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6/3/09 at 6:45pm
This is what I was thinking too.
I'd be happy just to have a new friend who's been there before. Really. I don't have many friends in this town (I'm newly arrived) who have supported my decision to separate. Except for the work colleagues at the job I was just fired from (including SCG).
Well, on my front, I got a response from SCG this afternoon. It's in French, and doesn't really say much, but it's friendly. It says hello, asks me how I am, says that I have really good perception - that he's not really a writer...seeing as how it took him two whole days to respond to my e-mail. He says that it was nice to share advice with someone who has the same 'difficulties' (ie separation - he separated from his partner a year ago and has a son the same as age as my older daughter).
Concerning rollerblading, he says that when he lived in Montreal he used two circuits, names them, and them tells me that he now rollerblades next to his house (which is just outside Montreal), it's not great but it's close to where he lives.
Then he says 'A +', which means talk to you later (but in a non-commital way) and signs his name.
I am surprised (and happy) he even responded at all (though maybe he had a slow day at work??). So, now what?? I mean, he's written the most out of all the other ex-colleagues I've had contact with. But what in the heck can I/should I do now?
debbie downer bs??
Sorry....I've been living outside the US for over 15 years...I think I've missed a lot of expressions.
ok so here is the scoop.... he called me last night and I did not pick up. I wanted him to miss me a lil. I called him back a couple hours later and the first thing he told me was this:
"you have not called or texted me the whole day! you dont love me anymore? where is the love? where is the affection?"
of course he said it in a joking kind of way and I used the same excuse he used on me, that I was very busy. We moved on and just chit-chatted like nothing. He also mentioned that if I lived closer he would be taking care of me since Im sick. I guess we are still on....
F&#¤ing stood up.
He kept texting "it'll be another half hour, so sorry I'm running late" and when it hit 2 hours late I texted him not to bother anymore, that we could do it tomorrow or some other time. No text back.
Met a guy online and everything seemed excellent until he admitted that he'd "never ever marry a girl who had ever been pregnant before." What an ass.
I went dancing with a girlfriend tonight and we had a blast. I'm so in a men-are-scum mindset.
I am so sorry that truly sucks, not sure he deserves to see you tomorrow, which guy is this? And what a odd comment from the guy online I have never heard such a think.... I have heard men who don't care to date women with kids but never a women who was prego, odd wording and if that is the case why would he contact you? So odd.
Glad you managed to still have a good time out with your girlfriend. Thank goodness for good girlfriends!
The following questions serve as a means of evaluation. You must trust your own perceptions and feelings to answer these questions. If you come up with even one answer you don't like, there is a good chance you will not have a healthy relationship.
Does he have a sense of joy in life?
Do you enjoy his ideas, and do you feel a rapport with him?
Do you feel a real connection, laughing together and catching meanings the same way?
Is there a best-friend quality to your relationship?
Do you feel relaxed with him?
Can you really be yourself without criticism?
Does he share his interests with you and express an interest in yours?
Does he speak openly and honestly about himself?
Do you feel warmth and understanding from him?
Is his humor often at the expense of others, or is it bitter or intimidating, or does it make you feel uncomfortable?
Does he seem distrustful of a number of other people?
Does he argue against your thoughts, ideas, feelings and experiences?
Is time spent with him not as pleasant as you usually anticipate?
Is his world composed of "good guys" and "bad guys"?
Does he seem to understand or remember things differently from you?
Does he make assumptions about you based on anecdotal evidence?