more kids for you? - Page 2

[momtokimari]

We have 2. One of each now. We are not sure if we're done or not. Some days are rough by myself at home... especially since it hit 90F today... and we have no AC (no one in WA really does). 2 crying babies is awful! And of course I have "issues" with staying pregnant into the 3rd trimester, so we're debating whether or not it's fair. In any case, I'd like more. I'd like to have 2 more bio kids and adopt at least 2. But we'll see how it goes. We might skip the biological kids. But we're waiting until I'm 25 anyway. Need the kids to be able to sort of fend for themselves if I'm on bed rest and/or that's the age to adopt from Korea. That being said.... we're just sort of relying on EBF to keep fertility away for now.

Originally Posted by Aka mommy

This made me teary eyed!

We are unsure. At times i'm done because i dont want to undergo another birth like this last one. But then at other times i think of our family and think that maybe there's still one more spot waiting to be filled. Who knows. It may be in the cards for us to finally adopt, something i've wanted to do for a long time and dh is fully on board!

We have 2 daughters and one surrodaughter.

That's so sweet that your SD was born on your birthday!

[racie0417]

We have two boys. I always wanted 3, and desparately want a daughter. With a high needs, now spirited ODS and a now high needs, reflux-y, colicy YDS, DH is talking about adopting a toddler in like 4 years.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by MelW

(as in we were talking about starting to TTC in a few months, but were only occasionally using birth control- so no big surprise).

That's actually how we ended up with DS... kind of an oops, but not at the same time.

I've always said I wanted to wait until each child is potty trained (or close to it) to start TTC...but surprises do happen

[smocklets]

We are happy with our four, this was probably our last baby. However, I think we said that after the last two as well, then we changed our minds

[Sasharna]

I think we're done having biological children. My first pregnancy was great, but my health during this last pregnancy wasn't good and nobody really knows why. In a way I'm grateful for the problems my body had because this has put DP and I on the same page regarding the number of children. Before this, I had always envisioned myself as the mother of a large family, whereas DP had always imagined raising only two children. Now we agree on a vasectomy--no more pregnancy for me.

It's still on my heart to adopt though, as it has been since childhood. DP doesn't feel quite as drawn to it (due to the number of kids, not the origin), but wants to play it by ear. We'll revisit the topic in a few years and see how we're doing.

[ShineliketheSon]

Originally Posted by bodhitree

Seriously, DH and I are considering stopping at one because we want to make sure that we are financially and emotionally able to care for whatever children we have. Looking realistically at our finances and our temperaments, one might be it for us.

You'll be amazed at how much things can change in 4 years! We said the same thing after our first and we actually did get out of CC debt just before dd2 was born, of course there is a bit on there now but it won't take long to get it gone... We are more financially stable with 2 than we were with 1. Just my experience.

As for us. We have two and two completes our family. We've both always said two, though I did teeter about this at 2 weeks PP just because she was growing too fast and the emotions of never having a newborn. But I think I'm one of those moms who would have that feeling even if I had 6 children! I was in a family of 4 and don't want to repeat that. DH was in a family of 2 and it works well.

Now with that said, so far we are not planning on doing anything permanent, we are still in our 20's. So careful condom use are our only BC. Though we did not get pregnant both times till we wanted and it took a year for DD2! So unless God has other plans for us we are complete with two beautiful girls!

This is why I am seriously loving on this baby sooo much more and not getting overly upset through the frustrating parts of babyhood. Also remembering William and Soren daily adds to my extra love, hugs, kisses, holding. I do what I have to around the house some...but my first priority is cuddling this babe and helping DD1. DH seems to understand this which is nice!

[Peony]

Undecided. We have 3, DH is saying he might be done, I want one more so obviously more discussion is needed. We've said for years now that we would have 3 and then decide after that one if we wanted to continue. After Julian, I truly don't feel done, but I understand why and where DH is coming from. Our first has some special needs, she is NOT an easy child, and her therapies that we are forced to pay for completely out of pocket are not cheap by any means. He is terrified of having to go through all this over again with another child, and how we could pay for the medical expenses. I have a feeling though that in about 3 years, he'd be more interested in another child, DD1 would be 9 by then should be doing better and hopefully the expenses will be much less.

[emmaegbert]

Originally Posted by FischK

And I will have to see if my job allows me to have more kids; I need to write a book soon to keep my position.

I have this issue too- I am hoping to be on the academic job market the year this baby turns 2, and if I get a tenure-track job then I have to get tenure (basically publish at book, right?) w/in 5-7 years. And by the time that happens I will be (pause while I do some math here....) 41-43. And thats if everything going perfectly, certainly not a sure thing. So, I don't know if any more bio kids are in the cards for us. Plus, its potentially hypocritical of me to keep having kids when I feel deeply that there are too many humans living on this planet as it is. The thing is, when I think of MY family, I feel differently... I like MY kids, yk?

