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is it ever ok for toddler to be nude in public?

post #1 of 153
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WDYT? I was at a wedding this weekend that was on a public beach. It would have been unlawful to ask other people at the beach to move out of the way or not walk behind the ceremony. As a result, (and thanks to the good weather) there were a lot of people passing by and onlooking the ceremony. There was even a father (shirtless) playing frisbee at one point very close by with his daughter. (maybe age 10?) Nonetheless... while I was sitting there and looking at the ceremony and setting, I spotted something far down the beach... coming our way.... it looked like a little boy around my son's size walking with two ladies.... totally naked! I couldn't tell for sure at first... but sure enough... he was 100% nude. while they were gawking at the ceremony like people rubber necking in traffic looking at an accident, they just walked slower and slower right in front of our view behind the bride and groom exchanging vows.

WDYT? Not a big deal or NO WAY... there are perverts out there and everyone on the planet has a cel phone with a camera!!
post #2 of 153
The perverts will still be perverts if the boy had had clothes on. It's up to the parents and the toddler to decide if he wears clothes and no one else. I say no big deal.
post #3 of 153
I don't feel comfortable having my boys out in public and nude, however if it was another child I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'd say 2yo and under I'd be comfortable with.
post #4 of 153
I still let my 4 year old girl do it on public beaches in Hawaii if she wants to.

The only time someone has tried to photograph my child is when she was in a bathing suit - it turned out to be tourist creepy guys and I called the cops when they would not stop photographing her.

So yeah, on small beaches we go to often if she wants to take off her bathing suit - rock on girl! I'm not going to teach her to be ashamed of her body.
post #5 of 153
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The perverts will still be perverts if the boy had had clothes on. It's up to the parents and the toddler to decide if he wears clothes and no one else. I say no big deal.
I agree. My boy was almost always nude on the beach until he turned 2. But I'm from Europe, so my perspective might be a little different.
Also, I find it unfortunate that nude babies and shirtless guys were in the background of the bride and groom changing vows, but you said it was a public beach... so you can't really blame them.
post #6 of 153
If there is water than my boys will be naked, they are nearly 5 and 2.
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The perverts will still be perverts if the boy had had clothes on. It's up to the parents and the toddler to decide if he wears clothes and no one else. I say no big deal.
I totally agree! I also believe that perverts are very rare, most people are good and honest, and I'm not going to live in fear of people who might be perverts. . .I don't think there are enough of them to even think about. When we go to the beach (last minute) and don't have extra clothes our children strip and get in the water. . .*gasp* totally nude! Only in the last year has DD kept her panties on (but nothing else) when we go. Of course we live in Japan where nudity isn't too big of a deal (at my DS's school the children strip down to their undies to play in the sprinklers in the summer then all strip naked in front of each other and get dressed; at my DD's school, in the 2nd grade, the children all change into their swimsuits for swimming in the same room--boys and girls).
post #8 of 153
If the couple chose to get married on a public beach (sounds beautiful), then they have to accept people playing frisbee or being naked.... the "nakee" one could have been my DS or DD!
post #9 of 153
I wouldn't be comfortable with my own kids being naked in public at pretty much any age, but that's because I am incredibly paranoid about predators and perverts. However, if another parent is comfortable with it it doesn't bother me, I will just be looking around to make sure I don't notice anyone leering or taking photos without permission.
post #10 of 153
It would be pretty common here (Norway). Even splashing around in fountains downtown. ^^
post #11 of 153
No big deal! I have mostly insisited on bathing suits and sun shirts for protection from the sun but if DS wants to run aorund naked for a bit, no big deal. We always strip him down all the way to shower off the sand at the outdoor shower by the beach. DD stopped being naked in public around 4 IIRC, just a personal preference thing, it wouldn't phase me if I saw another child her age naked.
post #12 of 153
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I'd say 2yo and under I'd be comfortable with.
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I agree. My boy was almost always nude on the beach until he turned 2. But I'm from Europe, so my perspective might be a little different.
Why age 2? Why is it OK before then but somehow not OK after that second birthday?
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Why age 2? Why is it OK before then but somehow not OK after that second birthday?
For us, by next summer, ds had already turned 3. And when in Rome... If someone had made a rude comment on ds's nakedness at 2, he couldn't have cared less (I got some nasty looks, but no comments), but at 3, I started worrying about his self-esteem.
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I totally agree! I also believe that perverts are very rare, most people are good and honest, and I'm not going to live in fear of people who might be perverts. . .I don't think there are enough of them to even think about.
I respectfully disagree that they are "very rare." Every time I hear the stats on the frequency of little girls being sexually abused, I'm blown away by how often it happens.

My DD (and future children) will not be nude in 'public.' We'll teach them not to be ashamed of their bodies, but to recognize that not everyone has the right to see their private areas... JMO based on my own negative experiences as a child.
post #15 of 153
I personally always kept ds in a bathing suit simply because I realize we are in America, people have hang ups about nudity (even in very small children) and I don't want to make people uncomfortable. But at home, heck, he's still a nudist.

It certainly wouldn't bother me to see a naked toddler. I think if we were in many countries other than the US people wouldn't think twice about it either.
post #16 of 153
if there were not any perverts, i would be ok with it. but that combined with the attitude that people have with being nude makes me uncomfortable.

...he prances around nude in the house though.
post #17 of 153
I don't have a problem with kids being naked. Even if there is a pervert out there, I don't think their ability to see my naked kid is going to cause any harm. I'm right there, nothing can happen.

That said, if I was walking with my naked toddler on the beach and I saw a wedding, I'd probably whisk him away and clothe him just to be polite to the wedding couple.
post #18 of 153
Just because of other people's extreme reactions to my child being nude I would not let them run around completely naked on a public beach. But inside they are both (3 &1 yr olds) naked a lot and will stand naked at the window ect. I do EC with my 1 yr old so I pee her outside all the time and when I do so you can see her tush. Naked toddlers no big deal to me. But sadly the North American society does not seem to agree.
post #19 of 153
No big deal.
post #20 of 153
I wouldn't be comfortable with my own kids being out in public naked, but other families may feel differently.
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