Last night my husband and I left our three boys with my mom for a few hours while we had a date. When we left, our older boys (Asher, age 4 1/2 and Micah, age 2 1/2) were playing with the hose. When they went inside they got cold, so while my mom went upstairs to get their clothes, she had them go outside to the deck where it was warm.
When my mom got downstairs, Asher had bit Micah on his penis enough to cause bruising and to break the skin. OUCH!!! My mom put Asher in time out and comforted Micah, who was obviously very upset. And then called us.
We've talked with the boys. Both of them say they were playing a "game", but I get the idea that the four year old initiated the game. He said it was something where he was going to do something to Micah, and then Micah was going to do something to him.
We took Micah to the pediatrican today to make sure his penis was okay. Besides the bruising and pain, he should be physically fine. Lots of baths and antibiotic cream for the next few days. Hopefully he won't remember this when he is older.
But her bigger concern (and mine) is what is going on for Asher that he had the idea to bite his brother's penis? The doctor said she's never seen this happen. I'm worried that Asher has been somehow exposed to something.
As we're trying to figure out what could have happened, I'm starting to worry about the last few months. He's been wetting his pants more, he's been more aggresive and rude, he's been taking out a lot on his little brother - most obviously biting the little man's parts. I'm not sure if it's normal, but when he draws pictures of people they always have a penis. He drew a picture last night of Micah with a penis that was red and swollen.
This is hard. I'm not sure what to do. I don't really trust the boys to play together alone. They sleep in the same room, but I'm not sure I can trust Asher. We are around many other families who have young boys and I can't imagine how terrible it would be if Asher did this to another little boy.
My gut says something must have happened. I don't know who, how, where, what. I have a friend who had a 5 year old who was invited to play "dog dog" - where one boy gives the other boy oral sex and then reciprocates. I hate to think about it, but wonder if Asher was exposed to something like this.
This was totally long. Any advice? Help? Thank you.
When my mom got downstairs, Asher had bit Micah on his penis enough to cause bruising and to break the skin. OUCH!!! My mom put Asher in time out and comforted Micah, who was obviously very upset. And then called us.
We've talked with the boys. Both of them say they were playing a "game", but I get the idea that the four year old initiated the game. He said it was something where he was going to do something to Micah, and then Micah was going to do something to him.
We took Micah to the pediatrican today to make sure his penis was okay. Besides the bruising and pain, he should be physically fine. Lots of baths and antibiotic cream for the next few days. Hopefully he won't remember this when he is older.
But her bigger concern (and mine) is what is going on for Asher that he had the idea to bite his brother's penis? The doctor said she's never seen this happen. I'm worried that Asher has been somehow exposed to something.
As we're trying to figure out what could have happened, I'm starting to worry about the last few months. He's been wetting his pants more, he's been more aggresive and rude, he's been taking out a lot on his little brother - most obviously biting the little man's parts. I'm not sure if it's normal, but when he draws pictures of people they always have a penis. He drew a picture last night of Micah with a penis that was red and swollen.
This is hard. I'm not sure what to do. I don't really trust the boys to play together alone. They sleep in the same room, but I'm not sure I can trust Asher. We are around many other families who have young boys and I can't imagine how terrible it would be if Asher did this to another little boy.
My gut says something must have happened. I don't know who, how, where, what. I have a friend who had a 5 year old who was invited to play "dog dog" - where one boy gives the other boy oral sex and then reciprocates. I hate to think about it, but wonder if Asher was exposed to something like this.
This was totally long. Any advice? Help? Thank you.
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I would think the doc could refer you to someone that can help sort through this.
i agree with finding him a play therapist. a really good therapist can do wonders for a kid who is working through something. my brother went to a play therapist for anxiety after we moved he was wetting the bed, having nightmares, afraid to be alone or go down the basement etc. and he isnt a talker so even though he was old enough for a regular therapist it would have been useless. the play therapist worked wonders though. he was great with my brother and really helped him work through all of his anxiety.. and as far as he remembers all they did was play cards 
