Hello!
My soon to be 7 year old ds has always dealt with his anger and frustration by yelling, hitting and pushing. Seriousely since he was like 2 years old. We have always problem solved, practiced, role played, etc etc etc. Yet, while it has greatly improved, it still happens fairly frequently. For example, I just took him home from the park where he has been playing with his homeschool group. Everything had been fine until someone sprayed him with a water gun. When he told the child to stop and the child didn't, he pushed the child to the ground. My ds is big for his age, has fiery red hair and really stands out, and unfortunately he also stands out because he is loud and often involved in some form of conflict. He is a lovely child at home. He is not mean. He just doesn't control himself when he is angry. He has taken a social skills class, but it didn't seem to help. He knows what to do he knows to ask an adult for help, but in the heat of the moment he doesn't do it. I just don't know what to do anymore. We homeschool and I can keep him home all the time but that isn't fair to his brother who at 4 is perfectly able to get along with others. It also doesn't feel fair to me. I need to get out of the house too. But he is starting to be labeled a bully, which he isn't, and he knows people think he is a bully and I hate that. I've thought about putting him in school for a break for me because I am so completely tired of processing not hitting, name calling, pushing etc with him. I'm tired of being embarrassed by his behavior, I'm tired of being the mom with "that son". I also don't want him to feel bad about himself, but I can't just accept that he cant control himself. There has to come a point where he must stop and think when a situation involves conflict. He has to do this at some point or he'll never be able to function like a regular person. If I didn't have another son who was mild mannered and lovely most of the time I would think I was the worst mom in the world because clearly I did something wrong to have a child who just can't get along with others, except in very limited kinds of interactions like trading POkemon cards, or playing video games. I should also say that ds is crazy smart, "gifted" if you want to use that label, and also has some undiagosed sensory stuff. He is a lovely, funny, kind, sweet child and I know I don't make him sound like that, but he is. He just can't deal with other kids in any sort of conflict situation and I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have a child like mine? Any advice? Help? Things that have worked for you? Much appreciated. (:
My soon to be 7 year old ds has always dealt with his anger and frustration by yelling, hitting and pushing. Seriousely since he was like 2 years old. We have always problem solved, practiced, role played, etc etc etc. Yet, while it has greatly improved, it still happens fairly frequently. For example, I just took him home from the park where he has been playing with his homeschool group. Everything had been fine until someone sprayed him with a water gun. When he told the child to stop and the child didn't, he pushed the child to the ground. My ds is big for his age, has fiery red hair and really stands out, and unfortunately he also stands out because he is loud and often involved in some form of conflict. He is a lovely child at home. He is not mean. He just doesn't control himself when he is angry. He has taken a social skills class, but it didn't seem to help. He knows what to do he knows to ask an adult for help, but in the heat of the moment he doesn't do it. I just don't know what to do anymore. We homeschool and I can keep him home all the time but that isn't fair to his brother who at 4 is perfectly able to get along with others. It also doesn't feel fair to me. I need to get out of the house too. But he is starting to be labeled a bully, which he isn't, and he knows people think he is a bully and I hate that. I've thought about putting him in school for a break for me because I am so completely tired of processing not hitting, name calling, pushing etc with him. I'm tired of being embarrassed by his behavior, I'm tired of being the mom with "that son". I also don't want him to feel bad about himself, but I can't just accept that he cant control himself. There has to come a point where he must stop and think when a situation involves conflict. He has to do this at some point or he'll never be able to function like a regular person. If I didn't have another son who was mild mannered and lovely most of the time I would think I was the worst mom in the world because clearly I did something wrong to have a child who just can't get along with others, except in very limited kinds of interactions like trading POkemon cards, or playing video games. I should also say that ds is crazy smart, "gifted" if you want to use that label, and also has some undiagosed sensory stuff. He is a lovely, funny, kind, sweet child and I know I don't make him sound like that, but he is. He just can't deal with other kids in any sort of conflict situation and I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have a child like mine? Any advice? Help? Things that have worked for you? Much appreciated. (:
