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post #21 of 50
DH has to use his vacation time, and unfortunately he's already used up a whole lot of it for all my new doctors appointments, and he's going to have to take a day off for my surgery next week. So he will be taking 2-3 days off paid. Hopefully he can work from home for another day or two so we get a whole week, but if it's a weekend baby then it will be fine. We can't really afford for him to take any unpaid time off unfortunately
post #22 of 50
I'm not sure. My husband has some vacation time but it really depends on what is going on in the office. His pay is mostly commission, so if he isn't there selling it is going to effect our income regardless of his 'paid' time off.

He'll probably take a few days off, for sure, and then go back 1/2 days to put out fires for a few more. It really depends on how I feel, and if we have family available and willing to come over and help me out during the first week or so.
post #23 of 50
Initially he was going to take 2 weeks off, but since he has been laid off for the past two weeks who knows. He will at least be home for the first week, my mom will take some time the week after that and some of my friends are going to take the girls off my hands and deliver meals the next few weeks after that.
post #24 of 50
My DH works for a small company that has a "take off time if you need it" philosophy, which sounds OK in theory but no one really takes off time...so DH doesn't want to be the only one (he's only worked there 6 mo). There has been one family that had a baby since he started working for the company and the husband took off the day his wife had the baby and was at work the next day! So I am not sure if the policy is a real policy or just lip service.

DH was a grad student with both our DDs and he took at least 2 weeks. With DD2 he even worked half-time at night for a month when my maternity leave was over because we didn't have daycare right away. He loved the "alone time" he had with her and she is definitely still a daddy's girl. Now that I am not working, transitioning to our third child is going to be different for all of us.
post #25 of 50
My DH is a professor so he has the summers off anyway. He is scheduled to go back to teach at the end of July, and his university gave him a light load for the Fall knowing he was going to be a new dad...so I am in a pretty good position I think.
post #26 of 50
DH actually has TONS of vacation time saved up (we're talking about 8 weeks worth) so he will take 1-2 weeks off depending on how we are both feeling. He gets really nervous when he is home for 'no reason'... now I know he will feel different with a new baby but we'll see. When we had our daughter he didn't get ANY time off except the day she was born (and with that he came over to the hospital after he got off work... so it was the next day he had off). Anyhow, we are very fluid on our plan right now.
post #27 of 50
My husband works for himself, so he could theoretically take however long he wants... but after a couple days he has to pay someone to be there in his place. So he will probably take a couple days totally off, then pay someone else for a couple days, then keep that person on to help him for a couple more days after that.

He works from home, so even when he is working, he will still technically be home with me. We also have two friends who will be staying with us for a week or 2 after the birth (depending on when baby comes) so we'll have that help, too.

With this one being #4, I know there's no way I'd be up for new baby and three other young kids on my own, so I am really grateful to have my husband working from home and we worked hard to bring in as much help as we can for the first couple weeks at least.
post #28 of 50
DH had the option of taking 3 months at 1/2 pay, 2 at 3/4 pay, or 1 month at full pay. We decided to do the one month. He has a second job in the middle of the night 3 days/week, and he'll probably go back to that fairly quickly. It will probably depend on how well DS1 is sleeping when the baby arrives.

We are lucky that DH can take off so much time, but I have a feeling that I will be more than ready for him to go back to work when the month is up.
post #29 of 50
for as few months this spring, my dh's company hit some really slow times, and they cut down on hours- forcing everyone to use a day of vacation a week for several weeks. Agh. We didn't know how long that was going to last, and at that point he had exactly enough PTO to use one day a week until the baby's due date. I was freaked out! Luckily, things picked up and that only lasted for about 6 weeks or so (but still 6 weeks! That's over a week off after the baby comes!). We had orginally wanted him to take off 2 weeks when the baby comes, but it looks like it's just going to be one week now, so that we can still go visit his family for Thanksgiving this year (it's our "vacation").

So, long story short: 1 week.
post #30 of 50
DH is trying to save up vacation time. We are hoping for a week.
post #31 of 50
DH is on salary and works with youth- so he doesn't do a TON in the summer. He is gone for the next 2 weeks speaking at a summer camp, and then he leaves to take the kids to Colorado for a week on August 8th (did I mention our 5 yr anniversary is Aug 7th....). So I'll be alone with a newborn and toddler in early August. I'm due July 19th, so I'm HOPING he comes a little sooner so I am more into my routine before I'm completely on my own.
post #32 of 50
I'm so sad for all you mommas!
DH is taking 35 weeks paid paternity leave from the government, everbody can get it here. He also has the option of working 40% of his normal hours on top of that. IF he doesn't work we are short only about $200 a paycheck. But if he does He'll easily make about $400 more than usual giving us a chance to catch up on bills that we otherwise wouldn't be able to pay.

It's really sad here because alot of dad's don't take paternity leave, and even moms don't take their maternity(Yes they are different and both pay out to families, however I don't work so I don't get my maternity leave, they are both set up through our countries employment insurance). DH's work is trying to give him a really hard time and tell he that men around here don't do that, but DH is godd at telling them that's why their families are all grown and screwed up, because they are, lol.

I love my Dh and can't wait for this babe to come and for our time to start.:
post #33 of 50
My DH works for a company that has decent benefits and actually gets 2 weeks paid paternity leave, so that's what we'll be doing.
post #34 of 50
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Originally Posted by Chronic Chrissy View Post
I'm so sad for all you mommas!
DH is taking 35 weeks paid paternity leave from the government
I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.
post #35 of 50
in cali where we live, everyone gets paid family leave. it pays 55% of your average income for 6 weeks. dh is taking off the first week, then he will work only when ds is at preschool 18 hours a week for the second week. after that, well see how it goes. he just got a promotion and i think they expect him to not take time off now that hes a supervisor, but he has been clear that our family needs come first.
post #36 of 50
Dh gets 4 weeks pain (in full) off. Last time I needed him to help with ds1, so with 2 ds's now I'm sure he'll be busy. The last week and a half I sent him doing chores around the house/yard so I could gradually ease into mothering without him. It worked well.
post #37 of 50
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Originally Posted by gossamerwindweb View Post
I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.
Yeah, my husband would jump off a bridge. He LOVES his job and plans to do it forever. Taking that much time off...he would not know what to do with himself. He would channel that boredom into driving me crazy.
post #38 of 50
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Originally Posted by gossamerwindweb View Post
I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.
Yeah I figured too but we've been saving up lots of projects for him and DD to do around the house while I'm with DS. He's actually been looking forward to this for a while. He's a small guy who works on huge machines so his body is in desprate need of the rest after working so hard and not taking the time to heal for 5 years. I really think that we are going to really enjoy having eachother around alot, so long as there is lots of stuff to do, otherwise I'll send him back to work
post #39 of 50
My husband will take one week off. He is working at a new place so has no vacation time yet. He does have 3 sick days so we will get that then 2 days would be unpaid.

I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together I envy you Chronic Chrissy!
post #40 of 50
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Originally Posted by Amberoxy View Post
I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together
I'm with you!
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