Advice about telling DH?

[chai]

DH and I were trying to conceive this cycle, so he wouldn't be disappointed that I'm pregnant, but he's been complaining about anxiety the past few days. He seems really stressed out. He hasn't been sleeping well. Seems like he's not coping with the scary facts of life too well at this moment. This happens to him occasionally and he seems to get over it eventually. Part of his current stress might be related to the fact that he needs to get a new job - the one he has isn't providing enough hours.

So, I was thinking I might just wait to tell him the news until I'm a bit further along... still feeling like the pregnancy isn't a sure thing yet. Maybe wait until he seems more relaxed? Is that crazy? I'm sure he'll ask at some point - when he notices I haven't gotten my period for a while.

[beccabus]

I would say wait to tell him. If this is a normal thing he goes through and you know there will be an end to his stress, it might be best to wait to share the good news. UNLESS you think that might put him back into a stress state? You know him best, but seeing as though it may be about a job, knowing that now he has anothe little one that he needs to be providing for, it may add to the stress.

Just my thoughts, you know him best, you'll know what to do! Good luck!

[MeepyCat]

I say that this is news to share as soon as you have it. Sorry he's stressed, but will it make it better for him to feel like you're not giving him the whole picture?

[boigrrrlwonder]

You know your husband best, but he could see this as wonderful news that may give him some happiness during a stressful time. He might also be hurt if you wait to tell him.

[chai]

Both really good points, and exactly why I posted the question! I feel, on the one hand, like I need to let him know ASAP. On the other hand I don't want to burden him with potentially more stress this early in the game. Such a quandary!

I will see a bunch of friends this evening and will want to tell them, so I'm thinking I better tell DH before them! He made an appointment with a therapist to talk about his anxiety, so I think he's going to be back on track soon. Maybe he can talk to the therapist about the new baby if he's stressed about it, too.

[chai]

Okay I told him and he was happy! He said it didn't stress him out. Whew!