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post #1 of 31
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Help me out here. I'm learning how to take care of 2 yo dd's hair... (she's half African, she's got fabulous curls)
A few on here have mentioned using coconut oil? Are we talking instead of a leave in conditioner? The stuff I buy and cook with?
Use it on her wet hair just like the salon stuff? It's still easy to comb through?

I'm trying it as soon as I run out of my tube of regular salon-bought leave-in curly stuff.
post #2 of 31
I used it as conditioner with my youngest boy, but stopped because after a few hours he would start to smell "off". I used the regular oil, but I am curious too to see what others do.
post #3 of 31
Yogi Bhajan says we have it wrong in the west, he says Condition first and then Shampoo So work in some coconut oil, massage into the scalp really well then ideally sit out in the sun for a while- this is supposed to help hair grow as well. Then Shampoo out with a gentle shampoo (I make my own by brewing chamomile sun tea and then diluting it halfway to use as a shampoo rinse, have to store in the fridge though.)

mmmmmmm coconut babies
post #4 of 31
i have not had problems with coconut oil smelling off- it takes alot to make it go rancid. BUT i wouldnt reccomend using it in cool or cold temps, as the oil will harden and the hair becomes stiff. but here in texas right now it works great in DD's hair and has worked great in previous foster kiddo's hair.
post #5 of 31
I guess I use it in place or leave in conditioner or hair oil. I put it in DS's hair while it's wet after shampoo and conditioner or sometimes just on it's own to get tangles out and get his curls looking slick. I rub it into my hands and then on his hair, I never have trouble with it smelling at all and I never try to rinse it out. It will get hard in the cold if you put a lot on but if you don't use much it's not a problem (for me at least).
I use non food grade that I get at mountain rose herbs b/c it's waaay cheaper that way.
post #6 of 31
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hmmmmmmm well my coconut oil currently is semi-solid in jar. Some i had this winter was full-solid.

I don't know if that's what it will look like all the time LOL this is the first time I've had it around.

I hadn't thought of what might happen if I tried it in the winter here
post #7 of 31
Coconut oil is mostly solid at room temperature. At around 85-90 it turns to liquid. Below 65 and it's pretty rock hard. In cold weather I just scrape it out with my fingers and it melts really fast in my hands. No problems with it solidifying in his hair if I don't use a lot. Right now it's hot here so it's liquid that I just dip my fingertips in and spread on my hand before working into his hair.
post #8 of 31
Thanks for this thread! I have started using coconut oil as lotion and it works wonders for my dry sensitive skin :
post #9 of 31
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Originally Posted by peaceful_mama View Post
Help me out here. I'm learning how to take care of 2 yo dd's hair... (she's half African, she's got fabulous curls)
A few on here have mentioned using coconut oil? Are we talking instead of a leave in conditioner? The stuff I buy and cook with?
Use it on her wet hair just like the salon stuff? It's still easy to comb through?

I'm trying it as soon as I run out of my tube of regular salon-bought leave-in curly stuff.
Hi, I have recommended it a couple times because it's great. The jar I have actually says on it to use it to cook with and and oil hair and skin .

I actually use it to oil my hair because black hair (pic in siggy) needs oil so no I am not using it as a leave in conditioner. I actually leave a small amount of regular conditoner(herbal essences) in my hair so it stays a little moisturized (that makes the hair curly too!!).

You can use it on wet hair but I part my hair and put in on my actual scalp and do this throughout my head, massage it in and then brush through. I honestly don't like putting it straight onto my hair because I feel like oil gets every where so just brushing it through gets it everywhere. Let me know if you have anymore questions.
post #10 of 31
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so DON'T use it like a leave in cond.

Is it going to help me be able to brush through her hair? Or am I going to need something else to make that happen?

the poor girl while I've been on my learning curve, she's developed a complete aversion to having her hair messed with at all....we're working on it. (she likes "piggytails" but does not want me to wash or brush it)

Needs oil? I don't *think* she "needs" it. How do I know if she "needs" it?

I'm just getting used to the idea that she does not "need" her hair washed more than once a week!

So here is another hair-care question......if you are only supposed to shampoo every 4 to 7 days....what do you do about the food mess? The sand from the park? Do I just wet, condition, brush??

it's truly a foreign concept to me NOT to wash hair every couple days....
post #11 of 31
I use it in my hair on a pretty regular basis. I wash, then use some oil, then wash it out, THEN condition. I have also been known to use a tiny amount after getting out of the shower as a leave-in if my hair is really in need of it. I've never had a problem with it going 'off'.

