a physical perspective on the is there a reason thread

[blessed2bamommie]

I saw that and was wondering if it was what *I was going to ask. I have just noticed a lot of *young women are struggle with if to just even get ! Is it enviromental? What's going on here? Has if increased?

*sigh* spiritually.....well....the Bible says the Lord knows every hair on our head, our thoughts before they come to us....He sees us before we were formed in our mothers womb, and there's there is a season for everything under heaven....a time to be born....Ok, so I am being reminded that its not Aaron's time as I tell yall. And as frustrating as it may be, ' His thoughts are higher than our thoughts and our His ways are higher than our ways.' *I can't see the future, so I don't know what's coming around the corner! So...I just have to trust Him. Yeah, I just told myself. I am getting taught during the waiting. More patience for one!


So since I have just told myself. (Hey David spoke to himself in the Psalms to encourage himself! ), feel free to answer. We think we can do things better and have polluted God's world so bad, so I want to be allerted to possible threats to my fertility; but, I have been witness to *miraculous pregnancies, so its just *not Aaron's time, and no amount of charting and temping is going to make it come any sooner!

Ok...I'm about to spend some time thanking the Lord for my lesson for today!

My pity party has ended I've been throwing!

[joesmom]

hi, forgive my as i do not know how long you have been ttc. but your post spoke to me & reminded me of when we were trying to have a baby. we tried for nine months & i KNOW that is not bad but when it was happening each month i would think, WHY? i wanted a baby & i wanted one right away, ya know? my son will be five in february, & i look at him in wonderment. if the LOrd had given me what i wanted WHEN i wanted, it would not have been Joseph. i truly believe he was waiting for the right time to be born.

& i love your sig line, BTW. your faith is inspiring. i will be waiting to hear aaron's birth story someday!

edited since i can't type...

[pugmadmama]

I think pollution can be a huge factor in infertility. For example, men's sperm counts are approx. 40% lower than they were just 50 years ago due to enviromental damage.

I stopped using petionary prayer after about five years of TTCing. I realized that believing in a God that would withhold a child from me while all around the world children are born everyday to parents who don't care about them and who abuse them and even kill them just made no sense to me and was no comfort whatsoever.

I'm not sure if I believe in God anymore. But if I do, it's a God who is neither male nor female, who cannot be easily understood by us here on Earth. If there is a God, then I think needless suffering (like infertility) offends God as much as it offends me, it's not part of God's plan.

I don't think I could have gotten as far as I have on this journey with infertility if I had not profoundly shifted how I think about God and faith. I just feel very lucky to have found a religious community that fully supports me in that (UU).

[blessed2bamommie]

T We "ttced," well, we stopped bcps and after 13 mos got . Jordan was born into Jesus' arms early last year. They found a large ovarian cyst that night that needed to be removed very soon, because it threatened my ovary. I know that every life has purpose and I couldn't figure how Jordan's did. Yet, I would have *never seen the cyst, had they not been looking at Jordan. I am *no means thankful for his death. But, Romans 8:28 says, "All things work together for God to them who love the Lord who are called according to His purpose, " and all includes both painful and wonderful. I have both my cyst and tube and did not have to experience a painful rupture and *emergency surgery. I didn't want to ttc for a while following surgery, although I was cleared not too long after. I had a strong desire for a baby. Then the Lord started talking! A *lot! So, we stopped tta! Then I guess *I have tried to get into it and "help God along and started the charting and temping and all, for 3 mos. *That's a lot less time; but, yes! when you get disappointed by showing up and you desire a so much, it doesn't matter! It robbed the passion for our intimate life and set me up for even more disappointment than not charting! I quit this cycle. We have had some *serious passion return ag I want to tell Aaron that babies come from *love and not a bd, where we were a slave to the chart!

I want a now; but, during my devotional time, *I know we need to move out of here! We could *do it....no, we need a bigger bedroom since we are gonna cosleep. I have got a lot of work to do to clean out this place! :: Pastor prayed over us and he prayed and has advised us in times past, to start preparing for our baby. The now famous passage in Chronicles (can't remember if it was first or second), about enlarging your borders, is *exactly what we need to be doing!

So, I need to get crackin on researching this green builder, cleaning out this apt, and getting out of here and setting up Aarons new home and he will be born in *due season!

Thanks! I have learned quite a bit during the wait! The story of Hannah has really ministered to me and Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever, so I will say the same thing as she did when Aarons season is here.

I look forward to having a wonderful birth story to tell.

Pug, I understand your frustrations. I have felt punished by the loss of our first child and then not having conceived in *my timetable. Whereas I can understand in some respects, I can't understand the pain of 5 yrs ttc. Whereas, nothing happens without His permission, and I don't profess to be God or guess His mind b/c the Bible *does say that His thoughts higher than our thoughts, His ways higher than our ways, the fact remains no matter what our individual situations is the *season for everything. And, as heartbreaking as it might be its not the season for our babies to be born. And although, God is referred to as male, well, "He's" a spirit, so does a spirit have a gender.... so you might have a point there! I know that despite of your pain, He loves you, and only wants the best for all of us. I hope you won't give up on Him, although, I must admit I turned my back almost a year ago when our child died, whom we waited so long for. But, its *so much better *with Him!

I gotta get laundry done today as well as some other things!