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post #121 of 355
Lisko15: Temp is back up into happy range! Yay! Even though I'm trying to hold this conception very lightly until I know it'll be sticky and healthy, I was totally bummed out all day yesterday. (Well, some other major stuff came into it too, but starting the day like that did not help.)


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I feel like I want to cry... I just found out I am RH negative and I am researching it and it's scary... Why me!?
It's not really that bad anymore. As Mae said, knowing about it is the most important thing, so that they can make adjustments. Back in the day (assuming your sweetie is Rh+) it would have limited you to just one child, but nowadays that's not even a concern. My DH's mom is Rh-, and because of that he doesn't have any siblings, but she got through the pregnancy fine even back in '66!
post #122 of 355
I know lots of people with the RH problem (with them or their child) and all they have to do is get a shot at certain parts of the pregnancy to keep them from detecting the baby as "an intruder"

I know one very close to me with three kids, working on a fourth.
post #123 of 355
Lauren31 - I too am Rh-, and my DH for some reason still doesnt know his blood type (at this age?! yes!). So i had the Rhogam shot as a precaution...
It was not painful, they give you a choice of thigh or butt shot. I took thigh. it was sore for a day, maybe...
you get one at 28 weeks, and one after L&D i think.
I looked at the insurance bill afterward, and it was like $2500 just for that one shot.. they make it from your own blood or something...? maybe it was just the hosp where I was.

military ins will totally cover that, and you'll be fine!

NOTHING to worry about at all....!!! *breeeeaaattthhhheee*
post #124 of 355
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Lauren31 - I feel like I want to cry... I just found out I am RH negative and I am researching it and it's scary... Why me!?
NO tears yet lady and NO fears either. I'm Rh-. AND, its not really that big of a deal. Get the Rh shot around the 28th week of pregnancy and the second within 72 hours after giving birth and you and the baby will be totally fine. (You should also get the shot at any sign of vaginal bleeding, which I hope doesn't happen.) Not knowing is your biggest risk. And its really only risky when you get to your 2nd pgcy, but as long as you have the shots, you & baby (and any more babies to come) should totally be okay.

Me and all my sisters are Rh-. My mom is as well. She's had 4 healthy children. One sister has had 4. My other sister has had 2. And me, well, I'm still at 1. The doctor actually argued with my Mom about all of us being Rh-, since my Dad isn't, and he said its crazy that we all ended up carrying the negative factor.

So please, please, please don't get all worked up about it! You know, your doctors will know, AND you'll remember to ASK for the shot (especially since your care will be transferred to Germany)!!!!

Oh yeah, and stop GOOGLING medical stuff its never, ever a good idea!
post #125 of 355
Lauren, I'm Rh- too, and from what I've learned recently, the Rhogam shot may not even be necessary in all cases. Being Rh- is a concern only if the fetal blood mixes with the mother's blood, resulting in the mother's immune system becoming sensitized to Rh antigens. It's very unlikely that your blood would mix prior to delivery, and pretty unlikely that it would mix even during delivery. Some mothers refuse the shot at 28 weeks and get the shot after delivery only if the baby is RH+. There's a thread with lots of info about it here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=455838. I haven't decided what I'd do if/when we get pregnant again; it's on my "to research" list still...

And, as others mentioned, if your DH is also Rh-, then there's no need for concern at all.

Ah, just one of the many, many parenting decisions you get to make now!
post #126 of 355
You guys have no idea how much this has helped...I had no idea it was so common. After talking to my nurse who just nonchalantly mentioned it, I was freaking out. I was balling on the phone to my DH who I told I was going to attack the baby with my horrible blood. I just feel like a leper or something, I can't explain it! I also feel a TON better talking to my gf who has the RH neg blood too. She had to take it at 6 weeks because she had spotting. So I should go into the ER in case of spotting too? Thank goodness I have had no spotting, otherwise I would be super worried I have doomed myself! I think I am nervous about traveling across the world, not having a definitive provider lined up and having to go to random ERs if God forbid something happens. Also, this is going to sound crazy but I was upset that my DH would be upset with me that I am negative. Hormones of a pregnant woman, huh? I do feel a LOT better with all your stories, though. A girl I just saw told me her sister had three miscarriages at 3 months because of this!
post #127 of 355
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Breathe Lauren!

Hormones of a pregnant woman... I think that IS to blame for a lot of your worry.

You and baby will be fine! The risk of m/c this baby, due to your being Rh- is practically nil at this time (someone can correct me if I'm wrong). You would need to have already created the antibodies to Rh+ blood, which unless you've been PG before and had bleeding, it is very, very unlikely you have those antibodies. The friend's sister you are speaking of must have become sensitized to the Rh+ blood at some point, through a previous m/c and/or bleeding and did not get the correct treatment.

