Sharing the News

[wendimarie]

When do you plan to share your news with others (family, friends, etc.)?

[pictureframe]

I told my mom and sister right away and will tell two friends soon, but DH's family and other friends will be later. I'm not sure we'll wait for the second trimester, but not yet.

[JamesMama]

I've told a couple friends, that's it so far. We will tell our families probably around 10-13 weeks. They'll be less than thrilled so we don't want to say anything yet, don't need their negativity!

[mtnmoonmama]

I've told a couple of very close friends and my sisters, but no one else yet. I've had several losses, so I am still feeling very cautious, although it is soooo hard not to shout it out!

[wendimarie]

I know! I am wanting to shout it out as well.

I have told my sister and a few close friends but that is all. I would like to tell more of my friends but feel we should tell our families first. For me I have a hard time telling my parents - just very uncomfortable showing emotion or being vulnerable around them. So strange I know. They never knew about my pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. For some reason we just hadn't told people yet and I was at 8 weeks. With my daughter (pregnancy following miscarriage) we told everyone right away.

Lots of sticky dust for everyone!

[moondiapers]

My BFF and DH and kids know. That's it. They know because I have to inject meds when pregnant.
Everyone else has to wait until I hear a hearbeat at least.

[Fujiko]

Originally Posted by wendimarie

I know! I am wanting to shout it out as well.

I have told my sister and a few close friends but that is all. I would like to tell more of my friends but feel we should tell our families first. For me I have a hard time telling my parents - just very uncomfortable showing emotion or being vulnerable around them. So strange I know. They never knew about my pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. For some reason we just hadn't told people yet and I was at 8 weeks. With my daughter (pregnancy following miscarriage) we told everyone right away.

Lots of sticky dust for everyone!

I'm the same way about my parents! I have no idea why, but I've always been that way. Maybe it has something to do with the "I'll give you something to cry about" line. Anyway, last time I didn't tell them until I was about 12 weeks. I could tell they were a bit shocked that I was that far along. This time I told my parents the same day I found out, and I told a friend, and dh told his mom (who will no doubt blab it to the entire states of North Dakota and Minnesota ), but we're not telling anyone else for maybe a month or so. I don't want to tempt fate, kwim? Now I kinda wish I had waited. I liked reveling in our secret last time.

[starshine1001]

So far both my husbands and my BFF's know, my Mom and step-mom know, and my husband's barber knows. Oh, and my sister. But that's it for now. We'll tell everyone else in a couple of months. We're going to a family member's wedding in August, so we'll probably tell them after that...don't want to seem like we're trying to steal their thunder or anything. Nobody at work knows. I think I'll wait till I start getting asked if I'm pregnant or not, or if I just HAVE to tell them (like if I'm assigned a patient with meningitis or chicken pox or something like that).

[Valid28]

I haven't told anyone but dh so far. My sil is pregnant with her first and due to deliver literally any day, I don't want to steal her thunder. Maybe I'll tell on Father's Day.

[wendimarie]

Has anyone contacted their care provider(s) yet? I don't plan to go in to see my midwives until 10-12 weeks but I am thinking that maybe next week I will give them a heads up.

[starshine1001]

wendi ~ I plan on 10-12 weeks as well, but since I'm new to the area, I have to shop around for midwives.

[moondiapers]

Originally Posted by wendimarie

Has anyone contacted their care provider(s) yet? I don't plan to go in to see my midwives until 10-12 weeks but I am thinking that maybe next week I will give them a heads up.

I have an appt. 6/4 to get the results for my second HCG test

[FertileMertel]

Originally Posted by wendimarie

Has anyone contacted their care provider(s) yet? I don't plan to go in to see my midwives until 10-12 weeks but I am thinking that maybe next week I will give them a heads up.

I contacted mine b/c I'm high risk for an ectopic pregnancy. I will get my hcg results Monday and hopefully my first u/s next week as well to make sure my little sesame seed has implanted in the right place! I'm a little worried right now. My ob said they like to first see normal patients at 8 weeks, but when I find out everything is ok, I will be going to seeking out a new midwife.

We told the family/friends and my husband told his staff (lots of Jan/Feb babies due there) I figure it helps people be more sensitive if they know what's going on. If we lose this baby, they can mourn with us and then celebrate with the next pregnancy. To me, it's better for people to know I was pregnant and lost the baby than people hinting around and asking "so when are you guys going to have another?" when we have just lost one.

[starshine1001]

Well, I ended up having to tell the folks at work today. I came in this morning, and I was assigned a patient with active tuberculosis! So I had to break the news so that I can minimize my exposure...

[FertileMertel]

Yikes!

Originally Posted by starshine1001

Well, I ended up having to tell the folks at work today. I came in this morning, and I was assigned a patient with active tuberculosis! So I had to break the news so that I can minimize my exposure...

Good thing you knew ahead of time!

[intelgal]

We are planning to tell our parents on Father's Day. This is our first baby and the first great grand child and grand child of my dad's side of the family! It is so so difficult to keep it to ourselves. So far, a few of my coworkers know. I needed advice on maternity leave and my rights through the union as a non-tenured public school teacher.

I am thinking about letting myself one person every week that I am farther along until we get to father's day. Maybe my sister and 1-2 close friends =)

My DH's brother and SIL have been trying for several years including AI without success. I know they will be very happy for us and they are certainly not the bitter jealous type. What is the best way to break the news to them?

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by intelgal

We are planning to tell our parents on Father's Day. This is our first baby and the first great grand child and grand child of my dad's side of the family! It is so so difficult to keep it to ourselves. So far, a few of my coworkers know. I needed advice on maternity leave and my rights through the union as a non-tenured public school teacher.

I am thinking about letting myself one person every week that I am farther along until we get to father's day. Maybe my sister and 1-2 close friends =)

My DH's brother and SIL have been trying for several years including AI without success. I know they will be very happy for us and they are certainly not the bitter jealous type. What is the best way to break the news to them?

Personally I would have DH take his brother out and I would go out to lunch with SIL and break the news without the rest of the family. That way they can have their reactions/feelings without a bunch of other family around to throw looks at them to see what they do.

We've told a few people. I'm not ready to tell my father. Or my younger sister. I told my older sister (who told her DH and I think his grandmother because they were visiting her,) aunt, MIL and my (unofficially adopted) youngest sister who lives in Vegas. DH told his buddies at work (3 people I think? Word travels fast there though...)

The hardest part now is I have to find a job. I was in process of getting hired at another prison as a CO in training, but I don't think they'll hire me now.

[intelgal]

thank you

we actually don't live close to each other (1-2 hours of plane ride) and we will not be breaking the news in a group

I will have DH call his brother after we call his parents.

[Pinoikoi]

I am just planning on showing up at work big and round in late August and shock the heck out of everyone.

[chai]

I haven't told ANYONE, not even DH. I want to let him relax a bit before letting him know. Plus, I'm only 11 dpo, so who knows what will happen! I'm hoping for the best, of course.