I have a TON of hair that's coarse, curly, and hard to manage. Honestly, it's right up there with a horse's mane.... *sigh*.

Without the coconut oil it tends to be pretty unmanageable. When I use it regualrly though, my hair is much easier to comb through. Yes, comb- trying to get a brush through my hair is awful- it really hurts! A wide-toothed comb when it's wet is about as far as I can go, then I let it dry naturally. If I did use coconut oil, I don't even need to use product in my hair and I get amazing curls. If I didn't use coconut oil, I need to use something with silicone in it to coat the hair shaft to make combing through possible.
post #12 of 31
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so DON'T use it like a leave in cond.
As I said I am 100% black. Oiling the hair is different from a leave in because I can do a leave in AND oil my hair with the coconut oil.
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Is it going to help me be able to brush through her hair? Or am I going to need something else to make that happen?
To help with getting through her hair make sure it is WET!!! It is HORRIBLE and HURTS when you comb through it dry. So when you are washing her hair:
1.put her hair in four sections
2.completely wet it
3.put a lot of conditioner throughout it (as you do each section)
4. use a WIDE TOOTH comb and start from the ends and comb up towards her scalp
5. style while it is wet.
I promise it works because the conditioner makes the hair slippery so gently combing will untangle it. Also each night either braid or plait her hair so it won't get tangled throughout the night. then you can take the plaits out and you have crinkely pig tails!!

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the poor girl while I've been on my learning curve, she's developed a complete aversion to having her hair messed with at all....we're working on it. (she likes "piggytails" but does not want me to wash or brush it)
Just do what I said above and she shouldn't notice while in the tub. My friend also does her daughter(26 months) hair when she is sleep.
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Needs oil? I don't *think* she "needs" it. How do I know if she "needs" it?
black hair needs it because our hair does not make oil as much other ethnicities, which is why we don't wash it as much. So oiling her SCALP every 2-3 days then brushing it after should be fine.
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I'm just getting used to the idea that she does not "need" her hair washed more than once a week!
So here is another hair-care question......if you are only supposed to shampoo every 4 to 7 days....what do you do about the food mess? The sand from the park? Do I just wet, condition, brush??
Washing every week seems like enough BUT if it gets dirty it is fine to wash it just make sure you keep it moisturized and oil it after. What kind of shampoo do you use for her hair?
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it's truly a foreign concept to me NOT to wash hair every couple days....
I understand because it was foreign to me when my white friends told me they wash their hair everyday . I personally wet my hair everyday and put a small amount of conditioner it in everyday and leave it in. Every week I wash/scrub with Dr. Bronners peppermint soap as a shampoo and start all over again. I use Dr. Bronners because it is all natural and has NO SLS(sodium laureth sulfate) and it doesn't dry my hair out. Maybe that can work for your household because its a body wash too.
post #13 of 31
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Originally Posted by RasJi7 View Post
mmmmmmm coconut babies
i use 100% pure organic coconut oil/butter on my dd's scalp and it does not smell a bit! the scent is neutral.

its funny because she realized that i use the same butter on her hair/scalp that i use as a spread on her sandwich so i had to explain to her why that is....
post #14 of 31
I love coconut oil and have yet to have it smell off, but then again I wash(with conditioner) my hair every single day, then apply a homemade mixture that is 50% cocnut oil and then Kinky Curly Curling Custard for shine and hold.

Coconut oil is awesome and inexpensive. Not heavy, not too light, just right!
post #15 of 31
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As I said I am 100% black. Oiling the hair is different from a leave in because I can do a leave in AND oil my hair with the coconut oil.

To help with getting through her hair make sure it is WET!!! It is HORRIBLE and HURTS when you comb through it dry. So when you are washing her hair:
1.put her hair in four sections
2.completely wet it
3.put a lot of conditioner throughout it (as you do each section)
4. use a WIDE TOOTH comb and start from the ends and comb up towards her scalp
5. style while it is wet.
I promise it works because the conditioner makes the hair slippery so gently combing will untangle it. Also each night either braid or plait her hair so it won't get tangled throughout the night. then you can take the plaits out and you have crinkely pig tails!!
I had the wet part figured out. I've started doing it only in or immediately after the tub because she doesn't like the spray bottle method of wetting her hair.
I bought two new brushes this week, one recommended by tightlycurly.com, a Denman, which I don't like probably because it is a straight one and I prefer the larger rounded.
The other is a "looper" it says on it. Bought it at a beauty supply store, it has loops and is meant for extensions, but the lady said she has some moms come in saying it's the only thing their kids will let them use. DD prefers this one.

