2 kids or more...baby shower?

[darcytrue]

Are you having a baby shower thrown for you? My sister wants to throw one for me and I asked her that it only be for family. I don't like the idea of a 3rd baby shower. The first one was thrown by my other sister almost fifteen years ago with our first child and was small, mostly family at that time. The second shower was given to us by a couple we knew at our church seven years ago and I wouldn't want to invite those same people again to a third. I didn't want to hurt my sisters feelings on the issue but I wish she would do something more like a meet the baby kind of thing. or should I just let it go and let her plan it as she wants? I'm embarrassed and bt/dt and I'm just not that in to it this time around.

[mkksmom]

I think I'd be honest with her (but sensitive to her feelings at the same time) or maybe ask her if people could bring food or diapers instead of other baby gifts.

[bu's mama]

My mom had one for my sil for their 4th. It was a surprise & pretty small. They had dinner at my mom's house & my mom told them if they did want to get something to get a pack of diapers. They didn't do the games, etc. It was more a low key, just the girls night.

It was a nice celebration & made my sil feel special even though she's been through this before.

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

i am pretty sure the ladies at church are having a small one for me either the end of july or the begining of august. hopefully not much later, as they do like the games (ou know the how much string will it take to go around the belly -type things) and i don't really care much for that one especially, lol.

[rockdoctor]

You could ask her to organize for people to bring you pre-made meals for the post-partum period. One of my friends had this done for her. Essentially, 14 people equals 14 meals (2 weeks) for your family. One a day and the person is to call before coming by and doesn't stay. She really loved this since there was always food around and she could concentrate on healing and care for a newborn.

[acemama]

What about a blessingway? http://www.blessingwaybook.com/ http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/blessi.../aa102202a.htm
I would love to have one of these It's a way to celebrate this baby/birth without the traditional baby shower.
Or you could have a diaper party or as already suggested have everyone bring a pre-made meal for post-partum.

[ChaoticMum]

Nope, but then I've never HAD a baby shower!

I would suggest a no gift thing - or a donation to the children's hospital or other charity locally.....and then have it a meet the baby thing like you suggested. I also like K and Melissa's idea about a premade meal as the 'gift'.

[guestmama9922]

baby showers are traditionally for first babies. Anything after that is really seen as grasping for gifts I'm afraid.
Some of the other ideas here are good, I'd just be honest and tell her you aren't into it.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by bu's mama

My mom had one for my sil for their 4th. It was a surprise & pretty small. They had dinner at my mom's house & my mom told them if they did want to get something to get a pack of diapers. They didn't do the games, etc. It was more a low key, just the girls night.

It was a nice celebration & made my sil feel special even though she's been through this before.

that sounds great. Sounds more up my alley this time around. I think my sister has atleast agreed to keep it to just immediate family and very closest friends.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by ChaoticMum

Nope, but then I've never HAD a baby shower!

really?

Originally Posted by ChaoticMum

I would suggest a no gift thing - or a donation to the children's hospital or other charity locally.....and then have it a meet the baby thing like you suggested. I also like K and Melissa's idea about a premade meal as the 'gift'.

These are great ideas. And I agree about the premade meals. We were part of a great church when we had our second child and we had food brought to us for the first two weeks after our DD was born. Someone would show up about every two or three days with a dish. It was so wonderful. In fact, I've done the same thing myself for others.

[sammyloo]

Every baby deserves to be celebrated! If someone asks really wants to bring something, ask for diapers or a frozen meal for after the birth!

[deymm]

I am HOPING someone throws me a shower!

This is my 2nd, but it's been 5 years. When our first was born, we lived 2000 miles away and never really had a proper shower. Now we live back in our hometown and are active in our church. We would love to share this with all of them and I'm pretty sure they want to share it all with us, especially after our loss last year.

I have to ask my mom if my sisters have anything in the works, otherwise I need to start figuring out how I'm going to acquire some things.

[ChaoticMum]

Originally Posted by darcytrue

really?

really....with our first, we moved away when our DD was 2wks old - and no one threw me one before as my Mum refused to partake in a shower til the baby was actually born - too superstitious that something would go wrong. Then we were gone two provinces over.

With my 2nd my Mum's group all gave me a gift at the same time, but it was a regularly scheduled playgroup day and that along with a small cake was all that was different.

My 3rd?? Hardly any acknowledgment of him at all - apparently the mum's group didn't do the same for 3rd babes as not everyone was going to HAVE a 3rd so it wasn't 'fair'.....


We are now back in MB, but I honestly don't expect anything this time either as we're in a new town and I don't know people all that well.

[deymm]

Originally Posted by deymm

I am HOPING someone throws me a shower!

This is my 2nd, but it's been 5 years. When our first was born, we lived 2000 miles away and never really had a proper shower. Now we live back in our hometown and are active in our church. We would love to share this with all of them and I'm pretty sure they want to share it all with us, especially after our loss last year.

I have to ask my mom if my sisters have anything in the works, otherwise I need to start figuring out how I'm going to acquire some things.

woohoo...just talked to my mom and she asked for a guest list! I'm SO glad this is happening!!!!

[~Laura~]

Never had a shower with three kids, but I LOVE spoling my friends with shower gifts when its their turn. I just hate having people buy us things.
I have never 'registered' either (for our wedding or babies), but I did make a registry this time so I could add up everything I wanted, and my mom has bought off of it.

That said, I agree that every baby should get a party! I wouldn't hesitate to bring a special gifts for a friend's third or fourth or fifth baby...

Laura

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by ChaoticMum

really....with our first, we moved away when our DD was 2wks old - and no one threw me one before as my Mum refused to partake in a shower til the baby was actually born - too superstitious that something would go wrong. Then we were gone two provinces over.

With my 2nd my Mum's group all gave me a gift at the same time, but it was a regularly scheduled playgroup day and that along with a small cake was all that was different.

My 3rd?? Hardly any acknowledgment of him at all - apparently the mum's group didn't do the same for 3rd babes as not everyone was going to HAVE a 3rd so it wasn't 'fair'.....


We are now back in MB, but I honestly don't expect anything this time either as we're in a new town and I don't know people all that well.

I'm sorry. I think it's good if all children can be celebrated in some way, whether it's before or after the birth, although I know it's not always going to happen.

[mamamia10]

Honestly I would love another shower
our first was a Jack and Jill and it was a blast!! no one has offered so I guess no second shower for me...it is not even about the stuff I have most of what I need it is more about the celebration of the impending birth of our son (and last child) again he gets the shaft {tear}

[hipmummy]

I have been to a few showers for third or fourth babies. Usually because there was a 5 or more year gap and they had already passed on their things. I would love to have another shower maybe a brunch with no gifts. I wish my family would throw one!

[ChaoticMum]

Originally Posted by darcytrue

I'm sorry. I think it's good if all children can be celebrated in some way, whether it's before or after the birth, although I know it's not always going to happen.

That's the part that I kinda regret - the celebrating. Not so much the gift giving. We have hardly received any gifts at all for our kids other than from our closest couple friends and my parents - I have no problems with that, but then like Laura said I ALWAYS love to spoil new babes in our friend groups!

Oh well! I enjoy and celebrate my babes and that's what matters!

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

Originally Posted by mamamia10

our first was a Jack and Jill and it was a blast!!

what's that?