Originally Posted by AspieMom
Both my DH and I come from completely circ-ed families. We decided not to circumcise our son, but we both consider "intact" weird. I was a mother's helper when I 9 to an intact boy, and DH and I are God-Parents to a 4 year old boy who is intact. DS is 6 weeks old and we still have trouble getting used it. Has anyone else gone through this?? I want to stop thinking that it looks so weird and foreign
pretending to be a big brother
Congratulations on the birth of your ds!
What you're feeling is completely understandable. After all, we grew up in a circ culture. Our children will not feel this way because they're going to grow up differently.
After getting use to the 'intact', circ'd became weird. As if seeing glans was something sooooo personal and, well... kind of offensive to see on a child because exposed glans is only seen on an intact adult male. Either during his hygienic routine or when he is aroused.
Infants do not expose their glans because the foreskin is bonded to the glans. The synechia should NEVER be broken. It will naturally separate. Bonded now because its still developing just like we're not separating a newborn kittens eyes because its still developing. If we did, it would damage the developing organ.
The more you understand the natural body, it will become more normal for you and circ'd will become unnatural.
You probably know this already since you've cared for an intact male infant / child b4, but just to be sure: All you need to do is wipe like a finger and carefully watch out for doctors who might retract him. The only person who should retract the foreskin is your ds. By the time its retractable, he will be able to handle his own penis all by himself. Average age for retraction is 10.5 yrs. My 6 yr old was almost fully retractable when he was 5. I don't know how retractable he is now because he takes his own shower. When he was 5 he was taught to Retract Rinse Replace. This is just 'for practice'. It'll only be necessary when he becomes a teen.
Think of it this way, we're not putting deodorant on our children because they don't need it. When the hormones kick, a daily hygienic routine regarding Retract Rinse Replace will be sufficient. Adolescence will be the time when they're doing their own routine. They won't be neglecting their growing parts, trust me. Why do you think they take such long showers?
Ok, I'll be quiet now. I'm just so happy another little guy was spared from an unwarranted genital reduction surgery.