopping by and adding information.

[Tuesday]

I agree with Liquesce.

Incidentally, I'm not Muslim. I frequently wear hijab scarves and hijab sleeves but tied in a non Muslim style (i.e. my throat, shoulders are not covered). I wear the scarves and sleeves because I like the look and I also have alopecia so it is a pretty alternative to a wig.

[afishwithabike]

So if I'm reading everybody appropriately the hijab is more about a type of modest apparel than attached to a culture. This is what I needed to know. Until now when I cover my hair I tied it behind my neck or under my "hair". I've had thyroid surgery and the scar isn't going away. I wanted to check into wearing a hijab so that I could cover, be modest and NOBODY would have to see my surgery scar. I only cover at religious times anyhow.. (meetings at church, times of prayer etc) as this is what my husband sees acceptable. I love that I had somewhere to ask these things. I wouldn't want to show any disrespect to ANYBODY. Again thank you all for helping me through this difficult time.

[Liquesce]

Originally Posted by afishwithabike

So if I'm reading everybody appropriately the hijab is more about a type of modest apparel than attached to a culture. This is what I needed to know. Until now when I cover my hair I tied it behind my neck or under my "hair". I've had thyroid surgery and the scar isn't going away. I wanted to check into wearing a hijab so that I could cover, be modest and NOBODY would have to see my surgery scar. I only cover at religious times anyhow.. (meetings at church, times of prayer etc) as this is what my husband sees acceptable. I love that I had somewhere to ask these things. I wouldn't want to show any disrespect to ANYBODY. Again thank you all for helping me through this difficult time.

That kind of scar would be pretty low on the throat, right? If so you might like some of the looser looks at Symmetry Fashion ... their angle is going without pins, but if you wanted you could do the same with just pinning at the nape and loosely draping the ends around so that they just cover what you want covered. Not that any Muslim would ever nominate you for tarring and feathering for looking highly traditionally Muslim. Just for some fashion inspiration if you're interested.

[genifer]

I truly do have a high level of respect for the religion. I know we are not of the same beliefs but I can appreciate anybody who immerses themselves in their religion so whole-heartedly. That is what I am called to as well, a whole hearted devotion.

Just wanted to make a note about this comment, that I agree with that so much, and have since I became a christian. There have been times, this may sound silly, but its almost taken my breath away when I see the devotion of someone of another faith.

Now, onto headcoverings. Ive wanted, for the longest time, to find a way of covering at times, that didnt look specifically religious... altho for me it would be for religious reasons. I have found that in some circles, Im talking christian circles, NOT at all speaking about muslims or anyone else (bc I wouldnt know for sure), that a head covering, sometimes ...seems like... its for show. And ive wanted to avoid that 'showyness'. Also, once I was praying with my head covered and dh walked in and he almost freaked out, lol, he's so funny! I dont know what he thought actually but he didnt particularly like me covering my head, not in a bossy way, but in a sort of 'what are you on?' kind of way, lol. But, Ive not even discussed it with him actually, I have wanted to find a discreet as possible way of covering, without looking like Im trying to show off how discreet I am. Im thinking Erica Badu, or maybe I could pass it off as fashionable. Ive thought of that. Sigh. Anyway, Fish, its good to see ya around again, and I like this thread. So cheers for starting it.

[afishwithabike]

Originally Posted by Liquesce

That kind of scar would be pretty low on the throat, right? If so you might like some of the looser looks at Symmetry Fashion ... their angle is going without pins, but if you wanted you could do the same with just pinning at the nape and loosely draping the ends around so that they just cover what you want covered. Not that any Muslim would ever nominate you for tarring and feathering for looking highly traditionally Muslim. Just for some fashion inspiration if you're interested.

Thank you for the link and information. Yes, the scar is low on the neck. Normally the scar goes away pretty quickly and is difficult to see. For me though I have tough tissue and it was difficult for them to get it done. With my scarf tied behind it's more noticable because my neck is pretty visible. I LOVE the scarves in the link. How beautiful.