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post #41 of 183
My parents think that organic food is a luxury, a way for people who have everything to show off. So they really can't see why we are wasting our hard-earned money on it...

People have different ideas of what is healthy. My mother has always been very into health. Her idea of healthy food is fairly low-fat (especially no "extra" fat, like cream, butter etc), low sugar (not no-sugar, she likes to have biscuits with her coffee in the afternoon), and fruit and veges. And you can eat more un-healthy food if you have just been exercising, or is willing to "work it off" tomorrow. She doesn't like cooking much, and of course she worked part-time when we were growing up, so she always stocked up on frozen pizzas, pasties, fish fingers etc. But there were always plenty of salads, raw veges etc., served with the meals and for in-between. In the weekends my father cooked everything from scratch, as he loves pottering about in the kitchen.

My mother is a teacher, and both of my parents spent almost 10 years in tertiary education.
post #42 of 183
I buy the kraft stuff (regular size cause we don't have a microwave) because it is what she likes she doesn't like the Annies its kreft or the back to nature it MUST be with powerded cheese and "stick pasta" I alos always have froxen chicken strips ready to bake skippy peanut butter smuckers fruit spead and plain old Corn flakes around. Why? Cause the keep me sane. We eat healthy lots of fresh fruits veggies ect but some degree of convience and no fuss foods just plain keep me sane.

Deanna
post #43 of 183
I think it is easy to judge other people when you don't always know all the facts.

I know I was being judged by another mother yesterday because of what I brought to a neighborhood cookout. I found out about the party at the last minute so I ran to the store, with two 3 year olds in tow, and got a bunch of fruit to make a fruit salad, some organic chips and salsa and some Hostess cupcakes. Why the cupcakes? With DS's food allergies, I had to make sure there was at least one goodie he could eat so I could distract him from the nut filled brownies. Normally, I would bake something but I didn't have time.

My littl guy was able to stand there and eat a "safe" cupcake with other kids and feel normal so for me, at that moment, nutrition and judgement be damned. :
post #44 of 183
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Had I just made a no-context post about my son's diet at a year old people would have been appalled. But it was successfully maximize calories by whatever means possible or go down the feeding tube route. While I suppose there are some people who would prefer the tube to a lot of sugar, salt, preservatives, and whatnot, I'm not one of them. Had he been willing to sit down to boxed mac and cheese and really eat I'd have been thrilled.
Life is still that way for us with my 7 yo.

I make chicken nuggets in huge batches from scratch, not only because they are healthier than the storebought things, but because chicken breast in bulk can be cheaper. Mac and cheese- if she'll eat the boxed stuff I'll usually sir in a handful of real cheese to up the caloric content if I can.

She's a twig, and sometimes food battles really *aren't* worth it. We introduced all the whole healthy things and they just didn't fly. Garbanzo beans and grape tomatoes as a quick meal? Not a chance- she'd go hungry. Sometimes getting SOME food in is all you're aiming for, even if it isn't whole grain, organic stuff.
post #45 of 183
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Originally Posted by churndash View Post
Because it's their business what they feed their children and they don't need your stamp of approval?
Yes - this! I'm having a hard time finding something non-snarky to even comment on this thread...

I've never bought EZ Mac but how is what people feed their kids your issue/problem/business? Do you want them up in your business?

I don't let my kids drink pop, but I'm not going to look down my nose at someone who does. 'Cause I let my kids listen to almost any music, and I don't want to hear why anyone thinks they are better than me 'cause their kids listen to Raffi all day. Same with vaccines or circ or daycare or any other parenting decision. We all do what we think is best based on our background, experiences, research, opinions, finances and what we are comfortable with.

Feed your kid what you deem best/necessary/affordable, and be happy with that choice.
post #46 of 183
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Originally Posted by lucky_mia View Post
I think it is easy to judge other people when you don't always know all the facts.

I know I was being judged by another mother yesterday because of what I brought to a neighborhood cookout. I found out about the party at the last minute so I ran to the store, with two 3 year olds in tow, and got a bunch of fruit to make a fruit salad, some organic chips and salsa and some Hostess cupcakes. Why the cupcakes? With DS's food allergies, I had to make sure there was at least one goodie he could eat so I could distract him from the nut filled brownies. Normally, I would bake something but I didn't have time.

My littl guy was able to stand there and eat a "safe" cupcake with other kids and feel normal so for me, at that moment, nutrition and judgement be damned. :
Maybe they were thinking "Man! Only enough Hostess cupcakes for the kids? I waaaaaaant one!" (Or maybe that's just what I would be thinking!)
post #47 of 183
DH and I own a chain of health food stores, so I have organic groceries at my disposable everyday, at cost. But I still use convenience foods 2-3 times a week and most of the time, they're not organic. Why? Because we're busy. I work 3 days a week at our stores and one of those days, until 9pm. I don't always have the time to prepare a proper, clean meal. But so what? My kids eat healthy foods everyday, a veggie with every meal for example, but it might be served along side a chicken nugget or, *gasp* EZ Mac. Doesn't bother me a bit. Is it better to eat organic? Sure it is. But I truly don't believe packaged non-organic food is that much worse than packaged organic foods. Around the store, we tend to call Annies and the like "fauxganics". It's still junk food. And again, I'm ok with it. My family still eats very healthy.
post #48 of 183
I like to think I am well educated and such but I feed my kids Ez-mac every now and again, they drink soda, Some days don't get all the proper things fromt he proper food groups but they are by no means starting and I don't think it has hurt them any. My kids love to get fruits and vegies and "healthy stuff" but DH and I both work full time out of the home not by choice but my need and there are nights that I would rather come come and just be able to spend time with my kids and not cook a meal from scratch. When we just toss stuff together we do try and make it healthy and all but some nights the frozen meal or the ez-mac are just what work.
post #49 of 183
Some friends of ours: Mom is a *pediatric endocrinologist* (of all things), dad is an engineer. Their child is, at age four, obese. She will only eat fast food / convenience food.

