Originally Posted by Just Elsa
Does anyone else get really irritated by people who think you should be wildly grateful for whatever the non-custodial does right? I just got told by a third party that rather than being annoyed that the CS is LATE because he forgot the new schedule he asked for for his convenience I should "be grateful he sends it at all." It's like when people tell me I'm "lucky he babysits." Umm... hello? Isn't this allegedly his kid too?
(Note: It's NOT the non-custodial telling me to be grateful. He's kind of a foob at times, but better than that.)
I agree with you.
I also agree that single parents should protect themselves and their children by creating a situation in which child support is gravy, not a budgetary necessity. And I know that this doesn't happen overnight! It's going to take me, personally, several years.
And I also know that when I approach situations from a "gratitude" perspective, I am a happier person.
This doesn't mean grovelling, pathetic gratitude for crumbs, or celebrating someone who gives so much less than he "should." It's just something that goes on in my head.
One of the most difficult things about dealing with my ex is that he does not see what he has, but complains constantly about what he wants but doesn't have. What he has is apparently an entitlement and what he doesn't must be a punishment. I'm grateful
that I'm not banging my head against that wall anymore.
I hope this didn't come out like a lecture. And believe me, I vent about the injustices between us as supposed co-parents. Now I feel grateful to have people who let me complain without chastising me for it.