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post #81 of 104
I'm not a fan of infants with pierced ears, but I understand it's a cultural tradition for some, so to each their own. I wasn't allowed until I turned 13, and I remember begging my parents when i was younger, because it seemed like EVERYONE had their ears pierced but me.

I like the idea of it being a coming-of-age sort of ritual, if ther child wants it, of course.
post #82 of 104
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Originally Posted by lurable View Post
Slight hikjack--I would be interested to know how mama's feel who believe that on some level babies can remember trauma from birth and therefore, on some level, also remember the trauma of a piercing. My dd1 took 2 months to be able to nurse properly and I fully believed it had to do with the vigorous suctioning, among other things, during her birth. Is it just me or are their other people who don't agree with the- she's too young to remember the pain- idea.
We'll do it the painless way, my niece had it done a week after birth my mom is a dentist and has some strawberry flavor topical analgesic so she just put a little dab on the earlobe, and my niece didn't even notice.
post #83 of 104
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
Cinder...totally OT, but I just looked at the pics in your signature, and your little River is just incredibly adorable!!

I want this little one to arrive so badly now...babies are just so irresistible.
Thanks!

For what it's worth, at 2 1/2 my daughters reaction to getting her ears pierced was gasp, look in the mirror they let her hold to watch the piercing being done, and say "janelle is sooo pretty".
post #84 of 104
My daughter had her ears pierced when she turned four, it was for her birthday. She really wanted them.

As for babies, I see it as a "it's not neccesary, it's not my body, so it's not my choice" I have lot's of friends that pierce their babies, but it's just not for my babies.
post #85 of 104
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Originally Posted by *Louise* View Post
We'll do it the painless way, my niece had it done a week after birth my mom is a dentist and has some strawberry flavor topical analgesic so she just put a little dab on the earlobe, and my niece didn't even notice.
It's not just the pain of piercing, though. There's plenty of soreness afterwards. I have had my ears pierced 7 times, and my navel done too, and always there was soreness for days or even weeks afterwards.
post #86 of 104
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Originally Posted by lurable View Post
Slight hikjack--I would be interested to know how mama's feel who believe that on some level babies can remember trauma from birth and therefore, on some level, also remember the trauma of a piercing. My dd1 took 2 months to be able to nurse properly and I fully believed it had to do with the vigorous suctioning, among other things, during her birth. Is it just me or are their other people who don't agree with the- she's too young to remember the pain- idea.
I believe it. My DS had far too many heel pricks and needle-sticks in his first few weeks of life, in the NICU and in the ped's office. I still think that a lot of his early trouble with nursing and weight gain were related to that experience. And I wonder, sometimes, if some of the reputation baby boys have for being more "difficult" r "fussy" is related to residual circumcision trauma. But that's probably another story, for another thread, on another forum.
post #87 of 104
Wow... I guess I'm glad we did it with the gun and did it so early! Trauma? How horrible!! My two didn't even cry, there was no pain, they barely flinched (and that was from the noise, not the earring!). I feel so bad for those that went through trauma!

I remember having mine done at 12. But it wasn't a "mom and daughter" moment. I don't look at it that way, and my girls wouldn't either. There's going to be a gazillion of those that have meaning, not something as trivial as ear pearcing.

JMO, of course!
post #88 of 104
I'm on the "when she asks for it and can take care of them herself" boat - probably around 7 or 8?

I find babies with pierced ears look kind of .. inappropriate? Like it would look if you put lipstick on them or something.
post #89 of 104
I only read the first few pages of responses but wanted to add that I'm in the "when-they-ask-and-don't-forget-two-seconds-later" camp. I was shocked when my DD started asking shortly before her 3rd birthday. She didn't have any friends with earrings, though I have quite a few piercings. She asked every day. I explained the "rules" of earrings and also that getting pierced can be painful. It didn't deter her in the least. We went on her birthday and she was thrilled. (I had pretty much assumed they would do one ear and she'd never let them do the other...) I was surprised when they did the first one and she looked at it, smiled, and turned her head for the other one. She was very responsible about not touching them and letting me do the upkeep and cleaning. She still loves them and we have no regrets.

Anyway, I think every child is different. In my opinion, my DD and I made the right decision for her. Three is young to make a decision like that, but she was very sure and, a year later, she still loves them. Worked for us.
post #90 of 104
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Originally Posted by ell View Post

I find babies with pierced ears look kind of .. inappropriate? Like it would look if you put lipstick on them or something.
That pretty much sums up how I feel too.
post #91 of 104
In my culture, the baby girls get them done as close to birth as possible. I had mine done at 2 weeks old. My father and grandmother did it with a needle. They had a celebration, it was a big deal. My mom was really diligent about keeping the cleaned and turned and now 26 years later, they are still pierced though I don't often wear earrings. I can literally go two years with out earrings, and then try to put an earring in and it just slides in, they've never closed. My mom said I slept through the whole procedure, never waking, crying, or flinching. I always felt really proud of my pierced ears, and happy that they did it that young.

