My daughter is 3.5 and so not even a little bit potty trained. I don't know anyone IRL (or even online, really) who has a child as old as my daughter who isn't potty trained. In truth, most people I know had their kids trained between 2 and 2.5. She's so big and tall, diapers don't really fit well. We are about to have to start SPECIAL ORDERING diapers. She wants to take dance, swim, gymnastics, and try preschool and guess what? Yeah, you have to be potty trained for all of those. We're not around other kids that often but they have started to notice that she's still in a diaper.
Meanwhile, she won't even try. EVERY transition has been hard for her. NOTHING has ever been easy with this child. I'm so tired. She still doesn't get herself to sleep or sleep through the night (other things I don't know anyone in real life still struggling with and in truth, complaints I only see nere at mdc). Getting her to eat was always a battle, and now she is OVERweight. Getting her to take meds (reflux) was a nightmare. She resisted the sippy cup, she resisted learning to use a spoon and fork. I'm just so TIRED of fighting everything.
I have no idea what to do. She just flat won't use the toilet. ONE time she has peed because I got her up before she was really even awake and put her on the toilet. She stops what she's doing to pee and hides to poop. She can tell me when she's gone. She wakes up dry in the mornings. She has been showing these signs for 1.5 years and STILL she won't use the toilet. This morning ended with me just giving up and putting a diaper on her because we were both just cried out. She just will. not. go. She will pee and THEN tell me. She will poop and wait for me to figure it out. I will put her on the toilet and literally less than a minute later, she'll pee wherever she's sitting or standing.
I won't lie - it makes me ANGRY. I am just so effing tired of having to MAKE her do everything. If one more person tells me their story of "oh just, the day she turned two I told her big girls wear panties and that was it" or "when she was ready, she ASKED to go and there's never been an accident" I'm going to stab myself in the eye with the nearest pencil. I truly think she's just lazy.
She was the first to roll over, sit up, talk, crawl, walk, etc but anything external like using a sippy cup, eating at regular intervals, sleeping, using a spoon, etc - huge resistance. I'm just so over it.
Everyone around us thinks we're weirdos for the way we do things and frankly, my daughter isn't helping our case. I swear if I ever have another one, we are not doing this child-led business. I would never CIO or hardcore schedule feedings or anything (ever!) but I'm just so envious of my friends and family who just integrated their kids into their lives. They can put their kids in classes, they go to movies, they go out to eat, their marriages aren't in constant chaos because they're exhausted from lack of sleep or fighting over whatever currently isn't working. We have totally gone about this all wrong but I can't figure out where or what or how to get back on track. I am just so sad and so ANGRY at the people around me who somehow managed to get it right with their easy kids and their lives that really haven't changed at all. It's just not fair. And I know somewhere there's someone with a child who is sick or has acutal problems and they probably wouldn't mind giving me a good hard kick for being so whiney but everything is just so hard.
And my daughter just peed on the floor. Again. I am now out of clean panties for her.