The mom explained to me that they are so busy (she's finishing her residency) and tired that fighting over food was just too much. So they just feed her McDonald's every night because she'll eat it without a battle.

She obviously wasn't thrilled with this, and I could tell she felt bad about it. It's clearly not ideal! But everyone does what they have to do to get through the day.... I felt sad for her and her daughter.
post #50 of 183
Lots of things which have been pointed out already I agree with.

A lot of people have kind of a compromise/middle of the road approach too. So they want pretty healthy things most of the time, but an occasional kraft dinner or fast food is ok with them. And organic is a funny label, as many have pointed out, it can be hard to pinpoint what is really the most healthy.

I try to eat local and local organic food, but not really for health, it's an ethical/environmental issue for me.

I also think it can be bad to obsess too much about health and what we eat. As if controlling what we eat will somehow save us, keep us alive forever or allow us to avoid all health issues. Not everyone thinks this way, but I find it surprisingly common.

Personally, there are a lot of things I'd give up before a summer picnic with hotdogs on white bread buns and cream soda.
post #51 of 183
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post #52 of 183
In my own life, I know people who do this because of their own upbringing. As children, they were fed convenience/non-nutritious/non-organic/etc. foods and they are okay with that. So, they chose to feed their children the same way and may think to themselves "Well, I was raised on these types of foods and I turned okay, so why shouldn't I feed my child (ren) the same way." It's an interesting type of logic, for sure.
post #53 of 183
EZ-Mac is very expensive. It takes an upper-middle-class income to afford it!
post #54 of 183
Thread Starter 
I edited my OP. I didn't mean to come off as classist. I think i more so wanted to focus on why someone wouldn't choose organic when they COULD, as opposed to the isolated EZ mac incident, lol. I am not a perfect parent, and my kids have definitely had mac n cheese and hotdogs.
post #55 of 183
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Originally Posted by Amila View Post
Can anyone help me find an explanation for this? I don't get it. DH and I have a few close friends who can afford organic, but happen to come off as pretty anti-organic.

The only things I can come up with are:

1- They ate that way growing up and are alive today argurment
2- They aren't giving in to the organic "hype"

Thoughts?
We are a family that semi-chooses not to eat organic.

The nearest "organic" store is in the city a good 35-40 miles away.

I guess I could try buying the 1x-2x more expensive organic selections on a few items at the grocery store but TBH I don't see how it will make a huge difference.

Our bodies are bombarded with pollution, irritants, toxins and chemicals everyday. I grew up in a super TF/organic household. As in made our own food from scratch and strict vegetarianism for the first 10years of my life. I know how to do it and it is very very hard to do with the lifestyle and location we have right now.

I think if we settle down a bit more that I might naturally gravitate towards it since I was raised that way.

Also, a part of it is not buying the hype. I think the organic and green label can be abused. (Think huggies natural diapers with 13% organic cotton). Or as my brother pointed out: those organic veggies are still planted in the earth. They still get the same rain. The same water. They still get packed in the same material, trucked across the state and put in the same bins.

So I buy our fresh food local at a fruit stand. And right now I don't fret the boxed food too much. Or the fast food that we have actually just spent most of the week eating, as we've been living out of a suitcase trying to move in to a new house while working fulltime and going to school full time.
post #56 of 183
I think convenience is a huge part of it, but I also think we're a generation raised on processed food and feel that cooking from scratch is alot more complicated and time consuming. For example, you can cook a chicken on the weekend and have a week of really simple meals (sandwiches, stew, curry, soup, etc.) but I think we usually start from the recipe we want and if we don't have the ingredients feel we have nothing to make. It takes a while to get in the mindset of looking at what you have and then adapting recipes to include that. And if you've worked all day and are ferrying kids to and fro and taking care of the house, it's intimidating to think about that.
post #57 of 183
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Originally Posted by jlobe View Post
I think convenience is a huge part of it, but I also think we're a generation raised on processed food and feel that cooking from scratch is alot more complicated and time consuming. For example, you can cook a chicken on the weekend and have a week of really simple meals (sandwiches, stew, curry, soup, etc.) but I think we usually start from the recipe we want and if we don't have the ingredients feel we have nothing to make. It takes a while to get in the mindset of looking at what you have and then adapting recipes to include that. And if you've worked all day and are ferrying kids to and fro and taking care of the house, it's intimidating to think about that.
So true! I know this is my mindset a lot of the time. If I was better at planning ahead, I'd be better at serving fresh, clean meals every night. But I'm super dedicated to the kids when I'm not working and I forget or just don't want to take the time to cook and plan for the whole week. Believe, I wish I could do it all!
post #58 of 183
Umm, it's REALLY expensive compared to non-organic?

And not readily available to folks in many American small towns.
post #59 of 183
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Originally Posted by churndash View Post
Because it's their business what they feed their children and they don't need your stamp of approval?
This, totally!
post #60 of 183
I think, as somebody pointed ot in previous post, that there is a great difference between eating organic and eating healthy. I try to buy organic food and cook from scratch every meal. However, if I don't find good quality organic produce I buy the same items in a conventional store and still cook from scratch. So even if its not organic, its still home made healthy meal. I think a lot of people don't think about the environmental aspect and don't think there is a great difference nutrition vise between organic and non-organic. Sometimes its hard to find fresh organic produce when you need it and if its a choice between say no-tomatoes and non-organic-tomatoes, many people would choose non-organic than go without.
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