Can you call around to Germany now and line up a provider? Will you need to use the military hospital? Doing so might relieve you. But really, its something that no doc is going to be shocked by or not know what to do about.

Shabbers - I missed your earlier post... I'm glad the temp went up! Shall I move you to BFP land on our first page????
post #128 of 355
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Originally Posted by lisko15 View Post
Breathe Lauren!

Hormones of a pregnant woman... I think that IS to blame for a lot of your worry.

Can you call around to Germany now and line up a provider? Will you need to use the military hospital? Doing so might relieve you. But really, its something that no doc is going to be shocked by or not know what to do about.

Shabbers - I missed your earlier post... I'm glad the temp went up! Shall I move you to BFP land on our first page????
I can't really call over there...but I am pretty sure that where I am at there is a military clinic and then I am outsourced to a German OB. hmmm not sure... At the minimum I should learn to say hospital in german until I get there and get an actual doctor! haha I am nervous about this move and it's not helping me that I don't speak German, read German, or anything else. I know that my insurance will cover me if there is an emergency, though. That gives me some peace of mind. BREATHE LAUREN.
post #129 of 355
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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
I can't really call over there...but I am pretty sure that where I am at there is a military clinic and then I am outsourced to a German OB. hmmm not sure... At the minimum I should learn to say hospital in german until I get there and get an actual doctor! haha I am nervous about this move and it's not helping me that I don't speak German, read German, or anything else. I know that my insurance will cover me if there is an emergency, though. That gives me some peace of mind. BREATHE LAUREN.
So, I went to Germany and Austria for vacation last May. I didnt know ANYTHING of the language, and to make matters worse, they each have a slightly different style of German.
Luckily, many German words are similar to their English equivalents. I found a few Teach Yourself German things on iTunes for FREE!!! search for them. I used them ON.THE.PLANE on the way there, and it helped!! you have WAY more time than that!!
and get a good little dictionary. it can be a good project for you instead of obsessing over your symptoms with your insane pg horemones!!
I think I used a dictionary with a red stripe on the front... it had lots of good information, broken up by type of conversation. it's this At a Glance German
either way, you'll be happy to know that Germany is often ahead of the US in medical technology.... so you'll be in BETTER hands. they did all kinds of studies over there on natural and herbal treatments for conditions of infertility and during pregnancy. i found them in one of my daily internet searches for all things pg related. i showed them to my RE.
You'll be in good hands.
and everyone speaks English anyway, really.

You'll be great!
oh, and mother and baby care is very "holistic" there, too i think.
nursing is totally the norm, no circ, etc
post #130 of 355
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Originally Posted by LZP View Post
either way, you'll be happy to know that Germany is often ahead of the US in medical technology.... so you'll be in BETTER hands. they did all kinds of studies over there on natural and herbal treatments for conditions of infertility and during pregnancy. i found them in one of my daily internet searches for all things pg related. i showed them to my RE.
You'll be in good hands.
and everyone speaks English anyway, really.

You'll be great!
oh, and mother and baby care is very "holistic" there, too i think.
nursing is totally the norm, no circ, etc
oooh that is good to know! I am trying to convince my dh to not do circ if we have a boy. My brother is not circumsized and he is just fine. My mom never had an U/Ss for us either... My DH is pretty mainstream so he thinks of my family as the "hippies" hahaha. I feel a bit better, I just need to not let everything overwhelm me. So many changes are going on with me that it's understandable I am stressed, but I need to manage it better Thanks for the information!! I am excited to move there, but nervous.
post #131 of 355
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oooh that is good to know! I am trying to convince my dh to not do circ if we have a boy. My brother is not circumsized and he is just fine. My mom never had an U/Ss for us either... My DH is pretty mainstream so he thinks of my family as the "hippies" hahaha. I feel a bit better, I just need to not let everything overwhelm me. So many changes are going on with me that it's understandable I am stressed, but I need to manage it better Thanks for the information!! I am excited to move there, but nervous.
Nervous- totally normal, pg or not. the whole country is beautiful, and just living there will give you and your little one so many opportunities to see the world! It's scary, but such an amazing chance! have you been before?
My mom spent her first 3 years in Austria, and still remembers how to speak German because of it. Your babe will be lucky!
My DH is pretty mainstream as well... usually defers to "well, the Doctor said..." but i am trying to convince him.

if you are leaning anti-circ and havent already, look at the thread in the "Im pregnant" section, the case against circumcision. there are a few links for sites that will have pics of things DH will NEVER want to do to his little boy.
post #132 of 355
Thanks, LZP

I tell my DH things about circ and he comes back with articles stating that uncirced boys are 50% more likely to have HIV. That is ridiculous though bc even if it IS true (which it is not). HIV is more of a lifestyle choice (ie sex or needles with other HIV positive people). It's not like an uncirced boy who has sex with an HIV positive person is more likely to get HIV then a circed boy who has sex with another HIV positive person!
post #133 of 355
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Shabbers - I missed your earlier post... I'm glad the temp went up! Shall I move you to BFP land on our first page????
Ummm I dunno?

