PP Chat Thread - June 1-7 - Page 3

[catilina]

Originally Posted by RasJane

I night weaned him by having chocolate every night before bed. How mean is that? It worked though.

I love this! Seriously. I wish night-weaning had been so easy (or, um, TASTY) for me with DS!


We're doing well here. I still feeling like I am going crazy trying to deal with DS (2.5) and all his new behaviors. It seems like some new negative behavior pops up every day. Today he started screaming any time he didn't get his way. Not something we have ever dealt with. He's always been very verbal so I thought we had escaped the screaming-tantrum stage. Apparently all it took to make its appearance was a new baby... Still hoping somehow can pipe in about how long this adjustment (for DS) generally takes...

DD is almost 3 weeks old, and was very alert yesterday. She slept wonderfully last night. She's been back to sleeping most of today, though. When she is awake and content she makes these adorable faces that look like she is just getting ready to smile. I keep thinking she will, but I think she is just experimenting with her facial expressions. DS was about a month old when we got his first real social smile. We'll see.

We're dealing with a diaper rash, too. It's unlike anything I've ever seen. Very dry/chafed around the outer part (like where I jelly-roll the prefold, and where the elastic on the covers hits), and very red and almost raw looking on the inner part (where the diaper actually covers). It doesn't seem to be bothering her, but it looks terrible. I can't tell if it's just the normal infant peeling (she had a ton of peeling that has just recently gone away in other parts of her body) or if it is really a rash. Can't figure out what is causing it. Tried disposables and they didn't make a difference. The disposable wipes, however, do seem to make it worse (I think?), but we've been using cloth wipes for awhile now and it's still not clearing up. ??? Don't know what to think.

[Mama Rana]

Originally Posted by Nolansmum

Mama Rana-that is awesome about EC! I am getting interested and have started reading up on it. We may take the plunge. We have the whole summer when DD will be with either DH or me. But what do people do when they send their kids to a babysitter?

You can do "part-time EC". I did with DS1. Even took a couple months off. Will be with this DS as well. He's in a dipe now.

Originally Posted by Delight

Yay for you!! I can't wait for that moment! We're doing EC with Lucy too. Tonight I knew she was going to poop, but didn't trust my instincts so I missed it. I kind of stopped her mid-poop and tried to put her on the Bjorn potty and she HATED it. She's only 3 days old...so I'm not being too hard on myself

For those of you that are EC'ing...what are you using to go in? Bowl? Baby potty? Real potty?

I need to find my baby bjorn potty. I think it's in the garage.... With that other catch, I just held him over the toilet. But that requires some aiming with a boy.



His umbilical cord still shows NO signs of coming off. He's 2 weeks old today. It's been dry and crusty since we left the hospital, but it's still firmly attached.



Why does he keep pulling away from teh breast? Not necessarily even off, just pulling back away from me. It hurts!


Also, his lips look sorta blistered. Hard to explain. We see teh ped. tomorrow; I'll have to ask her about that.

We ran out of paper dipes today, so he's in cloth. We were sorta holding off hoping his cord would come off, but I just put him in the ones that have a "newborn notch" even thought I don't like them much. Oh well, hopefully it won't be TOO much longer!

[Asher]

Also, his lips look sorta blistered. Hard to explain. We see teh ped. tomorrow; I'll have to ask her about that.

G has that, too and a little piece of skin is coming off right in the middle of his upper lip. I always called it milk blisters from nursing too much.

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by Mama Rana

His umbilical cord still shows NO signs of coming off. He's 2 weeks old today. It's been dry and crusty since we left the hospital, but it's still firmly attached.

Have you been using Goldenseal on it?

Katie - I am on my third time tandeming (dd2 weaned herself when I was pg with ds2), and honestly, I haven't ever liked it. I mean, there are things I like about it, but overall - I don't enjoy it. I've talked to very few people who have said they actually enjoy tandeming, so you're not alone.

[burm_keep]

Originally Posted by Delight

For those of you that are EC'ing...what are you using to go in? Bowl? Baby potty? Real potty?

We're using a "top hat" potty:
http://www.theecstore.com/index.php?...95a855c1ee2179

[burm_keep]

Originally Posted by ladydodson

yay! ive had some soreness due to my oldest having his two year molars coming in and him wanting to nurse every time the baby does...any others here tandem nursing? some days its amazing, and others its overwhelming...

We are and it's hard. Hard to nurse at the same time and he wants to nurse ALL the time (he's 3.5) I'm trying to give what I can, but have turned him down at times and have to ask him to re-latch often because his teeth are getting me

I really hope it gets easier... I want them to have that bond and I want him to know that I honor how important nursing is for him. Maybe I should spend a day in bed nursing them both

[Delight]

Originally Posted by Mama Rana

I need to find my baby bjorn potty. I think it's in the garage.... With that other catch, I just held him over the toilet. But that requires some aiming with a boy.

