Originally Posted by velochic
First of all not everyone is doing it. That's a ridiculous reason anyway. Would you vax, circumcise, spank, etc. just because "everyone" is doing it? We're not "doing it", so no, not everyone is.
Secondly, books almost always teach you something. I would no more let my dd read trash books (Junie B. Jones with the HORRIBLE grammar would fit into that category, IMO) than I would let her play video games.
Finally, addictions are NOT phases. They ruin lives. My niece has been addicted to video games since she got her first Nintendo 20 years ago.
uh oh. forgive me but i didnt clarify. what i meant by everyone doing it, is it is something almost everyone is doing it around dd. she is the only one in her class and even in her elementary school who is not doing this. how can i keep it from her and make it the forbidden fruit.
addictions at this age can be controlled. if my dd wants to play video games and i dont let her when she grows up she is going to go over to her friends house and play it. when she moves out and buys herself her own video game and gets addicted - i cannot stop that.
i would much rather have video games in my dd's life now and show her how to regulate herself, or give her the opportunity to regulate herself which i know she will do, rather than not allow something she reeeeeeaaaaaly wants and have her try to regulate it when she is 18 with all of the 18 stuff going on.
so yeah i dont buy the addiction thing. and i meant the addiction at this age can be a phase.
honestly how can addiction at this age not be a phase? parents are there to help them regulate. i feel so sad for your niece to throw away some of the fun years for addiction. addiction can be a deep rooted thing. do you think if she got her first video game at say 14 she would have been less addicted? or even if she bought it at 18 it would not have made her addictive? i dont know. i think addiction is a whole different ball game - just addiction by itself. there is so much more going on rather than just wanting to play video games.
but i try and think of all of this when i make my decision. esp. when i see my dd leaning towards a 'forbidden fruit' personality. in a sense by giving her the video game now i am taking the addiction out of her. and this is the right time for her - when she is really more into outdoor stuff, but wants to check out what the other stuff is all about. when i can monitor it, and help her regulate if she is having a problem.