Originally Posted by LoveOhm
Nope I am not into contacting men actually there are just too many online. Everytime I even try I start looking at the emails in my inbox at POF I start to feel overwealmed. Maybe at a different time. .
PULL YOUR PIC. Or put a horrible one up. Then YOU search the site with ridiculously harsh standards, which narrow the selection down to a very small group, and then choose only the ones who have smiles that melt your heart or eyes that pierce your soul, in their pics, and then email 5-10 of those types. You can narrow it down and make it smaller than it seems/feel at first. But to avoid that flooded inbox, just make sure you don't have an attractive pic up (in your case, best not to put any pic of all, or one that really could be anyone).
Originally Posted by LoveOhm
Okay so S&S is the first guy I am really liking who loves you as much as I do! That sounds like such a sweet date. Why were you at his office all night..... not at him place or yours was that a little odd? Still sounds really sweet! Can we keep him around for a little while....
Clark Kent is good looking but I need to hear a bit more about him once you two get together in person! .
Well, I think he wanted me to go hang out at his office space because there's a killer lounge area in it with home theater and great sound system, humongous wraparound couch, and a kitchen full of all types of beverages for us to drink. Plus the place is right dead center in town, and he himself lives way beneath his means in a tiny studio apartment. Which he took me to tonight after dinner.
We went to a japanese restaurant and enjoyed an amazing sushi dinner and then afterwards walked to his place. He is really starting to grow on me, looks wise. The last two times I've seen him I've been pleasantly surprised at first glance, like "who is this guy?! Way better looking than I remembered!" and he is loosening up and acting more confident around me rather than super shy and reserved like in the very beginning. We went to his place and sat on his balcony and enjoyed the weather and had a long talk over drinks about all kinds of things including European and American history during the Englightenment as well as during 20th century political turbulence and it moral issues including Finland's role in WWII. We also talked about how I helped a good friend of mine switch from a life as a private escort/call girl 8 years ago into living her dreams of working in art galleries (art is her passion) and becoming a NFL full-time mom, which is her life today. So a pretty wide myriad of discussions. Then he made a move and we kissed. The kissing is getting better. Not so monotonous. We lit candles and danced. Pretty great dancing, actually. And really great conversations when we were done dancing. His whole aura seems to light up these past couple of times, in my presence, and I like what I see reflected back at me through his smile and eyes. It's definitely evolving and he's definitely growing on me.
Clark Kent I had a date with a week and a half ago and he wants to take me to dinner tomorrow. He sent me a text today saying tomorrow would be good and he's sorry he's been busy lately but that he wants to emphasize that if we see each other, it's gotta be no strings attached, because he's not looking for anything 'serious.'
: I hate that crap. Just like with Pretty Fisherman. I'm not looking for something serious unless things unfold remarkably, amazingly well, and I know that each guy I meet is unlikely to be that kind of rare/super-great fit. I don't walk into each potential thinking I'll simply force a relationship no matter what. I want to let things evolve and play out the way they're meant to, and fizzle if/when they're meant to as well, so why do men seem to wanna state from the get go that they have these relationship limitations. Don't they realize that if they happen to meet someone and fall in love they will feel differently about giving up the perks of being single and it's hard to put yourself into that mindset before it happens? Or do they mean something differently....do they mean, "I know I just met you but I can tell right now that I find you extremely attractive and good for as much No-Strings-Attached fun I can possibly squeeze out of you for awhile, but I know I could never fall in love with you, so please be happy with a physical-only relationship, ok??"
Is that the translation from man-ese to Venus-speak?
Then again who knows what Smart & Sporty is thinking about relationships. I haven't asked him if he's looking or open to something unfolding potentially in a more seriou direction and he hasn't said anything. I told him I wanted proper romance and traditional dating and courtship without sexpectations being the motivating factor and he agreed wholeheartedly that he's on board for that and the 5 times we have met has proven that he meant it. He is such a chivalrous gentleman and I believe he has a good heart and strong character. I have put it out there that I dont' want to have No-Strings-Attached types of cheap encounters but then again am not looking to rush full steam ahead into a co-habitating ultra-serious relationship either, so... I'd like to do a middle-ground where things do mean something, there are strings attached but it evolves and unfolds slowly, and develops in a natural time frame with no frantic haste, etc.... and he has nodded emphatically and his body language has said that he agrees but he hasn't actually said. Then again I tend to dominate the conversation because I'm an uber extrovert and he's not. He's slowly taking up more and more of his share of the conversation. I hope he really blossoms and blows me away with what he has to say by date 10 or 20. I know he's intelligent enough to come up with quite interesting things to say but he is still quite reserved, compared with me.
I'm feeling 'eh' about seeing Clark Kent tomorrow because of the NSA comment and that he hasn't exactly pursued me to bits. He seems lukewarm and if he's lukewarm after we've met (and kissed!) in real life, then why even bother?
But then again I hate to throw away all that potential when we've only had two hours together so far and maybe he's just gotten lost in work and forgotten how awesome I am and if he spends a full evening with me he'll totally remember and his more focused, interested energy will revive and stay on for good. Or for awhile, anyways. I'm willing to give it one proper dinner date to see.
Pretty Fisherman has been quiet for 5-6 days. No big deal, we are not usually in daily contact.
KE and I are pals. It's nice.
Smoothie has vanished seemingly forever. Flower Boy had asked me to join him for 2-3 days in Italy next week but this seems crazy, and he hasn't called again to follow up with the invite, so I obviously won't be going.
I really want at least one decent contender to give S&S some competition.
sugarmoon, what's up? Socrates? Other guy with little spark but who made tons of money and was a great parenting partner to his ex?