I also started using more leave in product, right now I am using a tube of Biolage stuff we bought when she was a year old LOL (it's a BIG tube and she used to obviously have far less hair)

I go back and forth on comb versus brush...I do have a wide tooth comb I was using for awhile, I might try it again. also the sections.


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Just do what I said above and she shouldn't notice while in the tub. My friend also does her daughter(26 months) hair when she is sleep.
if it was my son, well, either of them I think I think I would try the sleep. DD however is just like her dad, lighter sleeper and if she gets woke up she can't fall back asleep for a long time.

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black hair needs it because our hair does not make oil as much other ethnicities, which is why we don't wash it as much. So oiling her SCALP every 2-3 days then brushing it after should be fine.

Washing every week seems like enough BUT if it gets dirty it is fine to wash it just make sure you keep it moisturized and oil it after. What kind of shampoo do you use for her hair?
I just switched. I was using a Loreal kids 2 in 1 stuff I got because we used it at a friend's and it seemed to work well. When I was at the beauty store I bought a separate shampoo and conditioner called "Silken Child" it was what she recommended for 'ethnic kids' (her word) and $7 for both. It has shea butter in the ingredients. It also seems to work well. (at $7 for both versus a whole lot more for Mixed Chicks online....couldn't argue with trying it)

The other thing I don't do anymore to either of us is pile the hair when shampooing like on the commercials. Even with my hair this makes it much less tangled, easier to work with.

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I understand because it was foreign to me when my white friends told me they wash their hair everyday . I personally wet my hair everyday and put a small amount of conditioner it in everyday and leave it in. Every week I wash/scrub with Dr. Bronners peppermint soap as a shampoo and start all over again. I use Dr. Bronners because it is all natural and has NO SLS(sodium laureth sulfate) and it doesn't dry my hair out. Maybe that can work for your household because its a body wash too.
I may have to try it again. I used it when ds1 was a baby (the baby stuff not the peppermint though) and quit when I got it in his eyes accidentally one time. (he had the most hair as a baby, he had his first haircut at 5 months old!) since he is a boy though and by his choice his dad cuts his real short, so his is easy to take care of! (he will actually ask for it to be cut again when his sister can pull it )
I'm better at rinsing now and (this week anyway, ) dd likes putting her head under the faucet while it's running to fill the tub to wash her hair. great way to avoid the eyes.
post #16 of 31
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I have my hair care solution!

We took a mini-vacation this weekend to DH's aunt's and one of her friends braided DD's hair for me. Took an entire like 5 minutes (Well she had just gotten out of the tub so it had been conditioned and combed) and she looks GORGEOUS, I don't know how she did it because like I've said, I can braid MY hair, but I can't braid DD's, it just does not turn out right!

of course it doesn't help that for ME dd screams and moves and fights it, for this woman she stood there and let her do it, moved to my lap for the last two braids. and of course this is someone who's been doing this for her two girls and has far more experience with it than I do

I told DH we will just have to move there. (an idea I actually really like anyway as we all love Dh's auntie and the community there. I actually understood enough of their Arabic conversation this weekend to figure out she was telling him all the benefits of living there, and I talked the idea up all the way home )
post #17 of 31
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Coconut oil is awesome and inexpensive.

really? thats interesting.
here in germany coconut oil is quiet expensive! for a shmall bottle of 200g (= 7 ounce) 100% organic coconut oil we pay around 6 euro (= ca. 8 us-$).
post #18 of 31
i have loved coconut oil on my hair all my life. maybe that explains my undying love of pina colodas as well. but seriously, it is abundant at black beauty supply stores. thankfully, i live in an urban area and can't go too far without crossing a beauty supply store.
post #19 of 31
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that's what I need to find here a black beauty supply store....though I've wondered if people would wonder what *I* was doing in there...and I can't send DH as he would not know what to buy for her....he's 100% black, what works on his hair does not work at all for the kids! What he uses is 'too much' for their hair.

(I know, I tried his stuff on DS once when he was about 20ish months and hadn't had a haircut for awhile. Let's just say it did not go well.)
post #20 of 31
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Originally Posted by peaceful_mama View Post
that's what I need to find here a black beauty supply store....though I've wondered if people would wonder what *I* was doing in there...and I can't send DH as he would not know what to buy for her....
you shouldnt worry about what other people may think, everybody can go into that store, no matter what colour your skin has.

if i worried all the time i would never have the time to go on with my life
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