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post #81 of 275
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if someone was really INTO me like that from the get go I honestly would worry a bit about that... hello, can you say stalker.... lol no honestly though I met with a guy on match that was alredy that into me before we met calling me honey and texting me really early in the morning so he could be the first one to say good morning to me and while I do appreciate stuff like that in a partner this early from a complete stranger is a bit weird.... idk....
Oh no no this guy wasn't into me ina creepy, stalker, desperate, pathetic type way. He's actually quite calm, secure, confident, laid-back, nothing-to-prove, and NOT weird in any way. A successful business owner, actually. He just seemed really pleasantly happy with everything he learned about me and his interest in me was blatant and obvious, rather than him trying to be all mysterious, play the game, and act really cool and nonchalant about it. He was really great. I can just tell that he's like, "Wow, I really dig this girl and I am having/have had a great time talking with her." perfect reaction on a date, actually. Except..... not so sure I feel that spark.

And I think he did, to some extent. But he's good looking, so what's my problem?
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And I think he did, to some extent. But he's good looking, so what's my problem?
Hmn.....could it be his smell or his voice? LOL!!!

Love you.
post #83 of 275
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Hmn.....could it be his smell or his voice? LOL!!!

Love you.
Nice smells and great sounding voices are indeed my weak spots. You know me all too well, gorgeous.


His voice was 'ok' and I don't know what he smells like. So far no one in THIS city has had an awesome, awesome voice/smell combo like the vanishing guy in....oh goodness you all know where he lives...
Oh I just wanna :Puke puke listening to my self.

There's gotta be someone else in the whole g-d@mn : world who smells so good and sounds so heavenly. And I'm single and ready when he shows up.
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Oh I just wanna :Puke puke listening to my self.

There's gotta be someone else in the whole g-d@mn : world who smells so good and sounds so heavenly. And I'm single and ready when he shows up.

If it makes you feel any better, I had a dream about complications last night. I was exhausted (yes, exhausted in my dream!) and he was just holding me. At some point I realized it was a dream, and I looked up at him, as if to ask him wth was going on, and he just kinda shushed me and snuggled me back into him

AND, for the FML files....I was flipping through match last night and read one of those rare profiles that just sounds...right. Sounds like someone who thinks like me, sounds smart, funny, etc. I winked him, he winked me back, I wrote to him, he wrote back....

and told me that his life totally fell apart in April, he put a loaded gun in his mouth....didn't do it, but got fired, is on meds, in therapy, but totally broke.....Seriously? FML. Cause I need this. The first guy I've seen on there in a long time who I think I could really be myself and have fun around....Can I say it one more time? FML

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What does FML mean?
post #86 of 275
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what does FML mean sweetie? All I can think of is, "Fu¤#%ng My Luck".....
post #87 of 275
F#$#$ my life.
post #88 of 275
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So, do you give a 2nd chance to a first date where you didn't feel sparks?
I didn't think there were sparks with my guy at first, I thought we were on the path to "just friends" and he didn't even kiss me for the first two months when we were casually dating. I remember saying to some friends "maybe he doesn't think about me that way..."

First kiss - eh, it was so-so. But DAMN it got better soon after that! ;-)
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I didn't think there were sparks with my guy at first, I thought we were on the path to "just friends" and he didn't even kiss me for the first two months when we were casually dating. I remember saying to some friends "maybe he doesn't think about me that way..."

First kiss - eh, it was so-so. But DAMN it got better soon after that! ;-)
With my guy I didnt feel the sparks right when we met - but through the evening he just grew and grew on me. And when he kissed me - that was like lightning! After that it has gotten better and better.
Some people just dont put it all out there the first chance they get - so I believe sometimes it pays off to give things more time. Provided he doesnt act like a jerk though! There shouldnt be any "get out of jail free" cards in dating!
post #90 of 275
Remember too, (for a lot of us, at least!) we are older now - both the women and the men. We've been hurt and are more cautious - both the women and the men. The same man who would have been coming onto you in the first ten minutes when he was 19 is often more of a gentleman at 42, and his heart's been broken too, so things just might progress more slowly than the last time you dated (if you are at all like me, that is!).
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Hey guys, haven't been posting, in the middle of legal custody stuff. But I've been reading, and it's been fun.

I love those evaluation questions.

Hit 5 months w/ my guy, just wanted to chime in... I can still distinctly remember the first time we met in person, our eyes meeting as I was walking up to him, followed by immediate nervousness on both ends. It was instant kind of "wow", the energies were just right, total sparks from the get go. That said, I'd say kissing (among other things) him has certainly gotten better and better, but were never lacking in the first place. Despite all the hell my ex is currently putting us through, I'm so happy with him, he's my rock, he always seems to know exactly what I need, and boy do i LOVE his smell and voice.