DH and I have always said that if and when I ever get tenure we'd look at adopting- maybe siblings, foster-to-adopt, etc. Kids who need a stable home which we could finally actually provide. DH would like to be a work-out-of-home dad at that point, so things would be really different.

But. The day after this one was born we both looked at eachother and said, "maybe just one more?". The birth was so incredible, it was really inspiring. So, yeah, nothing permanent going on here regarding our fertility.

[ShineliketheSon]

Originally Posted by emmaegbert

I have this issue too- I am hoping to be on the academic job market the year this baby turns 2, and if I get a tenure-track job then I have to get tenure (basically publish at book, right?) .

I NEVER want to work again!!!! We are homeschooling, which will be my job! I was never a lucky one who liked their job. Though I may dabble in arts/crafts/scrapbooking and interior design (use my degree) sometime over the years but on my own terms!


Allready started packing up 0-3 mo clothes and other baby items won't be using for SIL, allready gave her all my maternity cloths (kept 2 for sentimental value!) So thinking we are concrete done!

[momma2be_k]

this is my first DH's 2nd.... I would like 3.... DH says that after 1 more baby we WILL have 3 kids. DSD is 11 - so while she's really helpful and loves her new little brother, they won't really grow up and play together. I grew up in a family of 3.... so that's where my desire for 3 comes from.

This all very much depends on how I feel after having 2... I might just want to stop!

I love being a mommy and deep down inside would like 4 maybe 5 - but DH would never ever even consider that. His mind is all wrapped up in the thought of college tuition... and I keep telling him we won't be able to afford college tuition for 1 kid.... so what does THAT matter? LOL

[ms.shell]

i doubt we are done. we have 2 boys, but this baby is dp's first. He really wants a girl, altho i would honestly rather have 3 boys. the only reason we might be done is because i am really scared of twins. we lost twins the year before this pregnancy and that puts us at high "risk" for conceiving twins again and this scares me badly, maybe enough to avoid conceiving altogether.

[IncaMama]

done - though we won't take any permanent action (vas. or tubes, etc) so you never know

we have 3. 1 son, 2 daughters

[goodmomma76]

undecided. this is #1 for dh, I have 3 now, 2 girls and a boy. dh jokingly said if this was a girl, we'd have to try for a boy. he hasn't mentioned it again since she's been here though. I thought I'd like at least one more (tho 6 sounded like a good number before i started having kids) but some days i don't know. so we're leaving the option open for now.

[fruitful womb]

Originally Posted by Lindsay1234

9?! Holy smokes! Well, I guess youre well on your way already!!!

ps. I think you should take a new pic withall 5 kids!!

Thats a good idea. I'll try taking one with all 5 sometimes this week.

[MI_Dawn]

Originally Posted by ShineliketheSon

Allready started packing up 0-3 mo clothes and other baby items won't be using for SIL, allready gave her all my maternity cloths (kept 2 for sentimental value!) So thinking we are concrete done!

Ha. I did that. Then two years later, we changed our minds and conceived William.

We'll try again... I'm hoping. :

[ShineliketheSon]

Originally Posted by MI_Dawn

Ha. I did that. Then two years later, we changed our minds and conceived William.

We'll try again... I'm hoping. :

I wonder about this everytime I give SIL something...Well okay I guess I can't say concrete done as we aren't doing anything permanant. I really think we are done, but who knows how I'll feel in say 7 years.

: for you

[daisyem]

I hope to have 1 more for a total of 4!

Or, maybe 2 more...

or 3??

[Jennbee]

I'm still undecided about having another one. We used to say that we wanted four children, but after having my 2nd c-section I'm undecided. I'm thinking that I need counselling after going through that again. I won't even be allowed to try and have another VBAC in Ontario...unless I go it alone at home.

We have 3 daughters and I sort of would like to have a boy...but I know I have no control over that.

[AmeliasMum]

Hmmm...Let's see, DH and I have have 2 kids under 3. In fact, DS was born almost to the minute on DD's 30 month birthday. Both born at home, unassisted, quick painless births. We want at least 6, more if we are so blessed. We can financially and emotionally handle a lot of kids, and we really like to TTC, LOL.

[mamato2boys]

We're officially done, Dh has a vascectomy two months before our little girl was born. She's our 4th and while I think a 5th would be sweet I'm totally happy and content with 4 and Dh was 100% sure he didn't want any more so here we are.