Originally Posted by journeymom
Just wanted to say that at Claires they did NOT use a reusable gun that could pass diseases to the next person. They use a disposable, one-time only gun kerchunk thing, like what Abarnes linked to, above. Just to clarify.
Dd happens to have an appointment for a physical at the ped's office coming up this week. I just got off the phone with them, they do not do ear piercing.
Same with the Claire's in our area. Little, one-time use thing that looks just like the one that was linked to.
My dd1 had one ear that had issues. She eventually couldn't get an earring through it. We went to the ped and she used a needle to fix it. Quick and easy, and we didn't have it heal and repierce it later. I'd do that again if ever she (or future kids who may have it done) needed it. I don't think they actually pierce ears there, but they did fix that issue for us.
Originally Posted by Storm Bride
I find the sentiment that the expressed desire of a child shouldn't matter when it comes to body alteration pretty strange. I think my child's desire about how she wants her body to be is more important than my own, yk?
Why is it strange? We are talking about kids making decisions about permanent body alteration. They aren't allowed to vote, drink, serve in the military, work - but they can decide to alter their bodies? It isn't what color they want the walls of their room or how long they'd like their hair.
My ears were first pierced at age 13 and grew back 'cause I didn't wear earrings enough. The marks were still on my ears six years later when I had them repierced. Those grew back too (same reason) and I still had marks on my ears when I had them repierced AGAIN at age 38. So I don't consider it the same as cutting your hair or even dying your hair.
I think it is my job to help them wait on major decisions (of which I consider body alteration of any permanent nature) until they are at least 18. A 14 year old might think a tattoo or nose or brow ring is a cool idea. That same kid at 16/18/20 who is trying to find a job might find that former decision to be problematic.
I'm not too worried about how my kids wear their hair, and I'm not going to go to the mat about makeup (or try not to anyway) as they are just phases and can easily be changed if necessary for the situation. But no ear piercing until they are 12 or other piercings or tattoos until they are 18 here.
And for me, some of it is a safety issue, some of it is a rite of passage/coming of age thing, some of it is that I find it unbecoming on babies/toddlers/young kids - very much like high heels really.
I think it is kind of neat to wait and wait and finally get old enough to (insert variety of things here). Have a sleepover, bike ride away from home without an adult, ears pierced, go to camp, drive, move out on your own. So many things that sound good often before they are a good idea. At least at my house. YMMV.