Originally Posted by babymommy2
I didn't circumcise my children, because there was no reason to do it, but I do have friends who have. I can't imagine not befriending someone based on something like that, because the choices they make are their choices to make, not mine.
Uh... really? Why do you think it is a parent's perogative to remove part of an infant's genitals in an unnecessary cosmetic surgery that doesn't even include anesthetia? I call that a human rights violation. That baby's body belongs to HIM, not his parents. It's not even remotely okay. And it won't stop unless people speak up against it, rather than shrug their shoulders and say, "oh well, parent's choice."
I, like most people, become friends with others because we share common ground and can support each other in our lives. Seeing children as people with rights, feelings, integrity, and a need for connection is an essential to me. Actually, nothing is more important than that to me.
And yep, I lost some friends when I became a parent. It was hard and disappointing. And then I made some new ones. It's part of the normal process of growth.
Today, I'm very, very glad that I'm not wasting time on people who don't get my parenting. And that I don't have to explain to my child why Johnny's missing part of his penis, or why Rosie's crying but the people who love her are choosing to ignore it rather than give her comfort. I wouldn't want
to normalize those things for him.
As pps have said, the pain of dealing with other people's choices lessens as the kids grow older. It's much easier to be around the CIO crowd with a kid, rather than an infant. But I've also noticed a big, BIG correlation between the 4-5-6 year olds who CIO as babies and the ones who bully on the playground. Making me all the happier that I'm not friends with their mums, lol!