We've just been keeping the Bjorn in the living room where I sit all the time to nurse and GUESS WHAT?! We caught 2 pees and 2 poops today! I just thought I would try to catch it and it was such an amazing feeling when she went!! Yay! Daddy even caught one. I was so proud Anywhoo...I'm way more excited now to do EC now that I see how easy it is. It will be a slow process, but I'm glad we decided to "just start".

[ScootchsMom]

Quick update on us....

We're all sick even poor DS. He's congested in his nose and its making me a nervous wreck because he keeps choking when he eats. I was only able to get him to latch on to one boob, one time today, and he refuses my right side completely. But he nursed for a while on the one side and must have gotten a decent amount since he than only took 1 oz from a bottle. :

[Verygoddess]

How do you all have two hands to key? I've not even posted we've had her as Im nursing one or another or chasing the two yeay old or trying to clean up her latest mess or deal with her newfound tantrums and screaming.

[lightheartedmom]

Originally Posted by catilina

We're doing well here. I still feeling like I am going crazy trying to deal with DS (2.5) and all his new behaviors. It seems like some new negative behavior pops up every day. Today he started screaming any time he didn't get his way. Not something we have ever dealt with. He's always been very verbal so I thought we had escaped the screaming-tantrum stage. Apparently all it took to make its appearance was a new baby... Still hoping somehow can pipe in about how long this adjustment (for DS) generally takes...

Aww...this is exactly where we have been with DD (will be 3 in three weeks) since bringing Chloe home. The "no!" phase that she never went through at 2, yep, that's here. EVERYTHING is negative. Whatever we say, she says no or she can't. Night is especially rough, we get lots of "No! I CAN'T go to sleep!" A lot of bad habits have shown up in the last two and a half weeks...she's thankfully really good w/ her sister, but still...she argues about a LOT more than she ever did before. It's taking a strong combo of love and discipline (very very consistent, immediate discipline) to help her improve her behavior. I know for me, some of the problems came from my expectations for her changing very rapidly. Where I was willing to tolerate disobedience or delayed obedience before, I have not been since having Chloe home (mostly because when I tell her to do something it's for her safety or Chloe's). I'm trying to help her learn now that when I give her a command, she has to obey immediately and cheerfully, but I'm also trying not to be a killjoy. So we're trying to keep our commands to what is necessary (and avoid just harping on her for stuff that's merely an inconvenience to us) - like she cannot, CANNOT, poke at Chloe, even lovingly. ;-)

I think this time requires such a huge dose of patience, which can be a tall order when you're sleep deprived and sore in many tender places and already emotionally...raw. But he's going through something new and different just like you. It seems like the days where I wake up and make a concerted effort to be understanding and patient with my older daughter are the ones that go best...I've found myself counting to ten MANY times in the last few weeks, but even that works!


As for how long? Clearly, we're still in the throes of it all...but I've definitely seen her improve in the last week...slowly but surely. Consistency is REALLY important, so when you tell him to do or not do something, follow through with it. Pick your battles, but when you choose one, don't let him get away with something one day and then not the next, that will only confuse and frustrate him. And try to be on the same page with your DP about which battles to fight...if your DS knows he can get away with stuff w/ one of you that he won't with the other, it will get messy. :-)

Good luck mama! You'll get through it!

[Punchy Kaby]

Originally Posted by lightheartedmom

Aww...this is exactly where we have been with DD (will be 3 in three weeks) since bringing Chloe home. The "no!" phase that she never went through at 2, yep, that's here. EVERYTHING is negative. Whatever we say, she says no or she can't. Night is especially rough, we get lots of "No! I CAN'T go to sleep!" A lot of bad habits have shown up in the last two and a half weeks...she's thankfully really good w/ her sister, but still...she argues about a LOT more than she ever did before. It's taking a strong combo of love and discipline (very very consistent, immediate discipline) to help her improve her behavior. I know for me, some of the problems came from my expectations for her changing very rapidly. Where I was willing to tolerate disobedience or delayed obedience before, I have not been since having Chloe home (mostly because when I tell her to do something it's for her safety or Chloe's). I'm trying to help her learn now that when I give her a command, she has to obey immediately and cheerfully, but I'm also trying not to be a killjoy. So we're trying to keep our commands to what is necessary (and avoid just harping on her for stuff that's merely an inconvenience to us) - like she cannot, CANNOT, poke at Chloe, even lovingly. ;-)
!

