2 kids or more...baby shower? - Page 2

[deymm]

Originally Posted by mom2tig99Nroo03

what's that?

Men and women, not just the women.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by mom2tig99Nroo03

what's that?

a couple's shower perhaps? Our second baby shower was for couples. It was much more fun than my first was.

[Beanjeepin]

I had a shower with #1, but #2 wasn't celebrated at all. I felt like he was totally ignored. I didn't want gifts, but I did want him acknowledged. Oh well.

This time I was informed DH's aunt wants to throw a shower since most of his family wasn't invited to #1's shower (I didn't know them at the time, really). I'm feeling greedy, but glad for it - DH has been out of work since the DAY we found out we were pregnant in January. :-( I have a list just because at first they were insisting they'd do it AFTER the babies come since we're not finding out sex before birth and they all want to get "cute clothes". I don't want to play pass the baby at the height of cold/flu season with newborn twins, so pointed out we need things like carseats (our infant seat expired last month) and some other things like meals that will be gender neutral - we have a lot of clothes already. Yes, it feels bossy, and we'd figure out how to get these things without a shower, but they did ask.

When we first found out it was twins at 20 weeks I said I was having a party, mid-Aug, no gifts just to celebrate the pregnancy and give me something to look forward to that wasn't the birth I was worried about. I figure I'll be huge and hot and need something to keep me going.

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

you might wanna have it a lil sooner since you are carrying twins mama. just a suggestion.

[KayleeZoo]

This is my 4th baby and I'm having a shower; probably 2. I really tried to discourage it because I feel like, FOR ME, it's asking for gifts from people who have already bought things for our previous babies. OTOH, I love to go to baby showers for people who are having their 2, 3, 4th, etc. baby I went to one a few years ago for someone's 7th baby- of course, it was the first girl after 6 boys- you should have seen all the pink clothes

DH and I feel like it's 100% our responsibility to provide the stuff our baby needs- we decided to get rid of all the baby clothes, gear, etc. and now it's up to us to buy it all again. Having a shower makes me feel like I'm saying, "Hey, we gave our stuff away and then got pg by accident- wanna help us buy it all again?" I wouldn't like that attending a shower for someone else, though, which makes no sense, I know!

The ladies that want to throw showers for me are really really excited and I am so touched that they want to celebrate this baby, even though she is the 4th. They've asked me to register, and I'm going to do it at Target and put small things on the registry, with one or 2 big things that people can go in together to purchase if they want to (Pack N Play and bouncer probably). My girls are so excited to go to the baby shower (they were too young to care when we had the shower for DS), so that part is going to be super fun.

[Beanjeepin]

Originally Posted by mom2tig99Nroo03

you might wanna have it a lil sooner since you are carrying twins mama. just a suggestion.

I'm not due until 9-30. 36 weeks is 9-2, so I "should" be somewhat safe still early to mid-Aug. Anything can happen, but I'm trying to think positive!

[lmclanahan]

I have four children, and am expecting our 5th Sept. 10th. Our fourth girl in a row. :-)

With my first two, I had two showers each. One with family, and one with work. Now, I am a homeschooling SAHM, and have not had a shower for the last two babies.
I still regret not doing *something* to celebrate those babies!! It doesn't feel right.
So, I was very excited to hear that my cousin is throwing a shower for me! She will handle the invitations and cake, and I will make the food and eat it, lol.
I did not anticipate this, so it is really nice. In my neck of the woods, even if you tell people no gifts, they will bring them anyway, lol. So, we are suggesting diapers or wipes, giftcards for WalMart/Target, money towards a new car seat, and gift certs for take-out places. I would *love* a purple punch Vera Bradley diaper bag, but only if needs are taken care of first. :-)

I know that some people see the shower as a thing only for first time moms, and it could be if it was only for gifts. I don't really *need* gifts, though. I have already bought newborn diapers, outfits, and Robeez (clearance or yard sales). The majority of my hand-me-downs are shot after three other girls, not even counting that they were probably handed down from someone else in the first place, lol. The only need is a car seat, and I can wait until the last minute to get one on sale.
This shower will be more about celebrating the new baby, and talking about baby stuff. Maybe a game or two if I can find one that isn't sappy, lol. I have the whole hat-wearing thing on tape from my first baby, 16 years ago!
This will be good friends/family enjoying some chicken salad and coffee and cake(possibly margaritas too, hmmm.) and chatting about our babies/children. What could be more special?? Just seeing all of these people together, there to welcome this baby, will be so emotional for me. We lost the last one at 12 weeks, and I never really cried/mourned. I think I am going to lose it when Alina (Elina?) is born.

Just my opinion,

Leocea

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by KayleeZoo

This is my 4th baby and I'm having a shower; probably 2. I really tried to discourage it because I feel like, FOR ME, it's asking for gifts from people who have already bought things for our previous babies. OTOH, I love to go to baby showers for people who are having their 2, 3, 4th, etc. baby I went to one a few years ago for someone's 7th baby- of course, it was the first girl after 6 boys- you should have seen all the pink clothes .

I'm like you. I love baby showers. I love wedding showers too. I like anything social basically, but especially love showers.

[Pinkbruise]

Originally Posted by acemama

What about a blessingway? http://www.blessingwaybook.com/ http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/blessi.../aa102202a.htm
I would love to have one of these It's a way to celebrate this baby/birth without the traditional baby shower.
Or you could have a diaper party or as already suggested have everyone bring a pre-made meal for post-partum.

This is what I was going to suggest.

We're expecting baby #2 and am having a blessing way. I'm only inviting mothers also (which is just so I don't have to invite my SIL!)