Funny story. So I'd ordered 20 pregnancy test strips from the internet...I was waiting until they came to test again to be sure. They arrived today...and they'd sent me ovulation test strips, not PG test! D'oh!

So I was furious and stormed over to CVS and bought a three-pack of Clearblue Digital. And used one just now (2pm)...and it came up a big ol "Not Pregnant."

Are we allowed to say F***!!!!!!!!!!!!! on this board? : Cause I sure said it IRL.

Add to this the fact that I just got word my father died last night, and so we're leaving in an hour to drive up to Marin to take care of things...my stress level is through the roof and I can understand why a lil' bean might not wanna stick around with so much going on.

Anyway, the point is, until I get a confirmation of that first test, I'm gonna try not to jinx it. :
post #134 of 355
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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
I feel like I want to cry... I just found out I am RH negative and I am researching it and it's scary... Why me!?
aww, honey. I am, too. Did you get a booster shot? Do you have to get one yet? I just know I needed one before my D&C. I haven't researched it, but I got the impression it's just something to be proactive about! Also, my DH has said that in Germany they are much more "natural" about childbirth.

lisko and jill, I'm sorry you're both feeling pre-AFy. I hope you're totally wrong, but I know that sinking feeling of knowing your body too well and losing hope. rrrgh.

Mrs_Lurker : I'm SO SO SO glad for your surprise! That must have been bewildering!

Shabbers, stick little bean, stick!

Mae, I'm on pins and needles and I'm not checking other threads much! Is there an update on your maybe lines? :

Beloved, I'm sorry your vacation is cutting short. I don't like having my expectations let down either, and I don't think you have to feel bad about being sulky. Enjoy your relaxation and then extra time for planning the big day! Are you getting totally nervous/excited?

AFM, I am a little unsettled not having a temperature to confirm ovulation. I had a little eggwhite yesterday, on CD15, and I pretty much always have ovulated by CD14, so I don't know whether to believe it. I guess it means we'll just have to keep on having sex. Not a bad plan!!! Anyway, TWW, I think here I come! May it be quick and stress-free and with a big sticky happy present at the end. Is it all right for me to wish that on myself? lol...

ladies, I'm so glad to be able to check in on y'all!
post #135 of 355
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Add to this the fact that I just got word my father died last night
I'm so, so sorry honey. I hope that test was just a mean fluke as well. My thoughts are with you. :
post #136 of 355
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I'm so, so sorry honey. I hope that test was just a mean fluke as well. My thoughts are with you. :
Thanks. I was looking at peeonastick.com and they say that the Clearblue Digital detects at 50, and the internet tests (which I used before for my BFP) detect at 20, so it's possible that between that and using midday pee instead of 1st morning, it just wasn't sensitive enough. I'm still only 11 DPO, so it's still pretty early.

Arrgh. They took away my pretty green line on FF! ; ;


At least this is something hopeful I can think about to distract me from dad stuff...
post #137 of 355
Sorry tear, i'll post here more

i got a bfn on digital this morning then bought more dollar trees, got a darkish bfp that turned into this http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/e...rsaturated.jpg

then later i took another with my second pee of the day and got http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/e...py/smu9dpo.jpg which faded though is still visible

ETA

I edited it a little (original is unedited)

http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/e...OMGITSPINK.jpg

OMG IM PREGNANT!
post #138 of 355
Shabbers-- I would listen to the cheapies, those digitals are not sensitive at ALL.

Tear-- I could never NOT temp, I think it would drive me more nuts then actual temping. Somehow I have to stop myself from temping in the mornings now, but I kinda like it

I have not had a shot of the rhogam yet. They don't recommend it until 28 weeks or if I have major spotting or bleeding. Also, in Europe, most doctors don't even give it to the woman at 28 weeks, only after birth if the baby is positive. Everything is so confusing.

Mae- eeek! I hope tomorrow you get a clear BFP!!!
post #139 of 355
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I'm so, so sorry honey. I hope that test was just a mean fluke as well. My thoughts are with you. :
I am so sorry to hear about your father as well. That is so hard.
post #140 of 355
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Thanks, LZP

I tell my DH things about circ and he comes back with articles stating that uncirced boys are 50% more likely to have HIV. That is ridiculous though bc even if it IS true (which it is not). HIV is more of a lifestyle choice (ie sex or needles with other HIV positive people). It's not like an uncirced boy who has sex with an HIV positive person is more likely to get HIV then a circed boy who has sex with another HIV positive person!
so SO true!! but back to the 6+ TTC thread... I started getting us way too off topic...!! sorry.
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