This is where we are too. DS (3.5) has been pretty good with the adjustment, but my expectations of him have changed. When I have a crying baby in my arms I need him to do what I ask the first time, not the fifth. AS long as he gets enough personal attention and play time he does fine. Last night at bath time he did a lot of things by himself like getting undressed and in the tub without me even asking. Usually he is running around jumping on the bed.

[Asher]

Originally Posted by ScootchsMom

Quick update on us....

We're all sick even poor DS. He's congested in his nose and its making me a nervous wreck because he keeps choking when he eats. I was only able to get him to latch on to one boob, one time today, and he refuses my right side completely. But he nursed for a while on the one side and must have gotten a decent amount since he than only took 1 oz from a bottle. :

So sorry you are all sick. I am, but pretty sure it's just allergies. I hope, anyway!

[mamayarn]

Originally Posted by ladydodson

yay! ive had some soreness due to my oldest having his two year molars coming in and him wanting to nurse every time the baby does...any others here tandem nursing? some days its amazing, and others its overwhelming...

Tandeming here too with molars coming in. Luckily my DH has been handling most nighttime parenting since we night weaned DS1 a few months ago, but the nights since DS2 was born a week and a half ago have been hit or miss for him sleeping well (mostly miss). Then during the day, it's like if he realizes that a boob is loose his eyes lock on it and there's no stopping him. It's been a long time since I nursed him in public - it just hasn't happened, there wasn't a particular reason or plan - and honestly I'm afraid that he'll want to tandem NIP. Home is fine but I can only nurse one child discreetly out in the wild!

Speaking of nursing discreetly, my trick is a nursing tank under another shirt. Reach between to open the cup, draw up shirt and baby at the same time, latch, adjust shirt to rest over the nursling's mouth. I always felt like blankets or covers draw more attention to me and I'm covered, so that's how I do it. I'm all for others having covers or blankets or flashing neon lights, whatever gets the baby fed!!

[Quate]

So my 12 day old just slept for 6 straight hours (and actually I woke her up or she would have kept on sleeping). Don't know whether to freak out or rejoice, but wow was that a nice chunk of sleep.

Oh, and veryg.--I'm typing one handed while baby is drifting off in the other arm.

[Mama Rana]

nak

Originally Posted by ColoradoMama

Have you been using Goldenseal on it?

no--tell me more?

Originally Posted by Delight

We've just been keeping the Bjorn in the living room where I sit all the time to nurse and GUESS WHAT?! We caught 2 pees and 2 poops today! I just thought I would try to catch it and it was such an amazing feeling when she went!! Yay! Daddy even caught one. I was so proud Anywhoo...I'm way more excited now to do EC now that I see how easy it is. It will be a slow process, but I'm glad we decided to "just start".

cool. i have a second potty i could put near me in the LR.

i'd like to do some nakey bum time but he tends to spray when he pees.... so not sure how....

[kdtmom2be]

Tandem nursing here too. As someone else mentioned, it is helping DD to maintain her connection, a few minutes of quiet time with me for just HER. I don't nurse them at the same time and I've limited her to once a day at bedtime for my sanity. Luckily her molars came in about 3 months ago and the issue of her teeth digging in to my aereola has resolved itself with that. *phew*

[triplembride]

Originally Posted by lightheartedmom

Aww...this is exactly where we have been with DD (will be 3 in three weeks) since bringing Chloe home. The "no!" phase that she never went through at 2, yep, that's here. EVERYTHING is negative. Whatever we say, she says no or she can't. Night is especially rough, we get lots of "No! I CAN'T go to sleep!" A lot of bad habits have shown up in the last two and a half weeks...she's thankfully really good w/ her sister, but still...she argues about a LOT more than she ever did before. It's taking a strong combo of love and discipline (very very consistent, immediate discipline) to help her improve her behavior. I know for me, some of the problems came from my expectations for her changing very rapidly. Where I was willing to tolerate disobedience or delayed obedience before, I have not been since having Chloe home (mostly because when I tell her to do something it's for her safety or Chloe's). I'm trying to help her learn now that when I give her a command, she has to obey immediately and cheerfully, but I'm also trying not to be a killjoy. So we're trying to keep our commands to what is necessary (and avoid just harping on her for stuff that's merely an inconvenience to us) - like she cannot, CANNOT, poke at Chloe, even lovingly. ;-)

I think this time requires such a huge dose of patience, which can be a tall order when you're sleep deprived and sore in many tender places and already emotionally...raw. But he's going through something new and different just like you. It seems like the days where I wake up and make a concerted effort to be understanding and patient with my older daughter are the ones that go best...I've found myself counting to ten MANY times in the last few weeks, but even that works!


