I WON'T cave in...I WON'T cave in...

[MamieCole]

We have our first and hopefully only US scheduled for next week. DH and I both said early on that we want to wait until birth to find out gender, but now that it is approaching I am so afraid I will cave in. I mean, being RIGHT there, having the information at my fingertips...this is gonna be so hard for me mamas. If I can just make it through the US without caving in I know I will be able to make it the rest of the way just fine without knowing...but temptation is going to be calling my name when I am on that table and they ask "Do you want to know the sex?" DH is out of town at the moment...I am thinking and hoping that he will be strong enough for both of us. But I also know that he has a tendency to give me whatever I want, so if I REALLY want to cave I know he will give in.

Anyone else who is keeping gender a surprise having the same issue or I am the only one with weak self-control?

[Scalpel]

Keep strong if that is what you really want.....Ive heard people say its one of the only really truly surprises out there anymore. I myself am a control freak and must know!! LOL I have no backbone!!

[Youngfrankenstein]

Before I was ever pg, I swore I'd never want to know. I guess after being so close to the info, I was dying to know. For me, it never felt like it was taking away any excitement from the birth. Now that it's #4, dh is insisting and I agree. With no baby equipment whatsoever, I don't know what clothes to have!

Do what you feel comfortable doing. If you don't want to know, tell the US tech right when you get there. He or she will make you stick to your word. Just remember, they don't keep track of that in your chart so it's then or at the birth.

[Beppie]

I have a friend who found out the gender but then kept it a secret --- her DH didn't want to know the gender until the birth, and she managed to keep it a secret even from him! I don't know HOW she did that!!!

(they were both there at the ultrasound, I think he left the room when she asked the tech what the gender was.)

sorry, that story might not help you to keep your resolve.

[SilvanaRose]

DDC I'm probably no help to you but the way I see it is it's a surprise no matter when you find out. I'm sure you will keep it together though, as a pp said, just let them know right away

Cheers

[impromptukiss]

i hear ya! lol. we aren't finding out again this time, but last time we didn't find out, we passed on an u/s. we're having an u/s thins time and it will be hard!

[Mommy2Haley]

We're going to find out but keep it a secret from everyone else. Backwards, I guess, but I KNOW it's a boy and I need confirmation before I really start to bond with him as a boy.

[MommyMad]

Believe in yourself!! You won't cave in!

[southern mommy]

I totally agree that it's a surprise no matter when you find out. It's just a matter of when to find out. You could also have the u/s tech write the gender on a piece of paper and save it in case you want to find out later...although I don't think I could resist opening it.

[MamieCole]

Originally Posted by Beppie

I have a friend who found out the gender but then kept it a secret --- her DH didn't want to know the gender until the birth, and she managed to keep it a secret even from him! I don't know HOW she did that!!!

(they were both there at the ultrasound, I think he left the room when she asked the tech what the gender was.)

sorry, that story might not help you to keep your resolve.

I couldn't do it. I would surely slip with a he/she and ruin it for DH at some point before the birth.

Originally Posted by southern mommy

I totally agree that it's a surprise no matter when you find out. It's just a matter of when to find out. You could also have the u/s tech write the gender on a piece of paper and save it in case you want to find out later...although I don't think I could resist opening it.

I'd look before I got to the car.

NO willpower...I just gotta do like everyone has said and just. be. strong.

I'll make sure to tell the U/S tech right away. No temptation that way. Unless I change my mind. heh.