I will probably pierce my baby girl's ears after their born too.
post #92 of 104
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Originally Posted by ell View Post
I find babies with pierced ears look kind of .. inappropriate? Like it would look if you put lipstick on them or something.
Inappropriate's a good word. I've always just thought it looked strange, but inappropriate works, too.
post #93 of 104
I grew up in a family where piercing was expected for baby girls. It was always normal that babies get their ears pierced. It was a surprise for me to find out that it was a rite of passage for friends and I unexpectedly found that my DH was against it after we had our DD. She wanted her ears pierced before she was 2. He couldn't stand it. She finally talked him into it before she turned 5. It was a relief for both of us. It seemed like unnecessary tension. She thinks she should have had them done when she first wanted it. She now wants her ears double pierced...
post #94 of 104
If I have a girl next, whenever she is truly responsible enough to care properly for them. I got mine at 9 years, so I'm thinking at least that old.
post #95 of 104
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Originally Posted by Llyra View Post
It's not just the pain of piercing, though. There's plenty of soreness afterwards. I have had my ears pierced 7 times, and my navel done too, and always there was soreness for days or even weeks afterwards.
I think that's unusual. I've had my ears pierced 4 times... (all 4 times my mom "made" me or as per the last time 2 hours before my wedding, I just didn't want to fight it) the bottom holes 3 times, and a second hole once, and it never hurt for more than 2 seconds at the very most, definitely no soreness.

Strangely enough, I got my ears pierced at 8, let the grow closed about a year later, my mom made me get the re-pierced for 8th grade graduation, I let them grow closed like 2 weeks later, my mom made me get them re-pierced (and a second set of holes) for prom, I let them grow closed a month later, my mom begged me to get the pierced for my wedding, I took out the earrings that night, and they still haven't grown closed. but they are tiny holes you can barely see, so it doesn't bother me at all... I think it's stupid my mom thought piercing my ears was that big of a deal, and I'd never ever force a kid of mine to pierce their ears, but I wasn't traumatized by it, nor am I upset with her for it, it's just not a big deal.
post #96 of 104
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Originally Posted by Cinder View Post
I think that's unusual. I've had my ears pierced 4 times... (all 4 times my mom "made" me or as per the last time 2 hours before my wedding, I just didn't want to fight it) the bottom holes 3 times, and a second hole once, and it never hurt for more than 2 seconds at the very most, definitely no soreness.
My ears hurt for weeks when I had them done. My mom's hurt for about a week. My sister's hurt for about 2-3 days. Many of my friends said the same thing (and couple had basically no pain at all). It's not that unusual at all.

Mind you, I had the gun. The more I read about this, the more sure I am that I'm going to see if I can find a piercing studio for my kids, including ds1 if he goes ahead with getting his done. I don't know if he will or not.
post #97 of 104
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Originally Posted by Llyra View Post
It's not just the pain of piercing, though. There's plenty of soreness afterwards. I have had my ears pierced 7 times, and my navel done too, and always there was soreness for days or even weeks afterwards.
A babies skin heals incredibly faster than an adult my nice never experienced any discomfort
post #98 of 104
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Originally Posted by ell View Post
I find babies with pierced ears look kind of .. inappropriate? Like it would look if you put lipstick on them or something.
I agree. I'm sure in some cultures, it wouldn't - but the areas where I've lived it isn't common.

As to the pain of the piercing, I thought it hurt for just a second then my ears were just really hot. No pain at all after that initial piercing though.
post #99 of 104
In my family it is common/expected that you will pierce your daughter's ears as an infant or toddler at the latest. To be honest, I didn't give much thought to it before we had it done. She was four months old.

I regret it. I regretted it immediately. She was fine within a minute or so, but I felt ever so slightly traumatized that I had allowed it. If we have another child one day, we'll wait until she asks for it.
post #100 of 104
My DD is nearly 5 1/2 and asking pretty regularly. It was a big deal in our family that my mom made me and my sister wait until around 10, my mom got hers done at the same time as mine, my grandma never had them peireced. I think we are going to get DD's done around the time of her half birthday party this summer (near-holiday birthdays equal summer, half birthday parties in our house!). We are going to go to a piercer, not the mall, and get small hoops put in, not the sharp piercing studs.
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