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My determined cat

post #1 of 12
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We have a 6 yr. old cat and every day, his main goal is to escape our house. He was always an indoor cat until a few years ago (when we lived with my parents for 6 months to save for our house), and there was no way to keep him in (my mom always has doors wide open). He really liked being outdoors. Really, really liked it.

We moved into our house almost 3 years ago and have always tried to keep him inside, but he's determined to go outside every day. He will meow at the back door almost all day long if he has to and there have been days when I'm really stressed (DH is gone 6 months of the yr, so it doesn't take much during those times) when I will just let him out to make it stop. I know that's the worst thing to do because it's rewarding bad behavior... but, I can't take it sometimes. I also feel bad, he seems miserable because he can't go have adventures outside- but I really don't want him to disappear.

The times that he does get out, he usually kills like, 3 creatures within minutes! The other day, the girls let him out on accident and he killed a butterfly and a lizard within 5 minutes in our back yard He's a smart guy (he's an Egyptian Mau, if that mkaes a diff. (we rescued him from a shelter and he turned out to be fancy, but I've heard these breeds are smart)) and knows when he hears the right words like if I tell the girls to "go play outside", he jumps down from wherever he is and comes running and crouches down like he's hiding from us and he's going to be real slick. It works occasionally and when he gets out, he's gone all day. Sometimes, if a door is slightly open and not latched, he figures out how to pull it open with his paws and escapes.

I really don't want him to go outside and I am and will do everything I can to keep him inside because I know that anything can happen to him- hit by a car, stolen, diseases, etc. He hasn't even lightened up after all these years of trying to keep him in. I feel really bad for him because it's obviously very much in his nature to be outdoors. I guess I'm venting more than anything, but has anybody ever had a cat this determined?
post #2 of 12
can you get a cat run for outside or cat fencing? Something so that he can go out but be safe?
post #3 of 12
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I've tried cat fencing, but we have a playhouse that cannot be moved in the back and he just jumps on it's roof and out of the yard. He also broke through the cat fence on one part of the fence that we put it on. We made it ourselves, so I guess that explains it, but we didn't want to spend the money on the stuff you can buy back then, and especially now since I don't think we'll be living here much longer. It worked for a few weeks until he figured out the weak spots The runner is a good idea, maybe I'll try that, thanks!
post #4 of 12
I had a cat who's first year was indoor/outdoor. I moved into an apartment, and she did not want to be kept in. I made her anyway, and then she bolted one day. She was gone 5 days! I had just made the flyers to hang up when she came home. She was again an indoor kitty, always miserable. She bolted again. Gone 4 or 5 days again. By the 4th or 5th time she did this, I let her go out. She never took off that long again. Until we moved, and she didn't like my housemates. She took off and was never seen again. I still miss her.

My new cat (three years later), Fin, wants out, but isn't real determined about it. He doesn't have a choice anyway.
post #5 of 12
Wow Avocado, you have a smart kitty

We squirt our cat with water when she is "bad" : Are you open to trying something like that?
post #6 of 12
I'm British which might colour my view (indoor only is considered cruel in England) but is it really fair to your cat to keep him cooped up if he is miserable? I know it extends a cat's life by decreasing certain risks, but isn't it about quality of life as well? Try putting a safety collar with a bell on him so his natural prey have a warning and can escape.
post #7 of 12
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Okay, so I tried the leash/harness thing. I got a harness and a long leash that is meant for dogs, but light enough so as to not weigh down the kitty. It has 2 clips on each end. I put him in the harness, which was snug because he's so big, but it fit- and I clipped the leash thing to the kids slide.

Well, he was lounging in the grass, soaking up the sun when something spooked him in the bushes and he ran so fast he snapped the leash! This thing is meant for dogs and it broke? Then I decided to tie it to another part of the yard and DD2 knocked over her drum set on the driveway, which spooked him and somehow he ran so fast this time that he popped out of his harness! So much for that...

Hillymum, is it normal in England to let your cats outdoors? Here in the US, it's the opposite. We recently adopted a kitten (this seems to have helped our cat to have a friend)) and they ask if you're going to let your cat outdoors and it's a trick question because if you say no, they will not adopt to you most of the time. I've had 2 cats hit by cars in the past. Also, one died of leukemia and 2 from FIP which are diseases that are transmitted from cat to cat... so I am trying to keep these kitties around longer than those other guys He's not completely miserable in the house, I may have exaggerated a bit. He's actually a very happy kitty, but he just really wants out. Bad.
post #8 of 12
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Originally Posted by hillymum View Post
I'm British which might colour my view (indoor only is considered cruel in England) but is it really fair to your cat to keep him cooped up if he is miserable? I know it extends a cat's life by decreasing certain risks, but isn't it about quality of life as well? Try putting a safety collar with a bell on him so his natural prey have a warning and can escape.
This is what I think, I have a cat like you describe and he goes outside. In my opinion his life is much better if he goes out even if it is shortened by some horrible event which I hope does not happen. I think it is abusive to essentially cage up animals that are desperate to go out (and I do understand some cats are fine inside only). I've read about the environmental issues and while I don't discount those entirely, I don't think it is the cat's burden, we do far more harm than a cat to our environment. I would let him out, but if you are really uncomfortable with that I guess you just have to deal with his unhappiness! Good luck, when I have had to keep mine in for one reason or another it has been really hard, cats are fast!
post #9 of 12
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I got him a break-away collar today with a tag. I'm going to let him out again and see what happens, he seems happier that way. Thanks for all of the advice!
post #10 of 12
Good luck, I know it is a little nerve wracking, but it sounds like he will be much happier. One thing you might try is feeding him something really, really delicious when he comes home. My cat loves fish, so we get this specialty fish food and give him a little hen he comes in. I do think it helps in keeping him close to home!
post #11 of 12
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So, he pranced in the door last night- sans collar. He is such a brat. I'm still going to let him out and hope for the best. Like I said, he seems happier that way. Geragirl, good idea-I do give him yummy treats every time he comes home and I think it definitely helps
post #12 of 12
Is he fixed?

Usually if a cat is fixed, he or she is far less likely to have the urge to wander.
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