I think a lot of conclusions are being jumped to in *why* those who are concerned are concerned. So much of what you posted, SB, is just so way off in my own feelings on the subject I can't help but wonder where you are getting it.
No one has said children are not or should not be sexual. Again it is the level that is being discussed here and the multiple warning signs that even go beyond the sexual. Someone showing concern for a little girls sexual actions is not the same as viewing her as "ruined". How disgusting that would be! And the "well she was asking to be raped by wearing the mini skirt"? Seriously, where is this coming from?
I'm also getting it from the language people are using. Several people have said that she propositioned the OP's ds. Do you not see how loaded that is?? We don't even know what she meant when she said "sex", but we're assuming she meant the actual act, and then calling it a "proposition". Holy crap. This is all adult filters. The talk about her strutting and being seductive "like a stripper" is also part of it. These things are subjective. The only person in this thread who has ever set eyes on this child is the OP, yet people are going on about her over-sexualized behaviour.
|Again, in my home we are open about sex and the human body. Call me crazy but kids running around nude or pulling up their shirts/pulling down their pants is just not something to freak over. Currently my 2 youngest have taken to pulling apart their labias and making pee noises for a laugh at each other. Of course they haven't learned that company doesn't really want to see them running around doing that but they're kids! Speaking for myself to say I am "tut tut"ing the human body or am being too prudish or whatever is just downright hilarious. At least DH and I did have a good laugh over it.
No one is attacking this little girl or making her out to be the bad guy. We are concerned. And how is that a bad thing- being concerned for a child? I have freely admitted that abuse might not be involved at all (meaning sexual in nature as obviously her being charged with her 2 yo bro is neglect/abuse). I have said that I would not be surprised if this was all just learned from the TV and have discussed the greater issue of over-sexualization in our society. Really, I see our children as victims in this not as the "enemy". How bizare to blame a child...
I think there is too much of a generalization here. People are assuming that sense we are showing concern we are anti-sex in general. It's just not that black and white.
There's a really negative undercurrent in this thread, and it's not just aimed at our over-sexualized society. It's aimed at this little girl...the seductive, strutting, "miniature super model". There have always been people who have a more teasing and/or flirty kind of personality than others, and that can manifest in a very wide variety of ways.
Honestly, I'm feeling icky about letting dd out to play with the neighbour kids now. She's really into being "pretty" right now, and she's a stunning little girl. She likes to...preen, I guess is the right word. She's also quite comfortable with nudity, but at an age where she's playing with the taboo a little. She has a kind of flirty vibe when she's playing beauty queen. Apparently, that's enough to make people think we have a pervert loose in her life, or let her watch porn or something.