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post #21 of 104
i wasn't allowed until i was 10--when i was sure i wanted to do it, and i could care for my ears myself. we will handle our dd the same.
post #22 of 104
I let my dd do it at six. I talked to her about the pain involved and this didn't stop her from wanting it done for months on end so we had it done. I had mine done when I was six as well.
post #23 of 104
11 or 12. I'm with the pp about the "rite of passage" thing. I remember having stick-on earrings for a long time. My parents let me in sixth grade and I remember it felt like a rite of passage.
post #24 of 104
We did dd's at age 5, the summer before she started school. She had expressed an interest for well over a year. She was capable of conprehending the process, and understood that they would need to heal after, but I did help her with them.

In fact, she's nearly 8, and I still do help her occasionally. She had one catch on something a couple months ago, and it injured the piercing, but I didn't catch it right away (I also didn't listen to her closely enough when she expressed that it was itchy- bad Mom moment!) She developed a pretty icky infection, and we had to do some cleaning and close followup for a couple weeks as that healed. I also changed her to small continuous hoops so there wasn't anywhere for the pus to collect while the infection was controlled. She isn't capable of doing everything herself yet, but she is capable of understanding and participating in the care, which is all I really expect.

She can change them herself, but will usually ask me to do it for her. All in all- it worked out well for us, and the one injury was the only bump we've had in the road in nearly 3 years.
post #25 of 104
When the ask and can prove they are responsible for the upkeep of having pierced ears.
post #26 of 104
Dd and I were talking about this just last weekend because I got a pair of earrings for my birthday (a late present).

I described the process and I asked HER when she thought kids were old enough to take care of pierced ears. Her answer: 16!

I think we'll allow it before 16 IF she wants. I was 10, and I think that 8-10 is a reasonable age to be able to care for your own ears.
post #27 of 104
My Grandmother did not get her ears pierced until I was about 15 years old, because it was not culturally exceptable to have them done when she was young. She finally decided she was ready but scared, and though she thought it hurt she was thrilled she finally got them done. My Mom had her's done by a Doctor (who got them crooked) when she was a teenager.

I started asking at 3 years old, my Mom made me wait though until I was 5 years old. I had to take care of them myself. When I proved myself she also gifted me a pair of real gold hoops, which seemed a HUGE deal at the time. I had no issues.

I am having a boy so I get to put this off for longer, but I still keep going back and forth between doing the piercing as an infant or until they ask, both have pros and cons for myself. But I do so agree with the PP who said that would not get their child's ears pierced at the Mall. I would NEVER do this. I have first hand seen the training and lack of hygeine, I would go to a piercer or Doctor only.
post #28 of 104
When they are able to take care of them themselves!
post #29 of 104
When they want it and when they can take care of it themselves.

I got mine done when I was 6. I probably wore earrings up through middle school and then I let them close. I got them re-pierced in college and now put in earrings every so often so my holes don't completely close again.
post #30 of 104
I guess I'm definitely in the minority here. I had both of my girls' done at about 5-6 months. Never had a real issue with either of them. My younger dd had one that got just barely infected, but I caught it early and it cleared up in a matter of days. I do make sure to either keep good gold or surgical steel in them at all times. Elise (she's 1) hasn't messed with her's at all yet. Audrey (6 y) has developed a tendency to fiddle with them....just as a nervous habit or something. I switched her's to hoops just so that she doesn't lose anymore earrings. lol
I think I was 4 or so when I had my ears done, and I remember it vividly. Neither of them will remember it.

Nicole

Nicole
post #31 of 104
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Originally Posted by Pirate Nicole View Post
I guess I'm definitely in the minority here. I had both of my girls' done at about 5-6 months. Never had a real issue with either of them. My younger dd had one that got just barely infected, but I caught it early and it cleared up in a matter of days. I do make sure to either keep good gold or surgical steel in them at all times. Elise (she's 1) hasn't messed with her's at all yet. Audrey (6 y) has developed a tendency to fiddle with them....just as a nervous habit or something. I switched her's to hoops just so that she doesn't lose anymore earrings. lol
I think I was 4 or so when I had my ears done, and I remember it vividly. Neither of them will remember it.

Nicole

Nicole
What is they grow up and decide they don't want them though? How would you handle that?
post #32 of 104
My DC were 6 months
post #33 of 104
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Originally Posted by mamatoablessing View Post
What is they grow up and decide they don't want them though? How would you handle that?
They take them out. I really only tend to wear them if I'm going out, or just feel like looking nicer. If I haven't been wearing them for about a week, you can't really even see the holes. No big deal.

Nicole
post #34 of 104
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Originally Posted by Amylcd View Post
What age would you allow this?
8 years.

I gave dd (9) the option starting at age 8 but so far she has not wanted to do it.
post #35 of 104
I'm glad to see the responses in this thread so far.

I'm a body piercer by trade, and I feel very strongly against piercing infants, much like I'm strongly opposed to circumcision- it's modifying the body of someone incapable of making that decision for themselves.

My rule here at the studio is that I'll pierce kids who are old enough to ask me with conviction, understand that it will hurt and be able to handle it (most kiddies can), and be capable of the simple aftercare that follows, and especially that they know that they need to keep their hands away from them.

The same rules will apply to my little girl if/when she decides that she wants her ears pierced
post #36 of 104
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If my dd's want their ears pierced we will use it as part of our coming of age ritual.
post #37 of 104
We had originally said age 13. Joy came up with reasons why she should have it done at age 11 so that's when she had it done. Included in her reasons was that she was old enough to take care of them. None of her reasons could be because everyone else had pierced ears. We will pay and sign for the first set of pierced ears. We will sign but not pay for up to 2 more sets. Anything after that, and for all other piercings and all tatoos, they have to wait until they are 18 and no longer need a parent signature. Erica and Angela were also between 11-12 when they had theirs done. So far, Dylan has been very definite on not wanting them.
post #38 of 104
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Originally Posted by mormontreehugger View Post
My mom said we could when we could prove that we would take care of our ears, and earrings, and keep things put away. I think I was 12 or 13. I'll probably just go for age 12, if I have daughters and if they're even interested. Sort of a coming-of-age ritual?
That was our reasons why we originally said age 13.
post #39 of 104

Holes in babies for fashion?

I personally have always been put off by babies and small children with pierced ears. It seems to be an extreme (almost barbaric) way of pushing fashion trends onto children. Why do children need this? And why would the expressed desire of a youngster matter in the decision of whether or not to have there ears pierced. Parenting should not be about offering a child all of what they desire. If the three year old wanted to dye their hair a different color, would that be considered, or wanted to alter their body somehow,(say, boob-job) would that be considered? Hopefully not. I think that if the child's desire is going to be taken into consideration for something such as altering there body, they should at least have a foot in the door of adulthood. Get them some stick on, or clip-on earrings to use with all of their other dress-up items.
post #40 of 104
I plan to wait until my DD (and future second DD) ask me to let them do it. That can be any age as long as I know they are ready for it. I should be able to tell if they are serious since I'm mom. My DD is 7 and so far she doesn't want to do it. I'm fine with that.
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