With out going into details a classmate of my DD and her little sister and going through some very difficult things. There very neglectfl and abusive mother is "back" and the courts have granted her permission to have the girls for the summer. There grandparents (on fathers side) are terrified but had to let them go..
SOme back ground
Mother they believe is bi polar but not medicated or offically diagnoised
when the girls were younger the mother would put them in a crib or play pen ALL day never changing them they often went days with no food while the mother would play video games smoke and drink. SHe'd often just pull a TV with a video up to there crib or pen and jsut let the video "entertain them for hours on end.. Every day at 6pm she put them to bed as in she took the put them into bed closed locked and went away. It wasn't even CIO CIO still assumes they will stop and learn to cope this was its 6pm I could care less its my time then she'd hit the video games and play all night and while her kids were awake and hungry ect at say 6 7am she'd be in a drrunken up all night coma soo it would be 2 pm or latter before the kids even got out. You can just imangine how this mom handled discipline
.. I shudder to think the oldest has so very real issues though because of it...
One day after she "seemed" better and she had moved "here" (AZ for another state) and her DH (who was over seas in the military during her deprressive state he only saw her manic where she'd over spend buying super large quanties of Shwans food and clothes. HE also thought its there mother how can he say anything
: (hes not off scott free in this)
Anyones she was here the girls were at the time 3 and 1 she took them over and asked grandma to watch them for a bit.... She never returned: Just abandoned them (father was in Afagastian)..... it all eventually led to the gradparents getting some kinda coustody (agreed with my the birth parents) and them divorcing.. For years (girls now 6 and 3) the mother has been allowed weekend supervised visits she has maybe 3 last Christmas she showed up showered the girls with gifts and took off : but now she wants them for the summer and when the grandparents protested (thousands of miles away since she moved form AZ back to NC) the courts said her parental rights were never terminated so she can..
So here they are there mother has claimed her "property" she is refusing to say when they will return just (I'll call) she wont say who will be watching the girls during the day (as she works)...
So anyways I ran into the grandmother and we were just talking now I know not everyone listening in knew the entire background and trust me when I say this is the VERY VERY cut version above) but I guess this one lady understood us to be venting about family members who go against our wishes.. And she said.
Oh gee I know what you must be feeling I let my mother watch my son (whom I got was maybe 7 said he was in second or going to??) and she let him eat hot dogs and those chocolate things with cream?? like the whole weekend.
...
Now don't get me wrong I totally understand the frustration with it (I did confirm there was no history of allergies they weren't vegan/veggie ect) I wouldn't want my child being fed Hot dogs and chocolate all weekend especially since mine wont touch eaither
.. BUt.... well it was hard holding back out true feelings. My friend is despertly praying that the worst is there mom will feeed them hot dogs cream filled chocolate and let them watch TV all summer. No shes worried she will take off again.. get drunk and have them in the car or in her way.. snap when shes realizes she can't just put a 6 and 3 year old in a crib when they bother her... Hot dogs are just not on the list of worries.
The other woman didn't know. She really did nothing wrong.. but it was really hard to hear.
Deanna
SOme back ground
Mother they believe is bi polar but not medicated or offically diagnoised
when the girls were younger the mother would put them in a crib or play pen ALL day never changing them they often went days with no food while the mother would play video games smoke and drink. SHe'd often just pull a TV with a video up to there crib or pen and jsut let the video "entertain them for hours on end.. Every day at 6pm she put them to bed as in she took the put them into bed closed locked and went away. It wasn't even CIO CIO still assumes they will stop and learn to cope this was its 6pm I could care less its my time then she'd hit the video games and play all night and while her kids were awake and hungry ect at say 6 7am she'd be in a drrunken up all night coma soo it would be 2 pm or latter before the kids even got out. You can just imangine how this mom handled discipline
.. I shudder to think the oldest has so very real issues though because of it...One day after she "seemed" better and she had moved "here" (AZ for another state) and her DH (who was over seas in the military during her deprressive state he only saw her manic where she'd over spend buying super large quanties of Shwans food and clothes. HE also thought its there mother how can he say anything
: (hes not off scott free in this)Anyones she was here the girls were at the time 3 and 1 she took them over and asked grandma to watch them for a bit.... She never returned
: Just abandoned them (father was in Afagastian)..... it all eventually led to the gradparents getting some kinda coustody (agreed with my the birth parents) and them divorcing.. For years (girls now 6 and 3) the mother has been allowed weekend supervised visits she has maybe 3 last Christmas she showed up showered the girls with gifts and took off : but now she wants them for the summer and when the grandparents protested (thousands of miles away since she moved form AZ back to NC) the courts said her parental rights were never terminated so she can..So here they are there mother has claimed her "property"
she is refusing to say when they will return just (I'll call) she wont say who will be watching the girls during the day (as she works)...So anyways I ran into the grandmother and we were just talking now I know not everyone listening in knew the entire background and trust me when I say this is the VERY VERY cut version above) but I guess this one lady understood us to be venting about family members who go against our wishes.. And she said.
Oh gee I know what you must be feeling I let my mother watch my son (whom I got was maybe 7 said he was in second or going to??) and she let him eat hot dogs and those chocolate things with cream?? like the whole weekend.
...Now don't get me wrong I totally understand the frustration with it (I did confirm there was no history of allergies they weren't vegan/veggie ect) I wouldn't want my child being fed Hot dogs and chocolate all weekend especially since mine wont touch eaither
.. BUt.... well it was hard holding back out true feelings. My friend is despertly praying that the worst is there mom will feeed them hot dogs cream filled chocolate and let them watch TV all summer. No shes worried she will take off again.. get drunk and have them in the car or in her way.. snap when shes realizes she can't just put a 6 and 3 year old in a crib when they bother her... Hot dogs are just not on the list of worries.The other woman didn't know.
She really did nothing wrong.. but it was really hard to hear.Deanna