But enough about me... Good luck to you ladies. Still reading, quietly.
post #92 of 275
Hi all. Well, I attempted to date about 3 months ago. didn't work out. I'm just not ready. I haven't quite figured out how to balance new mommyhood and a dating life. My son's father and I are still "playing" relationship [meaning, he always sleeps over, we still sleep together from time to time, he hang out all the time]. It's like we're in a relationship but with no title.

Anyway, I just decided that I will focus all my energy into myself and my son. Maybe one day that right one will come along and be a partner/husband to me and a father to my son. In the meantime, I'm living the single life.
post #93 of 275
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Anyway, I just decided that I will focus all my energy into myself and my son. Maybe one day that right one will come along and be a partner/husband to me and a father to my son. In the meantime, I'm living the single life.
You sound a little tired with things. New mommies always sound that way though. What happened with that guy from last winter? If you care to share, that is.



Tripleaces, you are my internet-success-story that keeps me clicking 'yes' to cuties on Are You Interested on FB.
God love ya, you sexy MILF, you.:
post #94 of 275
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Hi all. Well, I attempted to date about 3 months ago. didn't work out. I'm just not ready. I haven't quite figured out how to balance new mommyhood and a dating life. My son's father and I are still "playing" relationship [meaning, he always sleeps over, we still sleep together from time to time, he hang out all the time]. It's like we're in a relationship but with no title.

Anyway, I just decided that I will focus all my energy into myself and my son. Maybe one day that right one will come along and be a partner/husband to me and a father to my son. In the meantime, I'm living the single life.
See, I tried that FWB thing with my ex-husband as well, & it totally didn't work. He wanted to still have a claim on me without me having one on him, and, well, NO.

Mamas, I need you to help me writing a response to someone who contacted me on OKCupid. I suck at this sort of thing. I've been putting off going back to the site and responding. Personals sites are hard for me because they play into my shallow nature where I think more about looks than anything else. My ex is a darned good-looking man. I want another hottie. Just one less crazy.
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I want another hottie. Just one less crazy.
maybe all the hotties *are* crazy. ever think of that?

I am wah wah wah tonight. Just worn out over life in general. I started a new job about a month ago, I'm moving (for the 3rd time in less than 12 months) next month...I'm just wrecked. And I just want someone I can call at the end of the day, who can just help me hold it all.

But, I don't really have any energy to find that someone and show my charming side.

I do appreciate all your thoughts on first date sparks or not. I ended up sending a little email to localguy, just saying I had a nice time (true, I did). He wrote back, said he had a nice time, had been really busy at work and was heading out of town to visit relatives.

I think I'll send him a quick note, with an offer for him to call me when he gets back, and then leave it at that.

Socrates gets back from his trip this weekend, I think, and we are supposed to go out, so maybe that will be fun..

I had a very annoying convo with Jester a few days ago. I think his feelings are hurt that my feelings aren't more hurt that we're not having a "relationship" and I think he doesn't really get that I actually want to be friends with him. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'd sleep with him again too, if that were on the table, but at this point, it's not, and I'm the one who took it off. But everytime we talk, he wants to "reassure" me about how great I am and blah blah f'ing blah.

My phone died when we were talking and I was so glad! He called back and left a message, but I'm ignoring him.

I think I'm too grouchy to date anyone right now.
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maybe all the hotties *are* crazy. ever think of that?
Ooh, shut your mouth! I'm gonna go crazy if that's true. It's just I'm looking at these profiles, and it seems OKCupid attracts dudes with no chin. That's a total hang-up of mine, I must admit. I can't stand weak-chinned men.

I need one of my friends to introduce me to someone, but my best friend is gay and mostly knows other gay men. And all the rest of my friends are settling down (I feel like I'm living in a Hank Williams, Jr song, I swear). No one's single but me!

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I had a very annoying convo with Jester a few days ago. I think his feelings are hurt that my feelings aren't more hurt that we're not having a "relationship" and I think he doesn't really get that I actually want to be friends with him. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'd sleep with him again too, if that were on the table, but at this point, it's not, and I'm the one who took it off. But everytime we talk, he wants to "reassure" me about how great I am and blah blah f'ing blah.
That's funny. Sounds like maybe he's kinda stung you don't want his body.
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yes, all the hotties are :
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I love reading this thread!

I haven't started dating again yet but hope to soon. It's been so long though! Where do you all meet people to date? I'm not good at going up to people and introducing myself...but I might have to get good at it
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I need one of my friends to introduce me to someone, but my best friend is gay and mostly knows other gay men. And all the rest of my friends are settling down (I feel like I'm living in a Hank Williams, Jr song, I swear). No one's single but me!
I agree. : What happened to single people getting fixed up all the time and our non-single friends scoping potentials for us nonstop? I want friends like that!
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I agree. : What happened to single people getting fixed up all the time and our non-single friends scoping potentials for us nonstop? I want friends like that!
Hey! I am giving you advice but you are just not listening to me - you know what I mean.
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