As for how long? Clearly, we're still in the throes of it all...but I've definitely seen her improve in the last week...slowly but surely. Consistency is REALLY important, so when you tell him to do or not do something, follow through with it. Pick your battles, but when you choose one, don't let him get away with something one day and then not the next, that will only confuse and frustrate him. And try to be on the same page with your DP about which battles to fight...if your DS knows he can get away with stuff w/ one of you that he won't with the other, it will get messy. :-)

Good luck mama! You'll get through it!

we are going through this too good to see we arent the only ones

[Auraji]

I love the new look of the site

Sophia is 26 days old today. She's so good and things are a little TOO easy with her. I dont want to get used to it.
On Sunday I had stop bleeding and DP and I tried having sex, it was a bad idea. Now the bleeding is back...TMI, but I feel great and I have been feeling great. I've been going on walks everyday and it has been easy for me to keep up with the house. Im also feeling great emotionally. Im completely in love with my daughter and with being a mom and with having a family. People always comment on how beautiful she is when we go out and I get all proud mama
I dont know how much I weight, because I dont own a scale. Im back to my pre-pregnancy clothes though. I just got a belly that I cant wait to get rid off and some stretch marks on only one side of my belly , DP calls them love marks lol.
There's a Snap Fitness near me that is looking for volunteers for a 21 day fitness program. Im gonna see if I can do it. I need to call and see what is all about.

[Auraji]

Oh and dss insists on calling me mommy. It makes me feel good and it makes me kinda sad at the same time. Also because knowing his mom and how problematic she is, I'd rather have him not.

He kept saying it over the weekend a million times and would say "Aura, mm, I mean mommy". Even told DP that I wasnt Aura, than Im mommy.

I really wish he was with us all the time. His mom is such a mess. Her stepmom came to get dss and even commented on how she never has a problem on the weekends and to go have fun on her own, always going to festivals, riding four wheels and going to parties, but whenever she has him, she's sick or doesnt feel good. She came last night to get the daycare money and I went outside to give it to her and she was telling me how she's now dating again this guy (a guy she cheated on DP with and moved in after DP found out about it, dss was 1. And she could've gone to her mom's and dad's) and she's still dating this two other guys and all these men are around Jack. It bothers me so much. I've told DP he should talk about it with her, but he wont, I know him and sometimes I feel like saying something. I mean maybe she doesnt realize how this could affect dss and I think it's something that when he's old enough to understand is really gonna hurt him. What do you think, should I have a mom to mom, girl to girl talk with her? Or should I just stay out of it? Because it's really not my place to say anything.

[CookAMH]

Need some help here. Now I know I have a really content baby and he's pretty easy going. Lately, in the mornings, I've gotten pretty annoyed at trying to figure him out. Today for example: feed at 5, back down, awake at 6:30, feed more, back down, awake at 7:30, feed more, back down, etc.

If he was happy and feeding then sleeping, that's fine, but where my rope gets short is when he just stares at the breast sometimes, doesn't seem to want to eat, but when I put him up on my shoulder, he starts falling all over the place like he's rooting. Gets on the breast, tenses up, finally latches on. I've been working on the fast letdown, but by this point in the morning with feeding previously the last two hours, the flow is slow enough that he's fine laying down.

I finally got up with him at 10 after he slept on me (but grunted a ton and was hungry) and fed him out in the living room and he seemed content. I put him in his bouncy seat in the bathroom and showered, he did fine and batted the toys. He got tired of that by the time I got dressed so I took him out and he liked being held but was also getting tired. Started rooting, offered nursing, refused, took paci, dozed for a minute, woke up, fussed, refused breast, yet acted hungry. I tried cradle hold with paci and rocked and he was quiet for 10 min then fussed again, obviously tired, yawning. I put him in his cradle tummy down for a bit to see what he'd do while I finished getting ready. DH was up by this time. Ezra fussed some, DH picked him up, held, offered paci, took it, laid him down on his back in cradle with paci, held it there with him sucking, and he fell asleep with no fussing and is asleep now. I had a feeling he *might* settled to sleep on his own on his tummy after a little sleepy fussing (not all out crying or anything) since I know he was so tired but I'm not trying to get him to fall asleep on his own yet since he's only 5 weeks.

Can anyone help me interpret this? I can see that he's tired, am fine rocking him and nursing when he's hungry (or wants to suck) but he seems to fight it yet doesn't want to eat. I offered the paci because I had a feeling that he wanted to suck and was getting mad at the presence of milk.

AND his rash seems to have flared up again. Not a good morning! I feel like I need to cut out sugar and white flour if it's yeast to help the healing and I don't have a ton around to do that without work on my part, our diet hasn't been the best lately.

Off to sleep while he sleeps....