my son's 2 month appt is next week. he won't get any shots. his sister had one. I read more and never did anymore. I'd recommend the book "Vaccinations: A Thoughtful Parent's Guide" by Aviva Jill Romm to all of you (and your husbands). Its a very balanced book that both me and my best friend (who selectively and delayed vaxes) liked. If your husband won't read, then I think they get no say in the decision honestly.
Any pediatrician that makes threats of dropping you from their practice is completely unethical IMO. If I knew my pediatrician did that, I'd drop them first (even if I vaxed on schedule) simply on principle.
One of our neighbors is expecting and they have a nephew who is on the spectrum (after a very clear vaccine reaction). Their ped said they would be OK unless they chose to do no vaccines in which case they would need to find a new ped because the ped "wouldn't know how to treat them." They came away feeling like that was fair and reasonable. THAT MAKES NO SENSE WHATSOEVER. There was no specific vaccine she pushed or felt was key. So if they do polio they are OK? or what? Basically its a scare tactic and it gives you a sneak preview into what you're gonna get at each well child visit (pressure!). How would their child being unvaccinated make them not know how to treat them? Esp. if the vaccine isn't even specified.
My pediatrician is in favor of vaccination, but acknowledges that I'm the parent and I'm ultimately responsible for my children's health. He would never EVER threaten me.
The more I read, the less scared I am about the diseases. The only ones that scare me are pertussis and tetanus. Pertussis can be deadly under the age of 6 months and is still prevalent in society. However, it takes FIVE doses to get 66% effectiveness...which puts you well outside the "danger zone" of 6 months. It is also a highly reactive shot. The acellular pertussis was supposed to be less reactive than the DTP but reports are that it is still having issues. Tetanus is so incredibly rare and no one I know is up to date on their tetanus shot, but no one gets tetanus. And the stats on the tetanus shot are also pretty pitiful. If one of my kids ever gets a deep puncture wound that concerns me, I'll take them to the hospital for the immunoglobulin....which is the only thing that would stop tetanus in a short period of time. Yet, our protocol is giving the vaccine which is not short acting...and still tetanus is as rare as it is. So I'm not losing sleep over that.
FWIW, autism is not even my main motivating factor in making this choice, but rather the documented effects of vaccines on our immune system and health. The vaccine industry does not deny that the shots have increased allergies, asthma, arthritis, and so on. Kids today are just plain SICK. Chronic lifelong illness is not something I want to chance for my children to protect them from mild self limiting childhood diseases that do not scare me.
If you are hesitant, wait. You can't undo them, but you can read more. There is no "scientific reason" for the schedule as it is now. Peds will say this, but I'd ask for what that reason is. The blood brain barrier is not closed until 6 months, so science would seem to dictate that waiting until after 6 months is "scientific" yet they are giving shots for STDs (hep B) to newborns in the hospital. If you choose to wait, make a firm decision that you are not going to be pressured on the spot. I think pretty much all pediatrician offices allow you to come in whenever for "just a shot." You don't have to feel like its now or never. Its not a decision to be pushed into on the fly.